My lover has a another lover

It's really hard and very sad. You should think about your self and move on. If thats the case that man or women doesn't deserve any love from you.

Good Morning dear Seetroughthedark , first of all i want to wish you a warm welcome and stay on Mylot , hence we've got great members ready to help you out and give you advice whenever they can and have the inspiration to do so. Now for your anguish i cann say that i am first of all verry sorry to hear that the person you care about treats you like that , hence i believe that in a relationship ( even if a short relationship ) you have to stay honest and clear to the person you ar emotionaly involved , hidding and cheating like that cann only make the person you are with , feelling that he/she might of done something wrong , that he/she not have enough financial situation to keep him/her happy , or that she might not be pretty enough for him/her , and believe me it is he's / her's fault no matter what !!! Dont ever believe that it might be something wrong with you , since you have always stayed open , honest , fidel and ready to do no matter what for that person happinnes , now if he/her does not see that and decides to go dark on you and cheat you , lie to you and one day when you are at work and you come back all you find is a note on the table saying that he/she not feels happy enough or i dont know what reason she might of found , just let it all go and cry there when no one see's you , and then get your moral and feellingz up , because YOU my dear friend are a Wonderfull person , and any normal (honest and open person ) guy or girl will love to spend quallity moment near you. Cheer up my friend , you had nothing to loose , on contraire you have just gained a little bit of love life experience , dont feel down and cheer up :) Have a great day Dear Seetroughthedark

You mean your boyfriend have girlfriend??? HMMM.. hOw would I feel?? Of course bad ,insulting and hurt. I don't like we are two at the same time even if he would say that it is only fling and you are the serious one. First thing I will do is that I will find proof that it is true. Then When I prove it I will talk to him personally and be frank. Then listen to his side. Then analyze. Then its up to you. If he is capable to be given a chance or you need to punish him.. Your decision should be a way to let him justify if his love is true.

i understand it can be quite painful to to discover that your lover has another lover. what you can do is talk to your partner in a civil manner about what happened. if you no longer want to stay in the relation then let your partner be aware. it might get emotional but you have to get it out of your chest. in your conversation you may find ways to work it out but if you feel that you should just let go then do so. there's no use staying in a relationship when trust and love is no longer present. may everything turn out well for you.