Nobody calls

My daughter, but she is a young wife and mother, and is very busy. I call her, and I e mail her. I am excited. Next month I get to go see her and her hubby and the two grand girls.

Hi, SomeCowgirl. I am so glad that you created this discussion! My family is like this too. If I don't ever call them, they will never call me. My cousin that lives with my grandmother calls me almost everyday. And my aunt, my mother's sister, did call me once since I have been in my new apartment. I don't get any phone calls from others at all. I do call my cousin from time to time, but she never calls me back at all. I know that she should have my phone number by now because of her Caller ID. And the rest of my family can get my number from my cousin or off of my grandmother's Caller ID. I have a host of family members that live in this same city and state that I do, and none of them ever bother to call me. They will use the excuse that they don't have my telephone number. But, I know that if they really want it, they know how they can get it. I don't know why family can be this way. And just as soon as I don't come around or call, then they think that I am being funny. When I am not. I don't understand why I always have to be the one that takes the initiative to call first. Why can't they do some of the calling instead???

Both my sons are like this we usualy have to call them but on special occasions they do call

Hi Some Cowgirl, Yes, over time we've lost some contact with cousins and aunts & Uncles that we were close to growing up. Still, we are a pretty tight family. If something BIG happens then we all gather together and promise to keep in touch more often...never do. My brothers live right here in town and we hardly ever get in touch unless it is a holiday or one of us needs something. We are all busy with our own kids and grandkids and it's all cool. We know that we have each other's back. We really do. As for my daughters....I can not imagine not knowing my daughter's phone number!! I don't call my daughter's often because they are always stopping by or calling me. Still, I have their numbers and I always know how to reach them. If too much time passes and I don't hear from one of them then surely they'll hear from me. You sound as if you are really trying to be close to your family and it isn't working. I feel bad for you. Have you talked to your mother about this? I would feel just horrible if one of my girls felt that they weren't important in my life. They are my world. Maybe your mom has a good explanation. I think you really should talk to her.

All the family I have lives with me. My granddaughter used to call every day sometimes several times just because she was bored. My mom used to call everyday and watched my daughter when I worked so she was in constant communication with me. But now we all live together. Soon my granddaughter and I will be moving so I am sure we will hear from eachother every day or so.

If you really love somebody then don't ever bother about such petty things. It makes you cheap in your own eyes. Grow up girl and show others you are much above such things.

None of my family ever call me or make any effort to contact me. It is always me who has to pick up the phone or write a letter. I have given up caring about it now, it used to upset me but not any longer.

Hello SCG! My better half faces the same problem. It is she who will call her parents or brother most of the time. She does not mind calling them, however, like you, sometimes she feels it that her parents/brother do not call her as often, as she would like to. Does the attitude of parents or siblings change after a girl gets married? Have a great day! Deepak PS - I find that you are fast approaching 10000 mark, my best wishes are with you.

Hi, friend. Don't be too hard on your loved ones. Think in another way. They do love you and care about you, but they don't like to call you first because they just want you to call them first to show your love for them, or they don't like making phone call at all. But you should never doubt about their love. It feels nice to be loved, and every individual would want to be cared. My mom seldom calls me though i'm far away from home pursuing degrees alone. I sometimes complain too, but i try to convince myself that my mom loves me with all her heart, and it is actually like that. Whenever i return home on holiday, my mom takes care of me in the way as if i'm still a baby though i'm an adult already. Now i know what's more important to me. As long as there is a particular space for me in her heart, i'm satisfied.

Our culture have been the type with tight family relations and it is very unusual for us in our family to be out of touch from each other. We even have strong bonds with our cousins.

no one in the family ever calls me, it is almost obsolete. what we have now is sending messages, through text and instant messaging. i don't know if they have my number, or maybe, they keep on changing their numbers.

I don't have much family left & what i do have left never calls. I have one uncle & i haven't talked to him in over 2 years, his daughter very seldom ever calls even tho she tells me i can call anywhere anytime so i'll call u since it's long distance for both of them. That just tells me she doesn't care whether she talks to me or not. Have 2 cousins in nashville & i never hear from them. Whatever happen to families being close??

Hell SCG... We have talked about this.. hmmmm Well I think that sometimes you just have to do all the effort just to have the communication between families thing...

No my friend, all members in my family and relations have their own cell phones and either they or i call depending upon the situation.. we talk almost every day.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Prof

On my dad's side the family is huge. I've mentioned before how my dad is one of 16 kids. So we don't normally call each other. With the cousins and second cousins and third cousins...We send cards on occasion. My dad will call a couple of his sisters every couple of months, and they will call him. On my mom's side, she only has one brother. So on her side we talk to our grandmother, and she calls us every couple of weeks at least, but that's it. I really don't think much about it. EXCEPT my sister. I used to call her, but she'd never call me. She's changed that a bit now.

Hi Cowgirl! That is really sad! No one in your family can even remember your phone number? WTF? If that is the way that they feel then I don't really thing they deserve you to call them, unless there is really something mentally wrong with them and they have no other excuse! Me and my Mom don't always get along and sometimes fight and don't call each other for awhile, but even then we still remember that we can call each other if we need to and are ready to talk! Me and my Mom are all that we have (at least all that talk in our miserable phucked up family)! I'm sorry that you have to deal with this problem! I know that it must be hard on you! If you need to talk anytime you can call me! Here is my email addy opal2626@yahoo.com Send me your phone # and I will call you anytime! I could use an adopted daughter since I have no kids of my own and I mean that from my heart Cowgirl! Never forget that!

When it comes to family, if they don't call you need to, cause it sure won't be good to go too long and lose touch. My family is pretty good at communicating; some members call more than others, or tend to communicate more with some family members than other family members. I find that as long as I know they are communicating, and that no family member is out of touch with at least one member of the family, then we are okay. Take my own children, there are a couple that I'll talk to at least once a week, others, I'll call if I'm concerned about them, have news for them, or they haven't been in touch with their siblings. On the other hand, as long as I've heard how they're doing from a sibling I'm not going to bug them. I feel it's important to let young adults get their own 'feet' so to speak and build their own lives without mom butting in all the time. However, I do want them to know that I still care about how they are doing, and that they need to know how I am doing, or how their siblings are doing. One thing that has helped with family communication is facebook; I see way more pictures of my children and grandchildren on facebook then I would see otherwise, and I am way more clued in to what is happening in my children's lives by seeing what they've posted on facebook. When their father and I were raising them, it was expected that we would call his parents [who lived across the country from us] at least once a week. His mother wrote to us once or twice a week - a habit she had picked up from what was expected of her by her mother. This generation, that lives on myspace or facebook, or by text and instant messaging, is not apt to call their parents that often. I find it's helpful if I learn how to connect with my children through mediums that they use. And I am learning to connect with a number of people, not just family, through myspace, facebook, and instant messaging. I'm still a bit slow on the text messaging. LOL.

every one got something to do in their life...i don`t mind if no one calling but if i need to say i am the one to call..i leave separate at the moment with my children i call them every day to know everything with them and i love to doing it:)so if no one call you the one have to call dear:)or will no body call...by the way my mom always call me if need it money or want something and asking for help...also my sister and brother they call me if they need something i am fine with it since i can make them happy:)

Usually that's called - "I'm ignoring you" or "I don't care about you" - or at least is what I think when that happens. Try to make her a visit, socialize a bit more with her, I'm sure if you pass some extra time with her she will call you soon or later because it was well passed time.

I am sorry, I am sure that they don't mean to hurt you. I am kind of that person in my family, although really none of my family calls me that much. My family has never really been that close and now I have started making my own family so it is almost drawing me away from my birth family. I am the happier now than I have ever been though, so no complaints.