Dominating people

Try to remain calm in the face of a dominating person or a situation which is threatening to flare up into a full fledged battle of wits. They will try to put you down and may even go all out to publicly humiliate you. Handle the situation with care: and in this case, the word "care" mostly means....do not react. At the same time, do not show you are being intimidated. Insults will be hurled freely at you, and under unpredictable circumstances. Do not be provoked. Be firm and calm, yet show your superior personality by not losing your dignity, self-esteem and balance. Remind yourself that you are dealing with a totally irrational human being who is out to get you. If you play into the hands of an aggressive-dominating type, you will be harming yourself and relations with people whom you actually love, for these people try to hit out where it hurts the most. Say affirmative things to yourself, and always stay alert when you sense that the conversation is going the wrong way. Take control of dominating people by remaining in control of yourself.

SIT him down & tell him how u feek & give him a chance to change. I would not live like that if i was u. My ex was that way & along w/his drinking is why he's my ex. More than likely he want change but at least u know u did what u could. life is too short to live w.am azzhole.

Hi Sallyj, I hear you. My dad was just like your husband. I grew up with it, I was so happy when I graduated and moved out. In fact because of it I moved into a bad marriage that ended in divorce. I just so wanted out of the house! I never worked until after I got married, he wouldn't let me. He was the same way with my mother and her response was always "well, he has never hit me", and it was true, it was all verbal, but so much meanness. How to move out of your depression and to end the 'abuse', I don't have an answer for you. My daughter has Lupus, and that is a depression all its own. Can you do something outside the home? she is serving senior meals at the service center and I think it is good for her. Do you live where there are things that you can get involved in? IF you like kids they always need volunteers at the local elementary school. Do you attend church, can you talk to your pastor? Maybe find soemthing to get involved in at church or even start your own Bible Study group. My mom found her release through our church. But my dad was very verbally negative about it but she went anyway. May God bless you.

I am sorr y to read what you have written.Is your hubby a good man otherwise and does he shoot his mouth even when you are quiet and meek? Do you have a job or are youa housewife?Is it a love or arranged marriage? Why does he behave like this?Was he always like this?

I think that you will first need to value yourself and know that you deserve to be treated with respect. Then you need to tell your husband that you expect to be treated with respect and that you will tolerate being treated like a second class citizen. I would also inform him that if you are being disrespected you will remove yourself from that environment even if it is just you leaving the room. I would suggest that you look into counseling. Good Luck! And I hope you are able to realize how important you are!

The key here is being confident. Being confident means that no matter how much they put you down, you know that you are NOT worthless.

The best way to deal with dominating people is to prove them wrong. You don't have to be aggressive too. Just state your point that proves him wrong. This almost always works with anyone.