Impossible situation, do not know how to react!!!
By marianna45
@marianna45 (1399)
Romania
April 21, 2010 12:50am CST
Saturday is the birthday of my friend, but the same day, her mother died 6 months ago, so Saturday will commemorate 6 months when she lost her mother, but it's her birthday, and every year celebrated this day, but for my friend birthday, not for her mother died.
I was invited, but now are invited to commemorate her mother's , how to react?
I need to buy flowers for the cemetery, to commemorate, but i must buy flowers for my friend who was born the same day, one day will be very sad for her, how I can go to and say "happy birthday"?
I am really very confused
I do not know what would be... of course will be a very sad one day when she would cry a lot, she adored her mother, but ... a sad day for her birthday?
How do I do? What would you do to me?
I do not know what would be... of course will be a very sad one day when she would cry a lot, she adored her mother, but ... a sad day for her birthday?
How do I do? What would you do to me?2 responses
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
21 Apr 10
I am very sorry to hear this.This time you have to take flowers to commemorate her mother's memory becasue that is what she has invited you for.Don't worry too much .Just take a small bar of chocolate or so and give it to her later when she is in a calm frame of mind.It is 6 months but her memories would be painful and you will have to go with the mood this time. Life is long, and you can cheer her up the next year.On the other hand, if she herself is relatively calm and resigned[it may be far fetched]then you can wish her quietly, give the chocolate and come back.
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@marianna45 (1399)
• Romania
21 Apr 10
Hi, is a good advice,Is not too happy coincidence, a few days ago when talked with her, she asked me if it is a sign, of course I contradicted,i will try, to "forget"that her birthday is Saturday, and Sunday I will pretend to have forgotten her birthday ... and then tell him happy birthday
@Beautyfactor (1512)
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21 Apr 10
I would still go ahead and buy the flowers for your friend too, but really you don't need to say anything. I am sure she will understand and appreciate your gesture. As a friend the best thing you can do is to just be there. I can only imagine what a difficult situation this is for your friend, so just be there for her when she needs you.
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@marianna45 (1399)
• Romania
21 Apr 10
Hi, i am there for her all the time we are old friends, as she is here when i need her too, i ll try just to let her in peace , and after the comemoration will end, i ll call her, and i ll try to change her mood....i ll try
