To Tell or Not to Tell a Friend That Her Boyfriend is Cheating on Her

My ex-husband was cheating on me and our good mutual friend (who happened to be a guy) told me. I didn't believe him because I thought he was trying to get with me. then he left me a week later for her and I found out that the other woman was pregnant. I was devastated. I think I would tell her...a true friend should..but it's still a hard position to be in. And-she may not believe you..sometimes people think that you're only after their guy-even when it's not the case, but in the end you've done what's right and honest and she'll remember that you cared :)

no offence but you should let her know bout that.. i feel sorry for your friend but the earlier she know the better.. think about if you were im her position would you not like your friends to tell you what they see?

One thing I have learned when dealing with people like these is that they will deny everything and make you look like a fool for telling their respective partners of the affair. I would tell my friend so that she will know what kind of person she is marrying because it will be harder and much more painful if she learns about the affair after she has been married to the guy.

If it had been me i would have got my mobile out called the friend just to check that i girl i saw was not actually my friend. Then if it proved it wasnt i would tel her because she needs to know before they get married as if he can cheat then he will probably do it again when their married.

Hi agnes, No.Don't tell her anything about that if you are not ready to spoil a relationship because person in love becomes blind once he is in a relationship.He's not going to listen to you until he realizes the ill effects of becoming blind.But definitely you can sprout some hints indirectly so that she doesn't mind and at the same time be careful about her life next. Thanks dear, Happy MyLotting!!

i would had tell my friend and you should had tell too. bcs your friend will marry with that guy soon and he is cheating on her you and your bf saw it :( please dont let your friend marry a guy like this you must tell her what you saw. imagine it was you in her place. she saw your fiancee with other girl and didnt tell you how would you feel? even if your friend be hurt is better that she knows what is happening. imagine that that guy marries your friend and still continue dating that girl? how will you feel everytime you see your friend? also how will be her life? a lot of lies? please dont let your friend marry this guy and tell her what you saw :(

I would tell her. I would want her to tell me if the shoe was on the other foot. I might even just casually say something in a conversation, that way you aren't accusing. Maybe it was just someone he works with or something.

As hard as it would be I would tell my friend because your friendship should mean more to you than that. If she is a true friend it would not change anything between you and her. and if it did she wwould get over it in her own ti.e and then you would be friends again. also if I could 0i would have tried to get a picyure for proof. Ultimately it is your decision and you will do the right thing.

Ofcourse you should tell her about this but with proof.

i would tell. she should know because she is living a lie. it is up to her if she believes u or not, or if she wants to break up with him or not.

You're pretty sure you saw your friend's fiancee with another girl, but you don't know if the girl might be visiting, be a relative, be just a friend needing his advice, or why he was with her? Stay out of it. Your friend is right. If it turns out they were innocently together, you could damage his and your friend's relationship before they ever get married.

If I were you I will tell my friend. I will tell her what happen and describe that woman to her, in case that girls is a relative. If that girls is not a relative you had to give your friend to find out who she is from his fiance or others. Its will be really bad if your friend marriage to someone who tend to be cheating. Tell her and let her decide what to do.

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I think the first question you have to ask yourself is would you want her to tell you if she saw your husband with another girl? If you asked me that question I would say an overwhelming "yes!". I would definitely want to know because if it happened once, it is going to happen again and again! She deserves to know.

If you cannot be 100% certain that it was him, then I would bite your tongue and say nothing. If you speak without proof you could cause a lot of upset for your friend and in the end you could lose your friendship. It is often better to check the facts first before speaking

Hi Agnesmontalbo, Well, if she were a very good friend and if I knew for sure that he was in fact cheating then I would say something probably. I would have to be sure. If I just saw him out and talking with a girl then I would have to wonder if I was 100% right. Is it possible that this was just a friend? Are you 100% sure it was him? Is it possible that it was someone who looked a lot like him?

i saw a friends boyfriend in a bar with another girl once. i went right over to him and asked him where she was. after swallowing his tongue for a moment he just said "home" i did tell her.. and she got angry at me. we didnt speak for years and she wound up marrying the guy. theyve since gotten divorced. would i do the same? yes.. because a TRUE friend doesnt keep secrets and even if that means sacrificing the friendship to be honest and give yer friend a headsup.. its what yer SPOSED to do

It seems like half the responses you have recieved here say tell your friend and half say don't. What about the people who have been in the same situation like I have? Well, I wish I would have known, then if I still decided to be with the jerk and go forward with the wedding, I would have no one else to blame but myself. Love is blind. I did end up marrying the guy but boy was I sorry later. These days you cannot afford to be sleeping with someone you think may be cheating because what if he brings home a communicable disease? Then what? You are stuck with herpes for the rest of your life? If I were you, what I would do is have a discussion with your friend about the subject matter. Do not actually come out and say her fiancee is cheating but see how she feels about the subject and see if she will relate to you any doubts that she has in her mind. If she has doubts, you can encourage her to take some more time before marrying this guy. If not, you just had a discussion about the subject and have not ruined anything by revealing what you saw. And... if you only saw the guy with a girl one time, that would be another thing. I think you would have to see him more than once to be certain he is cheating. If he truly is a cheater, he will cheat again and again. If your friend marries him under these circumstances, she will be sorry later. If you do tell her, tell her in the gentlest way possible. It may be a real shock to her. Good luck to you and to your friend. Life is too short to waste on the wrong guy.

You mentioned that the other girl looked a lot like your friend. Could it possibly have been your friend's sister, and therefore perfectly legitimate for her fiance to have been with her? Why assume the worst at first sight?

I will tell my friend simply because she is my friend and I owe her that but... only until I am sure that the guy was her fiance. What I could have done during the sighting was to approach the guy and call him by her name, introduce yourself and you husband so that he will be forced to introduce the girl to you. That's the only way to do it avoiding making the mistake of deniability (the finance may deny it was him). Another option comes handly only if you have a digicam with you all the time and use it to get a photo. Print the photo and show give it to your friend without a word. It's up to here to identify him to be so.