Being driven crazy by my friend...

hi! yeah i am being driven crazy by a friend right now. like in your case, we started out "being almost like best friends" in our first year... we were in different department but same collg, different block but same hostel, from 2 far and different states but the closest in heart. every day she used to come to my room as soon as we got back 4rm cllg and used to pour the whole day's story. it was in my room that she used to dance around when she's happy, it was to me that she used to come and complain or cry if she's feeling lonely or sad. every single bit of her dreams , hopes ,fears ,feelings she shared with me. even if there was no word at times, we enjoyed simply sitting silently in each other's company. in a short period her life and world was intricately woven into mine . and she used to be very possesive of me too and used to say she's afraid if one day i leave her (well inever can). we were the best friends ever and i was really very very happy to get her. BUT things aren't the same anymore . ya!there were disagreements at times and she used to get angry with me but at every such instances she always used to open up and told me that she's not happy with me and then we made things clear up but not this time anymore. i guess i didn't play my part well even if i love her a lot and may be that's why things changed and she started avoiding me. it was when we entered 2nd year that she started getting closer to some new friends. that was fine with me for her to get new friends but changing completely even not to reply my sms made me horrible. i asked her what the problem was and said sorry if i did something wrong but she said there was nothing wrong. only a "hi " or nothing at all at times remained when met on the way. i was broken and i cried for the first time missing a friend. seeing her with others ... i think you know how it feels like. i didn't know what to do and the friendship i valued the most slipped through my fingers completely,even if i try all i can to win her back, leaving painful memories wherever i go .then, i thought, better let her go if she's not happy being with me anymore .(may be because i was helpless.) but whatever it was, sometimes she used to come for some small and big helps like she used to do b4 and i did evrything she wanted and even stayed awake a whole night helping her finish her model of a building design. it passed like this for almost a semester and when the new sem started, she started coming back. i was happy but felt awkward and didn't speak to her properly. i just couldn't control myself even if i never blamed her and needed her back. she said sorry for she wasn't there for that long and asked me to punish her if i want and to stop hatting her. there !! what else ?! i said i never hated her and i'm still her friend as i was before. the ice was broken and i thought evrything 'll be alright again. no , its not. its not the same anymore. its just that we've started talking again and she shares very little things and only when she feels like.but she says no matter what i am always close to her. but words and deeds are a bit different as i see. and everytime to see her go the other way and away... its just too cruel to bear. ah! i made it pretty long. if you've managed to read it fully, a thanks to you. this is one kind of a thing that i didn't know with whom to share and i feel good that i've shared now. well, my words to you is "don't worry" . some things are meant the way it is and we can't help. just be yourself and play your part well and i hope one day your friend will surely understand. don't lose hope. my wishes to you:):)

I had a very similair situatiion like the one you were having.I had a really close friend who I lost because of small differences.Even now I feel bad that I do not speak to her anymore.EGO plays a big part in everyone's life and it is really difficult to let go of it.There are millions of times I wish things were the same and every once in a while I check her picture on facebook and it hurts.Nothing can be done now.We will just have to hope that time mends the pain or make some attempt to get back.If the other person is not willing then there is nothing can be done whatsoever.

Well, yeah...but not to the point that I'd hate them. Like for example, I have this friend...she just can't seem to get over her ex...and it's been months already. I mean I know it's not easy to move on..but the problem is she's not even trying..and then she'll be bitter about the fact that her ex has already found someone else..and she's so affected as if her ex betrayed her when he really didn't.. It's annoying sometimes... .

Hi, Well, you are supposed to expect the most from your best friend. You will expect support and kind words from him even when everything seems to be falling apart. I once had a friend whom I considered very true friend. But, then I found out, to my greatest shock, that he is actually taking me to wrong path. I don't blame him. He was, and perhaps still now is, quite confused and mislead himself. He helped me, I have to admit that. But then he suddenly turned into something that was quite awful and unfortunate. I have to let him go as he was hurting my self respect. No matter how strong you are, the people you have around you will always have the potential to affect your attitude. I not only forgave him, but I also pity him, as no matter how hard I tried, he always seemed to have an inclination to take the wrong way. Thanks God bless you

I go crazy when my friends ask advices about their relationships and/or boys!