Getting Involved in a Long Relationship???

Sad to say that bestfriends, no matter how intimitate you are can never be romantically attached. Well, maybe the reason why she's giving you a cold treatment is that she's already married and she doesn't want to bring trouble to her husband and her future family. You have been close for long and if you'd stay close or intimate until now, her husband might get jealous. Things change for some reasons.

WOW, you should have courted her... now that she is married,of course, her husband would be jealous if she will still continue being that close to you bro... you are too passive. i know you like and love her.... well, give way to them.... put yourself to her husband.. do you like your wife to be so close to her male friend? of course not... i hope you got the point bro...

As you had said, she is already married, I think she is just putting things in their right places. She wants to concentrate with her husband I think...you are fond of the attention you got from her which is okay since she is not yet married that time, but since she got married I think its not right to get involve with her, there might be a tendency she would fall for you if you keep on involving yourself in her life...

hi arunmails sorry but she cannot be so close to you anymore as she is married and she must be true to her husband.You do not want to break up her family surely and that could happen if her husband gets really jealous and upset.of course she is changed she has a new set of priorities and must cleave to them. You are a friend but she cannot get romantic with you and now she has her own family. why is it so? surely you can understand she cannot be close withyou a nd still carry on her love with her mate, maybe she is afraid she might have had romantic feelings once for you and will not want to chance reviving them as she is now married. You might not have changed but she has. you will have to find a new girl friend who is not married.

Your lives were combined before and so you had many things in common. Now both your lives have changed and there just isn't so much to talk about. If you had continued your close contact you would likely still be close.

I am so sorry tp hear that,arunmails.a true friend plays really an inportant role in the life.she is married,and so silent,I think maybe it is not a good information.you need talk to her.because you are the best friend to her. In my opinion,if she choose you it is good for her.In this two month maybe something happened and have a good influence on her.you should not loose her.talk ,talk ,talk.best wishes to you.

Hi arun, In between husband and wife both are possessive on each other. I think the possessiveness is good upto some extent to get a successful marriage life. In your friend’s case the same thing happened. In a short period of time she could understand her husband’s nature and she is ready to change her attitude for the sake of her married life. You can’t blame her, according to Indian culture, girls are giving more importance to their husband and it is quite natural. I agree with your observation. Long term friendship is not possible in between girls and boys. It is possible only when the boys are ready to change their attitude.

She would really have to know how to draw the line my friend, besides she is already married. I myself would know because if I put myself on your friend's shoes, I would do the same. Not because I have to distance myself with friends, but you know, opposite genders as friends are mostly misunderstood by many and if people sees you and they don't know you both, they might interpret it wrongfully. Don't be sad. This is reality, she had to do what she had to do as a wife now to her husband. If the husband knows you too, then i guess you would have understood more clearly. She cannot share to you anymore something personal, it will be inappropriate anymore. The focus now would be the husband and her future family. Even if she is still a friend to her friends, priorities will be changed because of the status. You would have understand the situation if ever you are the one who got married first and she was single. Long term relationship but leveled to friendship is the one you would have been thinking is ok, but more than that, will never be a good idea. Cheer up, you will have that person for you to keep you company for the rest of your life.

Oh...that`s sad!In my opinion, you have been friend with her for quite a long time, right?Have you ever felt that you are really in love with her and she has the same feeling too?Maybe, again it`s in my opinion, you both have THAT FEELING, but she thought that you never expressed your feeling, then she found someone else.I can understand how you now feel that you already lost your soulmate. Hope everything`s OK with you

well arun, she could come under two category of people, 1) the ones who are close to the people in their surrounding only and they go on to some other place, they make good friends and that's their present. they don't bother calling the old friends. 2)she would probably be too busy with her married life and sudden changes in her lifestyle would ve made her change according to it. well what ever it i, only she can tell you. you ve to talk to her and find out1

Somehow you should understand her you know..shes already married..and its not nice to be seen like really super close to other guys... coz you know people mentality.. just understand her tyr otp put ypur shoes on her shoes if you already had a wife will you think she will like to see nyou and your girl bestfriend laughing out loud? of course not.. soemhow you will find some jealuosy on it..so maybe she just dont want it to happen:)