engagement/marriage & finances
By Tgray61
@Tgray61 (29)
United States
April 16, 2010 4:37am CST
What do you feel about someone remaining engage to someone who has poor credit, foreclosure, and does not pay bills on time because he lives beyond his means but makes 50k-70k a year?
I have a friend who is engaged to a man who has all of the above issues going on...and her credit is descent, she never owned a home yet but want to, and pays her bills on time. However, she is apprehensive about remaining engaged or marrying this guy. It appears to the both of us that he is eager about getting a new home with her as a motive. I do not think she should stay engaged to him.
What do you think?
2 responses
@Capsicum (1444)
• United States
16 Apr 10
That is a tough one. On one hand she loves him ,But he lacks responsibility and structure in his careless ways.It would be a shame for him to bring her down! I have seen it happen to my daughter who loves a bum.It is also very easy it seems to slip into this type of behavior if you are with someone like this.
@Tgray61 (29)
• United States
16 Apr 10
I think he is using her to get a new house that his name can be on the deeds to....he had a home wasn't paying his mortgage and gave it up two weeks before asking her to marry him. Now all he talks about is rushing to get married and buying a new home. She has better credit and he is not even trying to fix his credit. His motive seems to be getting that new house in her name and then I think he will split from her and they will have to sell the home and split the property............a quick motive to gain off her. He doesn't even share his personal banking info with her but wishes to know all her financial business.............that's not love that a financial obsession with her potential to go somewhere in life. SAD that men are gold-digger as well.
. I would never be with a man that was not equal in stats. such as this.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
16 Apr 10
marriage is becoming a financial and economic decision nowadays. gone are the times when people get married because of the sensational emotion called love. well, this is the reality that people have to confront. any decision must take into account the financial consequences otherwise people will suffer for not forecasting the potential outcome of the decision. i wish your friend all the best. but loves conquers all, that's what i'd like to say.
