When your kids are scolded by other people, do you get hurt too?

My girls are adults now, but I do remember when they were young. While they were well-behaved almost all of the time, there were times when another adult would scold. My own opinion is of the 'it takes a village to raise a child.' By that, I mean that children often will take the criticism more to heart when coming from someone other than their parents and are more apt to listen. I'm not talking about over critical adults, but rather adults that are giving a scolding for a good reason like: don't pull my dogs ears, don't lie, don't cheat,don't run in front of cars etc. What we have to remember is that someday that child will grow up, and they are developing interactive skills. (Who has not had a boss that scolds?) In other words, if they don't run into this type of person when they're little, they'll be crushed when they grow up and face reality of life with other humans lol. I never took personal offense if somebody scolded my child, as long as it was a legitimate scold for a good reason. If nothing else, it can open up a good discussion, as well as a lesson, for a child when they've been scolded by another. Personally, I'd never scold another person's child unless they really needed to hear it and their parent wasn't around to deliver the same message. I'd only scold then if something they were doing was going to cause either harm to themselves, or to others.

My children are teenagers now, and to this day I do get a little offended when they are scolded by others. My tongue seems to get a little sharper and my manner is a little colder after such an inicident. I knoww these things are probably said for the good of my children, but I like to be the one in charge of reprimanding them.

Hi laydee,I remembered my son before was scolded by his classmates mom due to misunderstanding, not in front of me it was just reported to me by his classmate.Yes,I admit it really hurts me,maybe it is natural to a mother being concern to his child.But I dont react for that,because it helps my son to be a beter person.I've just adviced my son not to do it again.