"I love being single" - but deep within I know I cant !!!!

When you stay single, you can enjoy plenty of things which you are not able to realize when you are in a relationship. So maybe you feel free and good when you are alone. Furthermore, it is easier to live alone. On the other side, living in relationship with a partner is like a school for the rest of your live. Even if you love your partner a lot, you have to learn to live together with the other person and it might be quite difficult. Plenty of people have problems in their relationship because sometimes they find themselves involved in some situations they do not know how to react or to answer. Often people get tired of a relationship, even if they still love their partner. But, if you take aware of all difficulties and if you a are aware of that you have to learn and to change, such relation can make you rich and create a stronger personality. It can be a great purpose for your live. I like the silence and sometimes I need to rest allone for a while (as everybody, I presume), but I never would change my actual situation which I share with my husband and my children. Live is like a school and a combat which you should confront as such.

I have bote experiences. Being singel is supper. We have nobody to disturb us, We can do whetever we like. We can get more freedom. When we live together someone else, We will get more problems, more disturbance etc.. BUT there is a unvisible fulfilment, satisfaction and happines in living together. So better select a new partner or renew the old friendship.

I don't think another person can determine your happiness, that has to come from within. You just had a bad relationship, but not all are the same, give your self time to heal from it, then try again. Relationship make life exciting, but you can be alone or with someone either way. But people thrive on companionship.

Men and women are created to be together.We are both sexes too different so we always need our second half to make us complete.I have also tried being alone after someone had really hurt me but later I feel I am not only alone but also lonely which is awful.Do not search for anybody but try not to miss him while you are trying to stay single because you are hurt.If you find a better guy he will easy make you forget the previous one.

Well, there are people who were meant to be single and other to be married. But your situation feels to me like you have not enjoyed singlehood once and have placed marriage or companionship as an escape solution for not enjoying singlehood. YOur primary concern is focused on the issue of marrying or not; instead of being with someone whom you love and who loves you too. Maybe you have some issues with being on your own and leading your life as you want it. And having someone with you provides the quick fix, a quick escape. To enjoy married life, you must also know how enjoyable being single can be. You might look back what you missed when you are already married and gain the confidence you did not have while you were still single. That's an unfortunate ingredient for a potential divorce in the future.

i think you're just afraid of getting hurt again and/or your next relationship will end in nothing also. though a single person can have all the time to enjoy and what ever s/he wanted to do, however, it is human nature to find a partner. It is human nature to fall in love, get hurt, and fall in love again until you find you forever girl. especially now that you've experience the good and bad sides of being in a relationship. just always listen to what your heart speaks and you'll end up with no hesitations.

I've been married for almost 25 years, so I'd be lost with out my husband. But if he were to die I wouldn't rush into another relationship just to have someone. Not just anyone could fill that void and maybe no one ever would. In the Bible, Paul talks about singleness and marriage. He says that the single person has more time to devote to the Lord because they don't have to consider family responsibilities. It is a personal choice that no one else can decide for you.

Being single not necessarily meant you will go great length of time just to be alone and so that you can have your freedom. Relationship doesn't have to be a confinement or a jail...it must not be a one sided affair. You can still feel both even if you have a girlfriend or not. Your broken relationship is not so old and that's only six months and the hurt is still fresh. Take time to be free and enjoy your single status. When the time comes that you will fall in love again you are much more mature and emotionally ready. Maybe this time you will have a longer lasting relationship.

I am male and married. So too subjective if I advise you. I think life is a choice and your right to choose single or married. Each of its positive and negative.

Even thou the vast majority of people will end up in a relationhip since it s in the human nature to not live alone, there will be some that will be happy alone. I think it is just an example that people are different. I know people who are single and i know for a fact that they are happy. I m married myself but i can understand their way of life. There are different life styles, indeed the most common includes mariage and kids, but certain indivduals are just not made for such a thing, and end up not beeing happy just because due to education and society they think they must be in a relationship just because it is the thing to do. My advice would be to try both, see whatever makes you happy and go for it, rather then be alone cause you think it s cool, or get married cause you think "you should".

Hi John4Christ! How are you doing? It's good to see you back on here! I've been missing you and I'm sure other people have, too. I know you probably stay busy with work and all, though. I'm 58 years old and I have been single all my life. I love being single, though, and wouldn't take anything for it. I don't have anybody bossing me for one thing and I can come and go as I please. There are times when I feel like you do, though. There are times when I think I would like to get married someday. I don't give up because I'm so near 60, lol. At the same time, I'm not going to be upset if I don't ever marry. I'm just too independent. Sometimes it can get lonely but I try to keep busy and that can help loneliness. I am looking for a boyfriend but I just want a friend, if you know what I mean. Who knows where it can go from there? I'm sure you've heard that song by Reo Speedwagon called "Can't Fight This Feeling". There's a line in there that says "What started out as friendship has grown stronger". Anyway, just hang in there. You will find your Miss Right one of these days. Kathy.

Same like u. I am 45 and still single. I have many time pretended as if being single is a blessing. But its not. inside the pain i go through nobody else will know. Its always a pleasure to have someone, to share our feelings. We can never go against nature

As far as I am concerned, I think I do not like the single life at all for myself. For me, I think Prefer to have someone else companied with me. I do not lik eth efelling I am living aline, eating alone and wolking alone. I just wnat to have a girl friend,who will usually miss me a lot , care me a lot. But just the same with you, since the broke with my girl friend, I have not got the courage to find a new one. I think do not have the courage to find one,who I think I will lose someday.

Hello John! I'm single for over a year now. It was hard the first months but now I'm doing good. Just be happy.. Just be happy and everything will come, I get lonely at times too but I can deal with it.

Often it takes much time to get over a break up and during that time it is fine to be single. A person might be so bad that he or she gets puts off dating anyone else forever more. It can be excellent to be single and have the freedom to spend time doing all you wish. Like when I have a boyfriend he might get annoyed with the amount of traveling that I do. It is not necessary to be in a relationship to be enjoying life. Some relationships can be very stressful. To be single then life is somehow less stressful. It might be that a person hasn't yet met his or her soul mate I think.

I think you need to find peace & happiness within yourself BEFORE you will find peace & happiness with someone else!!! As long as you feel you NEED someone else to make you happy, you will remain miserable . It does NOT take somebody else to make you happy!!! Maybe you need to just look honestly at the girlfriend you had. Look for her flaws. Then look at yourself & realize you deserved BETTER than what she gave you!!! Look at yourself honestly & you will see that you are BETTER off alone. You can get up when you want to, go to bed when you want to, & eat what you want exactly when you want it!!! If something comes up that you want to do, you don't need to call to get permission. You have NO drama except what YOU allow in!!!! My single years were some of the BEST days in my life simply because I WAS IN CONTROL!!!

hi john4chirist, i think you are not appearing in mylot since long time,is it correct,being single and not that is according to our discretion only,being with a friend/companion some benefits will be there,you may not feel alone just like,if you are alone,you will be free,tension less etc etc,all according to your feeling only,have a nice day

i love being single.. The prove is until don't got boyfriend still.. hehehhe..I wan to concentrate with my first and beside i am still single..hehehe.. don't want to waste my time with this.. i got a lot of crushes and admirer out there. But sometimes like you i misses my crushes too. But it's good idea to be single you can do a lot of creative things.

Certainly not I'm much happier being single but I yes I have at times felt sad seeing these happy couples that have what I don't and then I remember all the crap that comes with relationships and I am very happy again so it lasts a short time.

hi john4christ, well i cant say anything about that because i never had a girlfriend before. nor i have now. but i really feel that i should have a girlfriend. i sometimes feel so lonely and sometimes friends cant help ou in your lonliness. at that time you need a girlfirend.