Risk??

Hi Frozenfire, Well, for one thing, anytime we get into a new relationship there is always the chance that it won't work out and we may end up getting hurt. Or we could well be the one that hurts the other person. There is no guarantee that a relationship is going to stand the test of time. One thing that stands out here is the fact that you already do not trust him and think he would cheat on you. Is that your own fears or is there some real reason why you don't trust him?

If you don't trust him now your surly not going to trust him if you were with him! You will only make yourself miserable thinking about things like that trust me I know I am there right now. Tell myself I would be better off not with whom I am with because then I wouldn't have the stress of wondering if he is going to cheat on me or when he is going to leave me. But there is kids involved in my situation and it makes the desicion much much harder. My advice, don't even get started with it!

you just met this boy so i would get to know him a little better. this way you can see what he is really like. you say you don't trust him. did he do something that made you think this way? it seems to me that he is friends with your friend and you are afraid. you may go out with him and he may leave you for your friend. this is why i say get to know him better. if he really likes you he will want to be with you. i wish you the best.

I think you should cross the bridge when you get there.... or should I say dont count the chicks if the eggs arent hatch yet??? dont assume too much, liking is different from loving...and if you like him enough to get him into a relationship...its just not right to not trust him cause loving is trusting... hope I had given you helpful insights and if you ever give your self a chance prepare to get hurt cause nobody gives us the guarantee not to be hurt when loving, its the risk you have to take but if you choose to let go, well its your choice, but be sure that what ever you decide upon be sure to be happy with your decision and that you are ready to stand for your decisions... have a nice day...

Your best bet is go with your gut feeling. You said you don't trust him. Did he do something to cause that or just a feeling you have about him. Listen you instincts and not your emotions.

Hi frozenfire I would suggest you to wait, just to see if he is the right one. Remember the old saying "Time can prove everything" If I really like a girl, I would wait for her and give her sometime to get to know me. You should know him more and make sure you trust him before he becomes your boyfriend. Good luck :)

It's not a good idea to go into a relationship if there isn't trust. How happy will you be with him if you are constantly wondering if he is cheating on you? I think you'd be better off remaining friends and leaving it at that. It's a miserable life to be suspicious all the time.

so glad i am married. but either way i look at it, you still be worry about that if he didnt know your friends. so trust is one thing that not just the guy but the ladies need to build on. if you like him i would say take a chance on him, you will never know if you dont give him just alittle trust. i tell people dont rush things take it slow for awhile. good luck.

I think you shouldn't think about it so much. A date is not an appointment for the whole life, maybe you don't like him either after spending some time with him. I think you should just think of this date as an opportunity to know him better, and if things go well, you have time to decide what to do!

Hi frozenfire~ You are way too young to even be thinking about a serious relationship! In fact, you are even to young to be in a relationship! At your age, you should just be going out with a group of friends and having fun! You shouldn't even be thinking about anyone as "boyfriend material"! Just go out and have a good time and don't think so much! You can do all that when you are older!lol

Hi Frozen, Just don't take it so serious this time. just enjoy each others company and give yourself the chance to know thhe person if you really like or love him. at least you gave yourself the opportunity to know him well. let it come naturally. don't force any relationship yet. good luck.

i think what you need to do is to know him more. Do not rush things out. Because deciding on it is not in done in one seating only. You should think of it very carefully. But the best thing to do is, pray. Ask god to help you and give you a sign if he really is the one. And if you're really meant for each other, you will be together in the end no matter what happens. So, do not rush things out. PRAY. :)

dont worry too much everybody deserves a chance and if you like him also...go for it...theres nothing wrong with it.... if he lies or cheated on you...then move on theres a lot out there better:) unless you wanna get married thats why your too seriuous... if your noy meant for each other..lets accept that every relationship ended up on break up....(but not always negative sometimes they became friends) and there you go till you find the Mr. Right... but you know you can sense it if the guy is sincere or not..;) well gooodluck:)

I guess you just need to know him better because taking the risk sometimes is dangerous when you fall to a stranger.

Do you mean taking the chance of asking the guy if you want to be together in a relationship? Well, you could do that but you have to be ready whatever the effect of that action would bring to your friendship. I would say that you should take it slow. Maybe he's just mustering the courage to ask you out formally on a date. Maybe he's also thinking if taking a step further would affect your friendship. Why do you say that you don't trust him or if going in a relationship with him would be best? Has he done anything in the past like cheated on a girl or something? I guess you should take the time to get to know him better.

Hi Frozen, how can you be such a paranoid?? LOL. Has he told you that he wants you to be his girlfriend? You're thinking too much and you fear of the unknown. Take it slow, make friends with him, find your common grounds and see if you share the same interests. If he courts you, then decide if you want to give it a try. Don't think of getting hurt if you're not in a relationship at all. The first step is to get comfortable with each other, determine if he's the type of guy you like or just someone you want to keep yourself in a relationship with. Have him as a bf because he's the one you like and not because you just want someone to call your lover. If he's already your bf, stop thinking about getting hurt but share your contributions in your future relationship to keep your man. If he still hurts you then at least you won't regret that much coz you did your part.

That guy is not your old friend. Not yet you both of you have become so close. Take time to know him more. Then decide whether you will response to his love. My suggestion is don't go to any risk. Love is not a matter of taking chance. If you become sure that you can trust him then proceed . Wish you good luck.

Hiii frozenfire If you start dating with him it isnt mean you are in relationship with him.If oyu find out something is wrong with him after 2-3 months oyu can leave him there only.Dont assume you start dating means you are in relationship with him. So go ahead and have fun.

If there is any element of doubt in your mind about having a relationship with a person, I would say that it is best to not get into a relationship with a person. Besides that, you are the only one that can judge your own feelings and knowing that you feel like you are taking a risk is not really a good thing. You are definitely doing the best thing for yourself to avoid taking the risk and save yourself some pain later.

For me if you like him then ask him to visit in your house so that your parents know more how to do in such issue about you and him.