A Day to Yourself
By dorannmwin
@dorannmwin (36392)
United States
April 19, 2010 12:32pm CST
Today something has happened for me that hasn't happened at all in the three and a half years since my son was born. He spent the night with his grandmother in another city and my daughter is at school, so I am at home, all alone.
The question is, if you were at home all by yourself and you could do anything that you wanted to do for the day, what would you do?
Me, I'm getting ready to go get my hair cut and then I am going to browse the half priced book store. Then I will come home and wait for Kathryn to get home from school. We will then go get Paul and after we get back to town I'm going to have my mother watch them both for about an hour so that I can go to my aerobics class.
Share what you would do (or have done) when you had a day to yourself.
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17 responses
@Beautyfactor (1512)
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19 Apr 10
I would probably just enjoy my day by lounging around at home and maybe doing a bit of tidying up. It always amazes me just how much mess a child can make. I know it's not very exciting, but I like a tidy house!
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Apr 10
One child can definitely make a great deal of mess, but from my experience of having three preschoolers in the house at one time, I know that the mess that my son makes is very little.
@much2say (55669)
• Los Angeles, California
19 Apr 10
So glad you got some time to yourself! I have friends on Facebook that write in their status report about this topic . . . they almost don't know what to do with themselves when the kids go to school and they actually have FREE time! I am nursing my son still and his sleep during the day isn't great . . . so he is with me no matter what . . . so it won't be for a while that I get some time entirely to myself (I'm ok with it). My older one will be going to kindergarten in September, so I will have some of my time freed up . . . so we'll see what happens then.
BUT
If I did have some time for myself, I'd probably go hit the ice . . . it's been a while since I've gotten some real skating in. I'd only need a couple hours for that. I'd also get some shopping done for "me" . . . I haven't shopped "leisurely" in a long time (it seems). But quite honestly, if someone could watch the kids outside our home, I would LOVE to get this place cleaned up once and for all . . . it's hard to clean when the kids are home. Cleaning - what a way to spend a day for myself - ha ha.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Apr 10
That was what my mother suggested that I do was clean the house, but it just didn't sound like a very fun prospect (not to say that it doesn't need to be cleaned). I decided on doing what I did because my hair was in despirate need of getting trimmed and I ha a gift certificate for the book store.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
21 Apr 10
Moms definitely do need it once in a while. It is great to have the opportunity to pamper ourselves every now and then. I can't wait until Paul gets to spend the night with them again. And, perhaps I could send Kathryn to my mother's house and then the hubby and I could have a date night for once in our married life.
@much2say (55669)
• Los Angeles, California
20 Apr 10
Hee hee. Cleaning the house sounds "logical", but you're right it's not fun!! There aren't many days that we can have a chunk of time to enjoy, so you might as well take advantage of it and do something truly for yourself. I'm glad you got to shop and get your hair done . . . you must feel refreshed!! Moms need that once and a while - you deserved it!
@CJscott (4187)
• Portage La Prairie, Manitoba
20 Apr 10
Wow, as for me the first thing I would do is embrace my freedom. Usually I wear as few clothes as possible.
Of course, the house always seems to be cleaner when I am left here alone too. Aside from that I just study, and network.
With Appreciation.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Apr 10
That is funny about wearing as few clothes as possible. It is great to be able to embrace your freedom from time to time though.
@CJscott (4187)
• Portage La Prairie, Manitoba
20 Apr 10
It is my pleasure to tease and amuse you friend.
@beckie665 (14)
• United States
21 Apr 10
I love it when my daughter is gone , she is 16 so she has a lot of weekends when she spends with other friends and is gone overnight or two, I love it i get quiet time with my hubby and we can sit on the porch and listen to the birds and the wind whistling through the trees, we can enjoy a walk in the back woods . I can sleep later on saturday and then hang in my pjs most of the morning if i want, cause im not expected to drive her here and there, or i can get dressed and hubby and i can go for breakfast .There are so many things i can enjohy when she isn't around, but i do miss her when she is gone...
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
21 Apr 10
I think it is only natural to miss them while they are gone, but it is also very nice to be able to have that break from the children every now and then no matter how short the break may end up being.
@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
Just last week I have the full day for myself, because my son went to his grandmother hometown. He is having his summer vacation there for 5 days. So I am quite alone at home.
I immediately rush in cleaning the house, arranging all the furniture and closet. then after that I washed our clothes. After doing all the household chores, its now time to treat myself out.
I went to spa and have my foot spa and body massage. Its really a good day to end it with full body massage. When I went to our house its already dark, then I prepared some foods my favorite one. Have my tv on and reading some stuff. Just like it so much but I know its not always like. But at least we have a day for ourselves. Once in a while
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Apr 10
Being a mother, the time to ourselves is few and far between, but I really think that makes it more valuble when we do have that opportunity. The idea of a massage sounds absoulutely heavenly.
@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
Its really far and its unscheduled it will just pop one day. All the things that we could not done with ourselves that would be the best time to do it.
@mokkka (881)
• Bulgaria
20 Apr 10
The first thing I do when I am alone and free is to sleep some more hours because the thing I miss most is the calm sleep.Then I take my coffee and drink it at the balcony.I go out to some place I love for example a park or a swimmig pool.These places give me a lot of energy.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Apr 10
I did sleep in, and that was really strange for me. I didn't turn on the television throughout the day because there was no one to watch it. I experienced quiet while at home in a way that I haven't had the opportunity to for the past several years.
@chenxiaoyue_713 (2165)
• China
20 Apr 10
Hi, friend. If I'm at home all by myself, I prefer to do something I enjoy, like reading, watching movies, playing games, etc. Just imagining that I can play whatever games I like without being disturbed or blamed makes me excited. The important thing is I don't need to care about what others think and can just focus on my needs. Nearly all people have to care about surroundings in our daily lives, so a peaceful day to ourselves is a wonderful thing.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Apr 10
You are exactly right, it is like a dream to have some time where no one is going to judge you for what you are doing and there is no one that is depending on you for that time either.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
20 Apr 10
I don't often get time to myself, but there've been times when hubby is home and I'm just too tired or too stressed and he'll take all the kids out for awhile to give me some peace. I'll spend that time napping or doing stuff on the computer that I can't normally do without interruption. If I had a whole day to myself without the kids I'd probably do the same thing I do any other day.. just with less interruption.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Apr 10
That was actually my original intention, but then I realized that there were some things that I had wanted to do for me that would be easier to get done if the children weren't with me.
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
19 Apr 10
As far as I am concerned, I thinkif I am alone at homwe, I think I will try my best to be myself ,too. The first that i am going to do is to enjoy my life to the fullest,which for me maybe to turn on my own computer to enjoy it the whole day. Then I think I should do some cleaning in my own room ,which I want it to be clean and a tidy one.That is what I will do if I am alone at home how will I do to be myself.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Apr 10
The other thing that I really like to do when I am at home by myself is to take a hot bath and read. There weren't enough hours in the day to get that one done, but I still really enjoyed the opportunity to have a day to myself.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Apr 10
Honestly, this was a very long time coming. Though my in-laws only live about 20 minutes away from us, they had never kept Paul over night until January when my husband was having surgery and then not again until the other night. Now, when my daughter was little they would keep her at least one night a week every single week.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Apr 10
I considered also getting a Starbucks while I was out, but I decided against that so I wouldn't unnecessarily spend money.
@beesm17 (107)
• United States
20 Apr 10
My boyfriend went home(michigan) with our 10 month old at the time and I was home alone for 3 days. It was horriable. I always say I want time to myself but it was soooo hard and quite! I was preg at the time with our second son and the doctor said it wasnt a good idea for me to fly so far in the preg. SO I cleaned the house and get it ready for the new baby. I got to make him his own bedding which I would have never had time to do with my 10 month old running around. :)
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Apr 10
I couldn't imagine being without the children for more than a day or more than one night. When my daughter was 19 months old we left her here with the grandparents while Tom and I went on our honeymoon, but I was calling Kathryn constantly to hear her sweet little voice. I often wonder how there are some parents of small children that are able to send them to stay with their grandparents for a week or more at a time.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Apr 10
I wish that the day would have lasted longer because I would have taken some time to listen to music without the kids telling me what they wanted to hear.
@ersanmiguel (476)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
me time? all day? wonder when i can have that?
the least i can have an alone time is in the morning.when my kid is still asleep and my husband just went to work. that's the time i can do my on thing. if not in front of the computer or read books. i wish i can have that self pampering soon...=)
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Apr 10
Well, it really wasn't all day, but the few hours that I did have were wonderful. I loved browsing in the store without having to keep a constant eye on the kids.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
19 Apr 10
I can understand how difficult it is for the mothers to get me-time. On the other hand, for someone single like me, it's all free time. LOL..
After I return from work I get to enjoy a few hours of free time before going to bed. I usually surf TV or read books or sit down to mylot, like I am doing now.
Enjoy your day and enjoy the aerobics.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Apr 10
There might come a day when you are a parent and you won't have the joy of the free time that you have right now. Therefore, the best piece of advice that I can give you is to enjoy it while you have it.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Apr 10
hi dorannmwin I feel guilty reading all these discussions and saying sine I am retired and live in this retirement center I am a lady of leisure and have all my days to myself since the school district cut out all our senior programs. so I am on the net each day every day and mylot a lot
and I do mean a lot. but I love to hear you are having such a day so do enjoy it while you can. oh I love to browse in bookstores too.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Apr 10
The bookstores were awesome. I got to get myself six new books to read with the gift certificate that my sister gave to me for my birthday and I didn't have anyone asking me to buy them things. It was like a dream come true.
@sassy28 (834)
• United States
19 Apr 10
Actually next week we are losing both of our boys. They each have a field trip. The youngest one will be gone for one night, they are going to Ripley's Aquarium in Myrtle Beach to sleep with the sharks. I was so glad that they did not invite parents to go this year. I went two years ago with my oldest and sleeping on a floor with sharks swimming over you head was really not my idea of fun. But the kids love it. They lock the doors and only the kids from our school are there. They stay up till 1 am doing treasure hunts and all kinds of stuff with them.
My oldest son in going to Camp Kanuga in North Carolina for two nights. And no parents are allowed on this one either. I am not exactly sure what they will do there. I guess nature walks and hiking, kayacking and fun outdoor things.
So this means hubby and I have at least one night alone at home. We are going to go out to dinner and actually eat a meal without a fight going on. I am sure we will probably miss them though.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Apr 10
Oh, an overnight without either of the children sounds like a dream to me. I would love for this to get to happen for our family. However, the only times that both of the kids have been gone over night to date has been when daddy was having his kidney surgeries.