What will you do if you were in my shoe?

@rene12 (794)
Philippines
April 17, 2010 8:29am CST
I have a 16 years old cousin and the story is this: She and her friends went to their house to practice some dance routines. There were 5 guys and 3 girls including her. His brother came and got suspicious so he contacted his mother to go home and check the situation. Their mother came and told them what is going on. The daughter replied that they were practicing and her mother began talking non stop like they were just fooling around and such. The visitors were frightened and decided to go home already. The daughter accompanied them to go out and when she came back, her mother still goes on talking. She talked back and her mother hit her in the face. Finally the daughter decided to walk away from home and now it has been 3 days and she went here in our house. I would like her to stay here so that I could call her parents and pick her up but when I learned what happened, I changed my mind. She was with three guys that looks suspicious but nobody knows a person but their friends right? So I don't have the right to judge them. I let them eat for a while and let them go. I know how she feels like everybody is mad for a reason that shouldn't be. I also talked to their parents and I found out that she is telling the truth and her parents admitted it but still they insisted that I should have make her stay here and called them. If they really care about her, they should have accepted them to practice in their own house instead of different places right? So I think that I should let her walk her own path even she is 16 years old and hopefully her parents could consider the things they are doing to her. Note: She also stated some awful experience from her mother but I wouldn't include it coz it is too long. Let us concentrate here :D If you were in my shoes, what will you do as an elderly cousin?
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3 responses
@JAYMAR777 (840)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
It is still best to talk to her mother and tell her about it. I am just wondering why her mother is not looking for her considering it has been 3 days already. My heart really goes for your cousin, I can't imagine how she felt being embarrassed in front of her friends. But I guess it is still the right thing that she needs to be reunited with her immediate family.
@rene12 (794)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
Her parents always ask me if she visited us or something for the past 3 days but she came just yesterday. I really think that her mother is wrong but I think that it is not right to walk away from home. Still, I know that it is better that way so that her parents would know how she really felt.
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
I think the reason she ran away is not a result of a one-time happening. It is not something that happens overnight, it is a series of events. Honestly most of the time it boils down to the parents (no not all the time).
@rene12 (794)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
Maybe you got a point :D
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Hello! Your in a very complicated situation. People tend to judge people by there appearance. It's hard to say what the right thing to do. I don't know your cousin's mom very well to judge her.In your own view if you think that it is the right thing to do and if you feel that it could do her good why not...
@rene12 (794)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
Thanks, I think that I gained confidence from the stand that I have done :D
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
No problem. I'm always hapee to help rene!
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
my mother is the same as like that. I think its better to just follow what the mother said. It will just make it worst for their family. Family is more important than friends right? But if her friends accept it then thats good they are really true friend. Tell this to her.
@rene12 (794)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
I think so too but her mother went overboard like nagging in front of her friends is enough but still nagging after that is different story. She tried to explain afterward what really happened but her mother insisted that she was talking back. I don't think that was right