Would people be more willing to hang out with me if I had a car?
By Poison_Girl
@Poison_Girl (4150)
United States
April 16, 2010 9:37pm CST
So, I suppose you could say I have friends, but it seems like no one ever wants to hang out with me. I'm a nice person and all, but the thing is, I don't have a car. So, perhaps people don't want to hang out with me because of that? What do you think? Do you think people would hang out with me more if I had a car?
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@dare2defyy (138)
• United States
17 Apr 10
Probably. But the real kicker is, then you'd be being used. If people don't like you and don't want to hang out with you now, they still wouldn't like you if you had a car. They'd just pretend so they could get a ride.
Maybe.
Unless people really really don't like you, and then a car makes no difference. (:
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@Poison_Girl (4150)
• United States
17 Apr 10
Yeah, that's kinda what I think, too. Not necessarily that people will use me, but that it'll make no difference if I had a car. I'm betting that people still wouldn't want to hang out with me, even if I DID have a car. 
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
18 Apr 10
hello i donot think car is that important, if the relationship is honest without any selfishness, people can walk together, me and my wife travel by train and buses mostly, we are a happy couple..
Thank you so much for this nice post, cheers 
God bless you. 
Prof
Thank you so much for this nice post, cheers
God bless you.
Prof
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@Poison_Girl (4150)
• United States
19 Apr 10
I suppose the importance of a car depends on your point of view. I know in my neighborhood, the bus doesn't run very often or very late. In fact, it runs once an hour and stops running around 6pm. I'm lucky to even have this bus at all! And I'm VERY grateful I even have it. Now, my friends don't live all that close, but they're not all that far, either. I'm thinking that they don't feel like driving anywhere just to see me.
@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
17 Apr 10
Why would having a car matter? I have a lot of friends who don't have cars, and my husband and I don't have cars either. In fact, we don't even drive!! We take the bus where we need to go, and if we have a friend with a car, the friend picks us up, or we just all meet in places where we can all get to, with a parking lot for them, and near a bus stop for us.
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@Poison_Girl (4150)
• United States
17 Apr 10
The bus that stops nearest to me stops running around 6pm, making it near impossible to do anything with anyone. There's another stop about 1/2 mile away, but I don't like walking through certain parts of my neighborhood after dark. Plus, I think it stops running around 9 or 10pm. *sigh* I'm thinking people just don't like driving all the way to me just to hang out with me. I have no idea.
@Poison_Girl (4150)
• United States
17 Apr 10
That's not so hard to believe. I tend to wonder if getting a car would make a difference with me, though. People probably still wouldn't want to hang out with me, but who knows? They might actually be more willing to.
@thersdae_me (327)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Even if there are some people who hang out more with those who have cars, majority of friends hang out with each other because they really like to stay and spend time together and not for any reason at all. Hanging out because of material things or because you get some benefit whatsoever does not signify true frienship.
Instead of thinking if you should get a car or not, why not concentrate on finding real friends who will stick with you whether you have this or that? :)
@Poison_Girl (4150)
• United States
17 Apr 10
Well, I don't think it has anything to do with JUST having a car or not, I think it's because they don't want to make the drive to see me. Know what I mean?
@zim1fW (285)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
It is to your gain to avoid people who do. Because when you lose your car, you will simply lose them too, unless you want friends like that. Friends spend time for each other because they find each other an important part of their lives, not for some material benefits.
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@Poison_Girl (4150)
• United States
17 Apr 10
I don't think they see it as any material benefit or anything. I think they just don't want to make the drive to see me or hang out with me. Know what I mean?
@Dumpertaker (1187)
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17 Apr 10
To be blunt if they like you because you have a car, they are no friend at all.
I have a few friends, and it doesn't matter that I cannot drive and I will never be allowed to be.
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
17 Apr 10
Hi Poison,
I don't know. I don't think about what a person has or does not have when I want to hang out with someone. I don't imagine their lack of a vehicle would matter to me at all. It might make it more difficult to hang out if we didn't live near each other beause that would mean that I would have to be the one to drive to see them. Still, If I really liked the person then I'd be ok with the drivintg. It surely wouldn't make me think any less of them if they didn't have a car. Heck, I have been without a car before so I know what it's like. I would not judge a person for that.
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@assiramorreceb (8)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
well, most of the time people do hang out with friends who had a car. But for me, whether that person had a car or none, so long as i enjoyed his company, i'm still welling to hang out with him. A car is not that important in hanging out, what's the use of taxis? buses? we always have a choice, it's just that other people were so narrow minded... so in response to your question, it depends on the kind of person you want to hang out with.
