concern or obsession - which?

yeah i always look to the mirror not because of my weight actually i didnt find it attractive if the girl is really thin... i want to be a little bit balance... like me i feel like im so skinny..and i wanna gain a little bit weight... im im really really concious bout my look you know i was like looking at the mirror hundred times a day.. or even staring at me.. but theres one thing i found out... however it will not changed our looks...:) so just be happy with what we got..

Well for me, I don't really care how would I look like to other people. It doesn't matter as long as I am hygienic and clean enough. I don't put accessories to look better nor wear branded suits to make me looked upon better. I don't need the recognition of being vain nor good-looking. As long as I am recognized good and human, it is all fine.

I don't often look in the mirror. I have one mirror in my apartment, and that is the bathroom mirror that was in my apartment when I moved in. I don't like looking in the mirror. I'm defnitely not ugly, but I certainly don't think I'm pretty. So I try to avoid looking at myself as much as possible. That way I won't be as self-conscious.

I am neither concerned or obsessed about my looks. What u see is what u get, lol. There is not alot u can do to change what u look like.

I think concern is just a few steps away from obsession. It is fine to have a little concern about the way you look. As long it does not impact your life. I mean, some people have derailed their entire lives to see how they look. That concern just grows and grows, getting even larger and larger, until it goes into a full blown obsession and then the problems occur. I really do not look at myself in a mirror. I know people who do, both male and female. So it is not just a female thing, because trust me, there are a lot of men out there that obsess how they look. Like they want to look insanely muscular, that is a different type of obsession for their looks. Still, I do not really like looking in the mirror, because let's face it, it's only downhill here for me for my appearance. I have a bit of concern for my own appearance I guess. Not something that I really think about all that much. I most certainly do not lose any sleep over it for sure. Just enough to look presentable. Of course, it really depends on your definition of what presentable is. Still, there is more than enough for me to do as opposed to being too concerned or obsessed with the way I look.

Hello i think it is the young guys and girls who are more concerned for their looks, i know some elder women past 50 but still unmarried they too are, married women and men here in my place are just comfortable... Thank you so much for this nice discussion, cheers God bless you. Prof

I'm not obssessed with my looks. I mean I wear pajama pants and a men's tank top when I walk my dogs outside around the apartment or to check the mail. Honestly there is no one here to impress anyway. When I go to the store I will get more dressed up and put on some quick eye makeup but I'm still just wearing a top and some jeans and sneakers. If I'm going to be out all day like to several places like the mall, over to someone's house out to lunch etc. then I will do my hair nice and do my full makeup and wear a nicer shirt or whatever the occasion calls for. I have like levels of dress. lol But around the house I look like a serious bum. I mean, I don't want to get dressed up for cleaning and doing homework and being inside lol. I don't live with my boyfriend so I don't feel like I need to get dressed for him either. I am overweight and I am trying to eat better and maintain my exercise plan but it isn't necessarily to look better, I would like to be healthier so I can do other types of activities (I would love to learn to do some mixed martial arts, long hikes in the forest, white water rafting) and I just don't feel like I have a strength or stamina level for those types of activities so I want to lose weight. Plus I need to for my health. But other than that there are plenty of men who are interested in being with larger women like myself so I don't feel like I need to be obsessed with my actual looks.