Why is telling someone something is wrong is not judging

I do feel that when you say "do as I say, not as I do," and the person goes ahead and does it, and I say "you horrible person, how did you do that?" that is the kind of judgment that Christ told us not to do. Of course, that makes the person a hypocrite. It also boils in to a part of "everyone can do it and not me," and I am thinking of normal everyday things such as being able to drive a car when you do not live in New York, you are not poor, there is no poor service, or you are not a complete nincompoop. The part that I am unclear us is the accuse - if I see someone taking something from a store shelf, and not paying for it and walks out of the store without telling someone who works in the store, that he is showing it to his handicapped friend, I would think he is stealing. I do think that some people feel that if you tell them that they stole, and they accuse you of judging them because you did not know they have a sick and dying grandmother at home, that is a different story. They accuse you of judging.

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That is not the point. It is that some people consider if you say something they do is wrong, even if you are nice about it, they will consider you as judgmental. I have had that happen to me. I know that are some people who think that if you bake a cake, and help someone out, that they will like you, but unfortunately that does not happen. Some have their minds made up that no matter how wrong the thing is that they are doing, that they have a perfectly good reason to do it.

That is the trouble. When I was in my teens and before, being an unwed mother was shameful, even if one gave the baby up for adoption. In fact, not being a virgin before marriage made one beyond the pale. Now the world is gone crazy. If a girl get pregnant out of wedlock, she have to either kill the baby in the womb or keep it. If she gives the baby up for adoption, she hates the baby and those who adopt a baby are considered child-stealers and just doing it for the prestige. There is no excuse for killing someone unless that person is about to kill you himself (or herself) and you are defending yourself, your loved ones, or that you are on the battlefield and it is a war situation. It seems now that doing wrong is right and doing right is wrong. Completely turned upside down.

But is not that to do with partially about the rich man in fine clothes and the poor man in rags? I mean it is easy to tell whether the poor man is honest and clean, because even though he is dressed in old jeans and a tee-shirt, if his face is clean, it is different then someone who is unkempt if that person can go to the local washrooms and clean himself up a bit. The same with the rich man. If you see a rich man who is known for his charity, it is a bit different then seeing a rich man who makes a pig of himself and throws widows and orphans out in the street. So in a fact, by their appearance, you do make a judgment.

That is what I am talking about. Killing someone in their sleep is wrong even if he is a monster, but if he comes after you with an axe, and you happen to have a kitchen knife in your hand, that is self-defense. Now if the wife who killed her husband in his sleep was shown to have gone completely mad and there were signs already showing, that would be a different story. And at least the judge would have been sympathetic since she was mentally ill anyway and would have perhaps did something crazy even if she never was married.

are you referring to the abused women who kill their spouses and get off easy because they were abused? I agree with you having been in a very abusive marriage. If I killed my husband in self-defense, that'd be one thing but for me to be angry at the abuse and attack him in his sleep...sorry that is wrong.

I think one cannot be silent on their belief, and that means, Christians cannot stop talking about Christ if they are in public. There is someone in the crowd who wants to know about Christ even if the rest do not and it is not right for the others to say, "No you cannot mention Jesus." And it is wrong to not allow any Christian books in stores. That is why we have Bible selection at our Mall bookstore. But if someone does not want to hear about God or whatever, they cannot say "all right, I do not want to know about whatever religion, so we cannot discuss that on the internet." However in person, it is a different story. If I deliver fliers, and there is a note saying "no to fliers," I know I must not go there. If I am delivering religious pamphlets, and the note says "We are happy being ----:" no to anything wanting us to change our beliefs," then I know I will not deliver fliers. When I talk to someone, I may not know if that person is antagonistic until he or she walks away when I start talking about the ladies at church in a positive light. With birth control, I have no idea whether that person will die if they have another child or not. Sometimes doctors tell a woman to not have any more children or she might die. and sometimes a woman uses birth control not because she believes in it, but she does not want to be an unwed mother and may be in a situation when she may not escape the guy who is hitting on her. That is easy to understand. But there are somethings that are wrong because they will hurt others. Murder hurts others, stealing hurts people, being greedy hurts people,telling falsehoods hurts someone and they have been here from the beginning.

Stealing is wrong. It is just as bad for a poor man to steal to feed his family as it is for a rich man to steal just because he does not want to work. With the poor man, it is pride. He is too proud to go to the Social Welfare office or he is too proud to pick up cans or do odd jobs. Stealing electronics could be said as someone saved up and up for something, that they needed for work and was desperate. It is the same as stealing a planer or tools from a hardware store because you have to have your own tools for work especially in some mechanic jobs. It depends on what the person feels, but still stealing is wrong. One can ask for a loan, one can budget, one can work harder, etc. So it does not matter who the person is. It is the same thing as saying that like here in Canada, if you are an aborigine, and you steal, you go into a circle and talk to the elders, and you get a lighter sentence, but if you are not an aboriginal you steal, and you go to jail. As for appearance like dirty mud, it is a different story. If it has been raining or if she looks like a farm wife or a Hutterite who owned large farming collectives, one can tell that she has come a long way from farm country, the roads are muddy. And of course, if it rained not long ago, well that is evidence that she is not a neglectful mom. Now if she had a bottle in her hand and starts slurring, one can tell she is not a good mother. So in that case, it is seeing the evidence in the whole perspective.

If you see someone stealing from the store, would you think "all right that person is in rags, I will not say anything," or "that person is black, and their ancestors were slaves, so I will not say anything," but if a white person or a person who is the supposed wealthy majority stole then you would speak up. It does not matter if someone had a bad experience in life. A person who is poor can go and collect bottles, or ask to do something or take any job. He or she can say "I do not want to be a thief," and even if the person he asks has only a few pennies, they can at least ask them to carry a bag for them and give them the few pennies. As for finding good in others. Well I heard Goering loved dogs. And evil people do love their children. For me, judging is saying someone is not a Christian because they might go into a movie complex and I would assume that they are going to watch a really blasphemous movie when they could have just gone to watch a Disney nature film. We do have to be judged by the same standards. We cannot say it is all right for someone to steal or kill because they happen to be of a darker color, the same it is all right for someone to believe in God and Jesus Christ because he happens to be black and yet for us white people if we believe in Jesus Christ that we are hypocrites. To me that is wrong judgment.

Those Pharisees and Sadducees did not bring in the man she was cheating with. And them leaving showed that at least some of them might have visited the woman. She was wrong in being an adulteress but in reality they were trying really to trick Jesus. As far as the judging part, they were saying that they were without sin, when they were. For me wrong judgment is telling a person not to do something when I am doing the same thing. In that case, the best thing is to say "We both eat too much, so why not both of us keep check on each other, so when we go by a donut shop and I want to go in, you stop me or when you go into Dairy Queen, I stop you," Also saying a person can do something and get a lighter sentence because he is of a different culture is wrong. Or saying something like 'Of course that person is a thief, all ----- are." that is bad judgment.

It is not right to assume the other person's family is responsible for their being a thief. More then likely, they tried to discourage that one from stealing and he would not listen. To me, I think bad judging is when a person is giving an excuse on account of their color, place of origin, etc. Or more then likely even though one accuses someone of a crime, one says that because a person has a different skin color or religion or comes from a different country, that person should have a lighter sentence then someone from my country or my religion who commits the same offense. Also assuming that the person is all bad because he did something wrong. I guess that means being disproportionate. I remember when I stole a pair of pantie hose, the store owner said I was completely evil and gave me the impression that he figured I was capable of murder, etc. That was bad judgment on his part. It did keep me from stealing from then on, because I was more afraid of being thought of as a bad person then of as a thief.

My former pastor has diabetes that runs in his family, also our new pastor's wife has diabetes in her family, plus my daughter=in-law. Neither of them is overweight, but they have to be careful and check their blood sugar. Oh by the way, have you tried Chromium? That will help and it might make you lose weight. My doctor is a pill pusher.Even though I did not have diabetes, he prescribed some pills just in case But what I did was to try to find some natural way to reduce my blood sugar and now it is almost at normal. I can also see it in my friend who has high blood pressure and as well as my husband, neither who is overweight, and yet because I am a little on the heavy side, people think i have high blood pressure and high chloresteral levels. Not true.

Does that mean when someone does something wrong like stealing and what could hurt someone, one has to keep quiet? Does not work for me. The Bible says to judge righteous judgment, that is to not do the same thing that they do and say to them it is wrong, but to keep them from doing wrong and tell them they should not have done that because it does hurt. If things went your way, no wonder crime is increasing because it is not right to sit around and let someone do horrible things and commit sins and evil.