my ex best friend

United States
April 18, 2010 10:49pm CST
so i use to be close to this girl. we were best friend and new each other from high school and elementary school. i took her to nj with me and i paid for everything. i felt bad but now i look back and seems like i was used. when we got back she totally ignored me and was rude to me. we talked out our problems and differences and she said she would pay me back. then she said that i told her she did not have tooo.. so wrong.. i would like the money. we talked and talked and we are no longer friends anymore. was i wrong to take her on the trip with me? what am i doing wrong on being a friend. i dont get it? any thoughts....thanks
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@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
Your plan of taking her with you isn't wrong because you had good intentions to be with her. I think you should ask her about what her problems are before she'll get worst. I don't see any negative thing about your trip unless you did something to her that she got so pissed off and you were totally unaware of. I hope you can settle it out friend.
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firebirdlizant
@firebirdlizant (514)
• United States
18 May 10
i still talk with her but we dont talk as much anymore. we are having our reunion and i am trying to contact our whole class. i was told by a few people that she told people it was not going on cause we were having trouble. gotta love it. so far only 23 people confirmed and 16 people maybes. i need 80 people to have the big room. i did talk with her and she says she never said this but she is saying she is talking to people. dont make no sense... shes so evil i dont get it. can it be jealousy?? she keeps putting up things like some people are 2 faced and just being rude... what should i do. last time i said something we had a big blow up. any advice. i want to be her friend but i want her to grow up or something dont make no sense. you know. thanks.
celticeagle
@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Apr 10
I think you may have spoke of this before. I seem to remember it. Anyway, here are my thoughts on this: I think that this is a learning experience for you. I feel that communication in any type of relationship is very important. I hope that if you have a friend like this in the future (GOD FORBID!!)that you DON'T take her with you. And if she suddenly comes up with some scratch then hallejuliah!! I would not just take someone and pay for everything because quite often exactly what happened to you happens. "Well, I thought it was a freebie!" I would perhaps ask if they wanted to go or, if they said something about going, then I would tell them if they gave me a certain amount then I could go forward on making reservations, etc. Then perhaps share gas and food and whatever. Bottomline is I would have the larger ticket item helped with and other stuff I would try to get as much upfront as possible. Like they would atleast fill up the tank before we left and like that.
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