Facebook is a place to boast what you have...

@laydee (12798)
Philippines
April 18, 2010 7:51am CST
This was one statement by a facebook friend of mine. He says that it's just a place where you can boast and prove it to everyone else. He has a point because my email account is usually bombarded with the status messages of my online facebook friends and it's not always cute. You could generally feel that most people there are boasting. From their new car, new home, new gadgets, accessories, where they ate, where they went, etc. Do you think this is a healthy thing to have in Facebook?
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@Blondie2222 (28611)
• United States
18 Apr 10
I just use facebook to catch up with old friends. I have met alot of friends I Graduated with 9 yrs ago and we have caught up met and hung out...And I use it to talk to family. I don't go overboard on my whole life history tho on the site because there our some creeps out there and I don't want them knowing everything about me. I try to be careful on sites like those. I don't post the town i live in or where i work.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
Oh true enough friends. I just wished that some people would stop making Facebook as their diaries. You know, posts like: "My crush passed by, he smiled!" then after a few seconds: "He's talking to me", then after another few seconds: "He looks so great and smells good too" and over and over and over again till the day has ended. I mean, I wish Facebook would limit you updating your status to the maximum of 3 per day.
@voldrox (7191)
• India
18 Apr 10
Like you, i too don't like to put my updates on FB, just don't like it, i have many friends in there and i don't want each of them to know what is going up with me, it is best to be more careful and thoughtful before putting our updates on FB, that is what i believe.
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@gwoman2 (710)
• United States
19 Apr 10
Hi Laydee, hummmmmm...I can't say that I agree. I am on FB and what I see is people sharing their feelings or status at the time...I get many invitations to events and my daughter and I have a fan page for our side of town. I really don't see anything that looks like boasting. Maybe it's just different...by the way I am in the USA. But you should just ignore the boasting and enjoy yourself. I like to use FB to get relevent information out to my neighbors and friends on my list. Have never had a problem. Chill Laydee and have fun with it! ~G~
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
Well, yeah I did find a way to ignore them, it's called filtering settings. It's just sad that there are those who don't find attention anymore in their real lives that they need to list down every single step they do for the day. Anyway, you're right, thinking about their lives would just stress me out, it's best that I just enjoy the good things I see on Facebook, particularly the games! Thank you for dropping by! Have a great MyLot experience!
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@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
19 Apr 10
As far as my friends on facebook go, I don't take it as boasting. For the most part, we all live in different cities, and even states, so it's a way of sharing what's going on in our lives. If it's a new car, house, pet, whatever the case may be. We also post pictures to go along with it, which is great to be able to share things with them. I just moved into a house, posted what was going on with the move, pictures of the house, pictures of the inside as I got things unpacked and decorated. No one took it as boasting. Maybe he's a little jealous of what they have going on in their lives.
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@tessah (6617)
• United States
19 Apr 10
i dont feel its boasting or bragging to update yer status with something new going on in yer life.. fact i think thats what the status thing is for. i think if yer feeling these people are bragging or boasting.. that there is something lacking in yer own psyche, honestly.. that makes you feel inadequate in some way and envious of these things of people you claim as yer "friends" where yer unable to be happy for their successes and happiness because you lack it for yerself.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
I think it's okay to be happy about someone's success, most especially if he's celebrating a milestone in his career or life, don't you think? However, when you see a particular friend post every minute about what he is doing and what he is eating and what he has bout, it would soon be annoying. There even came a point when he has to take photos or document his going to the comfort room! There's a line between amusing and annoying and I think people abuse social networking sites like Facebook in order to get attention, even if it's negative attention.
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@a2beads (100)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
I think Facebook is a good way to keep updated and connected with your family and friends. True, some are more active than others by posting their recent travels, new acquisitions or gadgets, recent events, or just a wall post of what they're currently feeling or doing however more than the downside of boasting I still think that Facebook is still my top social networking sites simply because despite our busy schedules and switch in priorities I found a way to stay connected with the people i care about.
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• Indonesia
19 Apr 10
Not all of people do that friend.... Many of us create class group to share class info, and sometime I got much inspiration from what people say on facebook... So, it's like a sword with 2 sharp side.. ^^
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@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
18 Apr 10
Hi, I know what you mean. I also have facebook... I have it just to keep update with my friends in another continent... I dont update everything, such as photo on what I do or what I eat or what I have been... I just post my photo there and it will be age.... And just keep reading my friends messages and other stuff that is going on in there... I dont know why people have to tell everything on facebook, even relationship good or bad... lolz. I think, it could be dangerous in somehow on there but this is their own choice... hope everything will be good for them. Have you heard about this lady got fired over facebook? lolz...
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
23 Jan 12
I wouldnt call it boasting about things...But i do think that people put alot of things that are totally unnecessary on facebook. Or even unsafe. If i was a thief that would be a great place to see...when people are home or out of town to break in. Also alot of those surveys on there..have ID theft questions like when were you born moms maiden name...snuck in with alot of other questions. I dont think people need to post alot of what they post. But it is nice to be able to congratulate someone on moving into their new home...or that they are getting married...having a baby.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
28 Jan 12
True. A lot of information there could certainly cause someone's danger. Most often, we fail to realize that we are the ones who give other people the accessibility to take our identities. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@chiepao (714)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
hi laydee, Good thing my friends aren't like that.What my friends usually posts on their walls are their daily experiences or how they feel. I never encountered a friend of mine boasting about something. I think it's my friends way on expressing how they feel. They find comfort of course. Boasting is not a good attitude, having it on facebook is not nice. But I think it depends on how people see's on it. If they think that their friend is boasting about it or not.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
Well I'm not saying everyone does that, but most do and if you have a lot of friend (ranging from the childhood friends to the friends in Highschool, organizations, college, work, hobbies, family, etc.) you'll soon realize that there will always be people in this group that loves boasting. As for the statement that there are people who put their feelings. I think there are times when they're just over the roof when it's early in the morning and you just turned on your laptop to the Facebook site and there lo and behold a status saying "THIS DAY SUCKS!", well that isn't a good thing to say at the beginning of the day, and I'm afraid I digest what I read thus making my day a little less fun than before reading the status. Don't you think?
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
Yes I observed that too but I'm not one of them. I don't have anything to brag there. Even photos I only have one and I don't want to upload more. Some my acquaintances there are bragging about the things they have.
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• Philippines
18 Apr 10
Hello laydee, I don't post much in the my own profile wall because i always hang out in the Gordon fan page where i get updates from other volunteers who can still campaign for him. as of now, i couldn't campaign. I don't know about other mylot friends that i added in the facebook, they're in other business to do.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
Oh you're still campaigning. Anyhow, I'm not referring to mylot friends who add you in facebook. I meant your real friends who add you to facebook who's got nothing else to do but to boast what they have.
@Cutie18f (9546)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
Yes, I notice that too. It is one place to boast of new acquisitions and which some members call "blessings" and which they love to tell everyone like their big salaries and their nice jobs, the new house purchased and how intelligent their kid is, etc. Sometimes, I respond to some of these boastings telling them that "blessings are even better when they are shared".
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
Hi laydee, I could relate to what you're saying. I do have a number of friends who do that, boasting about their accomplishments or some newly acquired things. If that person is not close to me, I just usually ignore it. But if it's my close friend, I reply to them or be glad that they got something they want. Facebook is a good way to be updated and connected to my friends, and reading their statuses keep me in touch and updated what's going on in their lives, even if they had just purchased a new car or gadget. Just ignore the people who annoy you because of their boasting.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
True enough, most of these people are my acquaintances or people I went to school with. I'm not really ticked by the boasting, rather, I'm just curious as to why they need to do that?
• Philippines
16 Jan 11
Well, people ARE social beings. They need to be acknowledged, admired, and paid attention to. It's not all the time they get the attention, which is why they post it in public for them to be recognized. People need responses to make them feel they actually exist. Sometimes, it gets annoying though when others overdo it like posting too personal things that shouldn't be made known to the public. Although there ARE advantages of Facebook. Like you know where your old friends are, trace your relatives, and know how they are doing and how life is treating them. Posting statements or pictures can also mean relating to people. It's nice. :)
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
Indeed there are a lot of nice things that could be done in Facebook, I guess it really brings the world together and you can find the old colleagues and friends you haven't talked to for a long time. Relatives are reunited and there are a lot information that you can get about someone too. However, I think there are those who can't seem to get attention that they need to spill their beans all over the net. There's even one 'friend' in my list who keeps on fighting with her husband online! I mean, she posts their quarrels and statements on facebook update and I find it too much. It's good that there are those filtering settings. I'm just sad that some people can't close their private lives anymore. Thank you for joining the discussion. Have a great MyLot experience!
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
18 Apr 10
Hi, laydee. It is okay to express your happiness to others. But to show off constantly with your new things, can be a bit depressing. I don't think that it is healthy to tell others what is always going on in their lives. And it is not healthy nor too smart to have a real picture of themselves on facebook either, while they are boasting about what they may have. Hackers can find out where a person lives by their pictures, you know.
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@jd107nette (1454)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
i think it's just fine... well, my friends and relatives always do that... like posting that they went to Paris for a vacation, or the likes... i find it ok to read several stuffs although sometimes, you get the impression that they are boasting... haha... i suppose they are just proud and happy of whatever happened to their life and day... contrary to that, i do not really post anything.. LOL
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@voldrox (7191)
• India
18 Apr 10
Hi laydee, i rarely do boast on facebook. Honestly i don't like to put all those for my status message unless i had done something really interesting that would amuse my friends, i don't like to see others status much too, i just like the light and funny ones, on which i comment and have fun. I am not working, neither are my friends, i guess that is why i don't get such status messages as your do from your friends, only mostly about the places they have been to recently and followed by their photos in the place they had been to, i actually enjoy going through the status messages coz some are really funny.
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• Philippines
19 Apr 10
Usually I don't care much if they post status about their new laptop, or this new phone their using, or this place they're going to and a blow-by-blow detail. After all, you have to admit, its a place where you want people to know what's up with you, so I can understand that. I wouldn't say it's unhealthy because after all, in a few minutes or hours, the statuses will just get covered up by something else.
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• Philippines
18 Apr 10
well for me sometimes its really annoying that everything your friend will do he/she will write on his/her status and so many emails receive in my email add but i think social networking do act like this so we can't do anything about it
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• Indonesia
19 Apr 10
Not all of people do that friend.... Many of us create class group to share class info, and sometime I got much inspiration from what people say on facebook... So, it's like a sword with 2 sharp side.. ^^
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