my son doesn't want to share his toys!!!

I had a severe lack of trust when it came to sharing toys with my siblings growing up. I still don't trust my brother as far as i can throw him(which isn't very far, but he's a little on the tubby side right now.) I say it's perfectly normal.

Hi, most of the kids are like that. Even my son is also the same, he donot want share his toys with anyone. But i can say they will slowly change their attitude as they grow up. They may turn so generous also. Let wait and see, but also should be telling him and guide him in a sweet manner.

i guess so...even though am a she i was like this when i was his age. hard to put a reason to but i think talking to your child about this in a nice way while letting him know what his sister might be feeling would help.

I guess it's normal. When my brother was younger, he also used to be like that with our cousins the same age as him. Whenever they visit, my brother and my cousin would have separate toys but they'd play with each other.

Yes it is normal. These are his belongings and he is in charge of who plays with them and should be respected just as your daughter toys are her and he should respect that. If his toy gets broken , are you going to go out and replace it right away or not? Let me put it this way. You own a car , a house, or something that means something means a lot to you that may have been a gift or something (as toys are to children) and someone wrecks it , destroys it ( even if family or friends) would you not wanted it replaced? When he shares with friends he believes that they will take care of it where as a three year old will not or cannot be expected to be careful. Another reason is he is not her babysitter and if he playing with his friends, she is just getting in the way and that may bother him. They are basically considered as only children because their age difference is so far apart. He cannot be on her level and her on his. It is hard, I know I have been there. Boy have I been there, lol. Children need their space and to know their stuff is safe. It is all they got and they will treasure it. He will be dating when she is in school. it is a hard age gap. I would ask him exactly what the issue is and how can we handle it, change it to make easier for him to include her on some of the activities? Let him speak without interrupting, acknowledge his feelings and go from there.See what he comes up with as a possible solution. It works out better when they come up with a solution because you acknowledge that they are old enough to do and you are giving them credit for it, Remember he was the center of attention for a long time and now he has to share you guys and sharing his toys are not on his agenda just as she was not on it. I am sure he loves her and everything. Its a his space thing. In another year or so his feelings will change again,lol. Its a roller coaster ride that i have wanted many times to get off. They eventually come to a happy medium. Good Luck.

Hi thersdae_me I think that's normal for kids. I used to have that kind of attitude when I was young also. We used to fight with my younger brother with simple things. But when we reached the age of 15-17 things had changed even our attitude towards each other. We love each other and understand each other. I have a close relationship with my brother. We're not fighting anymore.

there are diferent kind of nature in children too ...like we see in adult people...some want to share and they care not much about their toy's life..while others are too possessive about their belongings...same is with your son...my daughter and son are only 4 years apart and they play joyfully with each other...

I think that it is normal. He doesn't want his younger sister to break his toys, it might also be that he thinks of them as "boy toys" as sometimes that is the case.