would it bug you if your boyfriend was still close to his ex?

these people are exes for a reason.. i dont think being a close friend with someone you used to be involved with is a bad thing. it just means that youve found the value of a person on a different lvl when it failed as a romantic involvement. i have a few friends that are people i used to be involved with on a more intimate lvl.. and i dont ever "reminice" or wish i were still with them. that time has passed, ive moved on.. and im quite conent with who im with and where i am in my life. why go backwards to where it was unsuccessful already?

My girlfriend is still kinda close to a couple of her ex's, it bothered me a little at first but then I got to learn more about her and them and I can trust her completely.

It would bother me to no end if my boyfriend was still close to his ex. I should be the one he is the closest to and turns to with various things. If he is closer to her than me then you are right the chance of him realizing he loves her is greater.

I believe that it would bother me to a certain degree if my husband was still close to his ex girlfriend. However, I don't think that it would be something that would mean that our relationship would fall apart. The reason that I feel this way is because of the fact that I firmly believe that we have a very strong relationship. However, there would be a little part of me that would be afraid that his past would come back to haunt us.

Yes I will bug because they might have still feelings to each other. My boyfriend might cheat with me. I dont like that. :)

oh dear, if that happens ill probably just talk to my boyfriend and tell him frankly that if he continues doing that, might as well just make a choice between the two of us or else ill just leave him. if he has a problem with that, well, i have a problem with him still getting close to his ex. i know it will hurt me too but i think it will be for the best to just stop the relationship, rather than just be a martyr and take whatever actions he does. that is just not right :(

No, I don't think so. This really depends on person, they might never again have anything emotional together. I know people who are still close to their ex (just friends) even they married. So it really depends on the person, how sincere is this person to himself/herself.

Yes, if your spouse is still close to his ex, it can be very disturbing sometimes. You feel threatened that he might ditch you and go back to her. I know I was when me and my current spouse got together. All was fine, until his ex tried to get involved with our life too much. She was always asking favours of him and he is the type that has a hard time saying no to favours of anyone. But it was the way she was doing it. She would purposely dress up to ask him, and she would be flipping her hair, and fluttering her eyes and wiggling her hips, all signs to a man that you are interested in him sexually. Body language speaks volumes. I expressed my disdain about it and put an end to the interaction, as she was just using it to get whatever she wanted from him because she knew how to manipulate him, particularly after having an on-again, off-again relationship with him for 7 yrs prior to me. She tried to get all chummy with me, but I rejected it as I really didn't want her to be so involved with our life. She was a very sneaky, underhanded, manipulative woman and that just disgusts me.

sure i would... why do he have to do that. that could be there are still 'something' between them. it is make me safe if he just stay far and away from his ex

Honestly, yes, it bothers me a lot. Not just a little, but a whole lot. I guess I'm the kind of girl friend who gets jealous easily when it comes to the ex. The thing is, the ex was once special to my man, so communication with with the ex could only lead to reminiscing, falling in love again, or missing the good old times. It might even tempt my partner to do a one night stand with her which is a no no for mE! grrrr.

I think it would be a natural thing for anyone to be bugged if there boyfriend/girlfriend was still close to their ex. It is usually a natural feeling to wonder if there is more then friendship after the breakup. Most people would not be comfortable with this at all. I have an aunt though who was married then divorced and she remarried. Both the ex husband and the current husband and the new wife of the ex all got along find which was quite suprising to everyone. That is not always possible but it can be if all individuals are mature about the situation. It was a good thing because of all the kids involved in both families.

It is something which is not desired for sure because it can easily be conducive to failure of your relationship. Even though trust is important in any relationship, I believe that all contact should cease from previous partners.

I am close to my ex-lovers up to now, they're still my friends because I really made some ways to rekindle our friendship despite our break-ups. This is funny, whenever I talk to my ex who is also married this time, his wife looks at me with much disappointment ha ha! If it happens to me, I wouldn't mind if my partner is close to his ex as long as the 3 of us are friends he he...

I dont think so its a good idea, its not that I dont trust him but maybe because I just dont want things to go out of hand later. BEcoming friends could mean communicating with his past lover, and I do believe that feelings never change. If you loved a person, you will never forget him/her.And if they beoome friends , there is a possibilty that the old fame would rekindle. Mind you guys, it happens almost to anyone. Its better to be cautious.

Hi, friend. I have to be honest with you. It does bother me a lot if my boyfriend is still in close contact with his ex. I'm a girl of strong possessive nature and if i fall in love with a man who happens to love me too, i want him to be only my boyfriend, not someone else's. If he still keeps his ex in mind, then i'll give him two choices. He may either break up with me or find a good way to deal with his relation with his ex. I see no happiness in a relationship when a third party is always there.

It will...but then again, past is past. It's all about trust though. I know..easier said than done. =p Anyways, I don't want to be too close though...friends are fine and casual talks...sometimes, if the love is real, no matter how close a person is to his/her ex, he/she will always come back to you,

My boyfriend and I often talk about this topic since we have seen how some of our friends keep friendship with their ex's. And we both always come to the conclusion that it is a red flag in the relationship. One of the main reasons behind this is that this whole thing looks disrespectful for the new boyfriend or girlfriend. Also if being friends with the ex's is so important then the person must not think of being in a new relationship. This is because it shows that somehow he or she wants to be still emotionally connected to her past. I totally agree with you that it is a big big risk for a person. As a matter of fact, one of my friends ended up losing her boyfriend because she showed "over" openmindedness by calling her ex from his cellphone right on their first date. I mean the guy stayed with her for awhile, but then he expressed to me that her closeness with the ex made him feel uncomfortable. In the end, he left!

Yes, of course. It is not as if I don't trust him but I guess, the time that he should be spending with his ex should be spent to me. Their relationship is already finished so why still get close to his ex. Being nodding friend is enough, but to still be with his ex is awful. Yes, you are right, they might be talking about reminiscing the pass and the flame of passion can be rekindled and this will left the present girl alone.

If this be the case,then the man was never really yours.It's only because he fails to withstand the undesired consequences of being alone,he was with you.Let him go to his girlfriend and make sure next time before getting into a relationship whether the person's mind is free from the previous events-whether he is all set to begin a new relationship and that he's not going to go back even if his girlfriend comes back. Thanks Happy MyLotting!!

yes, it will bug me. :| i mean because of jealousy but if that's what he wants then i'll respect him. i'll give him my trust (hopefully, he wont abuse it) since my ex is my bestfriend also. : LOL. so that would be fair!