having kids

My parents were already 3 years into their marriage before they had me and they were also the same age as you guys. Except my mother was a year older than you were then and my dad was a year older than my mother. They only had me for the same reasons you did. I think if you're financially able, then why not go have a child? It's about time, and besides you might get to that age where you can't have kids. Then what would you do? Having children are blessings. They add more to the family, you learn a lot from children. You also get in touch with the kid in you when you have a kid. After all, time is there. If you really want to have a child, you'll get that instinct how to manage your time. I think it's going to help you a lot. Good luck!

It is not wrong for you o think of wanting kids. Everyone has the urge at one point or another in their life. Do you want a child? Ask yourself? Think of all the added responsibility- timewise, relationship wise, and financially it will add to your life. Would you be ready for it? Having a child is alot of work and must be supported by both parties involved. It is also a great joy though. However, if you are only jealous of friends then you may not be ready for a child. You need to be able to spend a lot of time with your baby,if you cant provide the financial responsibilities or time to the child you arent ready and it wouldnt be fair to your baby. It is a BIG decision. A life changing one. What do YOU want?

i can fully understand your dilemma right now. I think being married 3 years with no kids will somehow makeyou think that you are left out of the way normal couples have. I think many are expecting that you should have a kid by now and all of that stuff. But what I do not know is if you are really controlling having children or not. Are you two willing to have kids or is just resisting to have one. I think a couple should have one kid because that is part why you are a couple right. But if you are not controlling it then maybe its time to consult your doctor if you have any problem with having a baby. I think you should consider having one since you are already in your thirties and sometimes getting pregnant at that age means that you have to be careful already since you might get some complications in there as compared to hacing a child in your mid 20s.

I can't tell from your post if you really want a baby or if maybe you are feeling pressured because of your age and your friends. Of course you are good enough to be a parent. Why would you think such a thing? Some people just choose not to have kids and there is nothing wrong with that. Some of the most inspirational people in my life had no kids of their own but loved kids. As for age, I had my youngest daughter when I was almost 39. Something like having children is a personal choice between you and your husband.

You obviously have the motherly instinct. It is perfectly normal for a woman to feel this way. It is like your destiny. And I am sure you know that the longer you wait there could be problems when the baby. Kids take alot of work and time but they definitely are worth it. Alot of places and things to help you along the way now days too.

am a psychology graduate and man's psychological stage of development dictates that it is until 34 years of age that we are psychologically yearning of propagating. after that and we'd look forward or be totally concerned about taking care of old parents and having children way beyond 34 years of age wouldn't be so appealing to be our top concern anymore.

You feel your biological clock ticking louder as more of the couples you know start families of their own. I understand your concerns...I had the same ones before I had children...but you manage to find the time when you have a baby. And you manage to find time for two children if you have a second baby. Having a baby is a big decision but, if you wait too long, mother nature will make the decision for you.

well,I just had a baby, and I am so happy everyday though there are so many things to do with the baby...No, i dont think you are wrong.To have a baby or not is you own things, and maybe your husband just wanna be DINK family...(LOL)...maybe you 2 have busy working just what you've said and in a pressure and no time to think about having baby...but i think if you wanna baby you 2 have to be preparation ASAP due to your ages( in China this age bracket is considered a little bit dangerous when having baby)...

I don't think that there is anything wrong with having been married for three years without having children. A lot of people make different decisions in their lives and it seems that you want to be financially stable and feel like you can devote the time to a child that you would like to devote to them. There is nothing wrong with this at all. I've two children of my own and I gave up my dreams of having a career for them and although I love them with all my heart, I sometimes wonder what life would be like if I had made different decisions.

Hi Firebird, I know that it is hard for a marrie not to have children but I know that all things fall in the right time and I suggest that dont loose hope while waiting. God has a great plan for you and soon you will be having a baby too. I guess you are lucky because when the baby come, Im sure you can give him a good life compare to other couples who failed to provide good life to there children.

Having kids is part of our life and it's a choice...we must be responsible and must need to plan it first before we decide to have kids. Our kids can bring us joy and make our life fully meaningful.

Hello firebirdlizant!I really understand you for wanting kids in your lives. Children are blessings from God that truly create a perfect and happy atmosphere within any home. I am a mother of one, she is 6 years old now, at present i am 32 years of age as well and can't help to wonder why we didn't have another child since we're working on it a long time ago. So now, we are in the same boat for wanting a child badly. I advice you to consult your O.B. Gynecologists. It's better if you and your husband will go there so the doctor can have a full asessment of your condition and make yourselves ready to have a higher chance of conceiving a baby, and most especially, we should always pray so God may grant our request of having abundle of joy in our lives. Good luck and take care!

there's nothing wrong thinking about having your own kid/s. i think for a woman, this is a huge celebration of her femininity. i guess as a couple you have enjoyed so much of your time together and believe me so much more when you have a little bundle of joy. it's hard to raise a child;a really big responsibility but everything is worth it.