im a parent too.... i am the father

sorry to hear about that inda. does your husband knows that you are disappointed everytime he lets you get inside alone with your child when the docotor needs to talk with you already? you need to tell him that. when my child was a few months old whenever the doctor is giving our son his shots i disappear. i dont like to see that the doctor is giving our son injections. but my wife told me that i have to be strong. she dont like that our son will think that i left him on times that he needed me the most.... during pain. so i try to fill my chest with courage to face that and so far so good. i can hold him in my arms during injections and i know he appreciates that i am there with him. so i think you need to talk things like this to your husband. to let him know that this is important not just for you but for the child as well.

if my husband does not like to talk, why he put questions to the person or his friends. I even seen my husband chatted with others while waiting for me to see a doctor.

I do not thing that your hubby did not care about your kid's health.I think he is not like to talk.

My wife was the same way when my son was a baby and there is nothing wrong with it, no parent wants to see their child in pain. As time goes on you will be able to handle it as it gets easier. Congratulations.

yes i do believe too that it is an equal responsibility. glad to see that we have the same feelings when it comes to doctor visit. my son is four already so the shot has lessen already not like when he was younger. i enjoy him more now for he is playful and we have a lot in common. his pictures appears as my avatar. thanks a lot for the response

two thumbs up for your husband and hats down for him as well. i am not sure if i can do that when my wife goes abroad or somewhere, but of course i will do my best but as of now, because i dont have such experience yet i really dont know if i can. sometimes there are tantrums that i can not control but my wife makes a good job pon it. thanks a lot for the response

it's okay. at least your wife's personality compliments with you. that makes you and her a partner. i am proud of you friend. i know you can do it too!

thank you very much inday lorna. you are one lucky woman too for having a husband who father's your child/children. i grew up without seeing my father present in any occasion that i can remember. i only see him at home starting a fight with my mother. i dont like my son to experience it. its a good feeling to spend this moments with your child. best moments of my life. thanks a lot for the response

i did not say that i take care of everything, i am not superman har har har. but i do my part. there are fathers who can not do this for they choose not to. that is just my opinion. i too did not remember my father in anything like this nor even my graduation. and i felt bad. i dont like my son to feel like this. so i try to be around on days that i can. thanks a lot for the response

welcome to the wonderful world of mylot luman. and thanks for giving the first response. that is what i enjoy the most.... doctor visit. i can ask a lot and learn a lot. specially that i am a first time parent and i dont really know what to do at times. i also read a lot about parenting on the net. hope to see you more here and good luck.

Glad to meet you here, I also a new hand in parenting.I'm so excited to become a father, I realized the real meaning of human life after the birth of my son.I must take the all responsibility to give him the happy life and a happy family.My son named Yangyang just 21 months old, I love him very much and I can understand from your words that you are the same.

thank you very much my friend. i grow up not seeing my father visibly on anything that has to do with my life. if he is not working, he is drinking and having fun with his friends. i only see him when he was having a discussion with my mother or quarrel. he was not even there in any of my graduation. so i dont like my child to feel that way. i want him to be proud of me and this is they way how i show i love him. even i am still sleepy i wake up to bring him to school or to bring them at the doctor. thanks a lot for the response

i grew up not seeing my father sharing this responsibility with my mother. i am the first child of five. he was not even there on special occasions like graduation and any achievements that i get. it marked on my mind. i dont like my son to grow up having this feeling, and we fathers need to share this obligation and responsibility with our wives. thanks a lot for the response

welcome to the wonderful world of mylot web guy. wow thats not fair. you need to make sure that the doctor is referring to both of you for you are a parent too and you have the right to know the wellness and development of your child. lucky that does not happen to me or else i will sure demand some respect. thanks a lot for the response and hope to see you more here at mylot.

my wife is a stay at home wife and mom. and as i said i work at nights that gives me a great privileged for me to be with during doctor visits and school. it is true too that there are more wives that takes the full time work and the fathers are most of the time available. thanks a lot for the response

yes it is nice to a wife's heart if her husband gives time to things like this. going with the wife and child at doctors visit and school or school activities. when i was growing up my father was not there, even on graduation day. and made a mark in my mind and heart. i dont like my son to feel like that. thanks a lot for the response