Do you think most people have too much drama going on?
By laydee
@laydee (12798)
Philippines
April 22, 2010 3:19am CST
I do know how it feels to be brokenhearted, to be stressed and to be negative. But don't you think that sometimes we just need to keep things to ourselves because of how our negativity would also affect other people?
I can't figure out how vulgar people are about their problems these days. You see people shouting in the corridors due to stress. People posting their drama over the internet everywhere, and it usually happens where there are many people getting the chance (poor us) to see it. Facebook. Yahoo. Friendster. Twitter. Television. Etc.
It seems everywhere I go, I always see people expressing their drama. But what's worst is the fact that most of the time it's the same people doing it in public.
Oh my aching head. I'm tired of seeing a friend posting all her drama in Facebook and Yahoo. Can't help but get to see it every time I go online yahoo. Sheez.
Do you think most people have too much drama going on?
Disclaimer: I don't intend to insult the good people in mylot who post their problems and worries. I'm just ranting about a particular person in Facebook and Yahoo who can't seem to have happiness in her life - worst, I can't do anything about it.
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17 responses
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
hahaha! i know the feeling.. actually that's what i did and i also turned off the notifications going to my mail! it just too much for me to take that this one person would broadcast everything in Facebook! I mean.. how could you live a life when you are living in a cyberworld!!! i think some could be delusion creating their own drama!
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@Amigone (43)
• United States
23 Apr 10
I don't think that this is a fair comment. Many people have friends that are real life friends on thier facebook that they do not get to see much because of distance. They would want those people to know what is going on in thier lives.
I also think that we downplay the connections that we make with people over the internet by saying things like, "It isn't real life". You can meet people and form strong bonds with them over the internet. Giving the impression that someone who lives across the country that you communicate with through internet is not a real friend is a closeminded view of the world.
Also, on the other side of the screen is a person who has feelings and is apt to be hurt just like any other person. If someone posts that they are going through a hard break up, someone is making them mad in the world etc, then that's how they are feeling. It doesn't matter if that person is on the other side of a computer screen or next to you, that doesn't make thier feelings anyless real.
@clocks123 (1225)
• United States
22 Apr 10
Yes, i believe too much drama isn't good for you or anyone else. it does help to express yourself and sometimes we don't have anyone to tell it to. we would like to find others who have experienced or are experiencing the problems we have. some things should be kept to yourself for example your personal issues as this is our business and no one elses. the stars, sports figures, who are always in the limelight unfortunately have all of this for everyone to see. this goes on for a long time. enough already, right
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@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
22 Apr 10
I think we all have a little drama going on. It may be that people let loose on the cyber world with it, so they can get on feeling better in the real world. It may not be how your friend is. But for some, venting there, well means they don't have to vent in reality. It keeps things more peaceful.
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
22 Apr 10
Hi laydee, I agree with you .I feel that we need to maintain a certain amount of dignity and draw a line as to how much we can publicise about our private and personal matters.But having said that people are different with different kinds of needs and comfort level.Some do like to share things with all and they feel better afterwards , having got it off their chest...But personally speaking i would rather keep certain things to myself..
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
22 Apr 10
Sometimes we make our own ddrama. Sometimes we put more into a situation or circumstance than we need to.. Some people need the extra attention and the added drama to give meaning to their lives.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
22 Apr 10
I try to keep my private matters exactly that, private. I just wonder if anyone could care about any personal drama in my life. I tend to think that the answer is no. Then again, there is a lot in my life that is bland but there tends to be some things that go on that are crazy. It is a strange life for sure but posting that drama for the entire world to see, that is not something that I am a big fan of.
Yet, there are some people that do. I will say this. People cope with things in strange ways. Therefore, maybe broadcasting all of their problems on the Internet is there way of coping with the drama in their life. I guess, if that is what they want to do, they can choose to do that. Just like I can choose not to read it. Still the times that I accidentally come across it, it does frighten me some of the things that make their way onto the Internet, posted by people about themselves or even others.
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@rjvb26 (2518)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
O yeah, i agree with you. And too much negativity will bring us no good at all. Sometimes we really need to sit back, relax and enjoy the show. Just go with the flow and learn to face anything. Being negative will not help us at all but it will give additional problems to us. 
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@Amigone (43)
• United States
23 Apr 10
Everybody has drama. I have drama, you have drama. That's normal and natural. Some people like to share a bit more than others.
However, there is a marked increase in people's need to 'overshare' as it were. And that can get annoying. But when a friend has legitimate issues then one can only be a sympathetic ear and try to help them through their troubled times. And if it's getting to be a bit too much then as a friend you can always say hey, brighten up sunshine, the world ain't so bad.
I don't think that most people have too much drama going on. I think that life is hard and some people just cope better than others. I also think that people can become very lonely and are just looking for a connection when they post about the things that are bothering them.
@khalida (1126)
• India
22 Apr 10
well i know what you are saying! i've mostly seen in in facebook only. in fact there is a group in fb that says"i am not interested in your problems updated as status! " i think if they tell their friends about the problem and they get a let out fine. but what use can come out of ranting it out they way you say they're doing!?
personally i don't update my personal stuff on fb. mostly my bad state of mind or problems. that is because its "personal" and i don't want it to be lying there in fb where every one can comment. plus only my close people know about my problems!
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@manbir84 (134)
• India
24 Apr 10
No dear thats not true.We are living in "so called" advance world so every human wants to live better life.It his right to feel better and if it comes by sharing its problem with other then what is wrong in it.Life is so stress these days that no one has even time to listen other problem.If someone tries to listen his or her problem then he or she listen his/her problem very casually.Everyone thinking about himself.So some people feel comfortable to share their problem,stress on blogs etc.Nothing wrong in it.
@joyzcare (30)
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
There are people who releases their stress and anxiety in order to be calmed. Of course it can be done verbally with a trusted friend. But the easiest way these days is thru the net.This way they do not disturb anyway, only those interested to read their qualms. Of course readers can't do something about it but maybe we can help by understanding them. If the same problem is posted over and over again we can refrain from reading but still continue supporting them because it just means the person haven't recovered yet.
@karlle (221)
•
22 Apr 10
You can do something in facebook, you can hide their post so no more drama updates from them, that's what i've done..
I might say it's the facebook trend..they are facebragger. Facebragger as define by the urban dictionary: one who uses facebook as flatform to brag, normally about about job, purchase or anything else that nobody really needs to know but they like to tell to everyone...
Have a nice day laydee :)
@Dark_void23 (129)
• Australia
22 Apr 10
Yes i believe most people do have too much drama going on, but that is life, what would life be without drama in peoples lives? boring thats what lol, people would just be doing their normal thing without thinking of differant things, a little bit of drama is good.
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@phoenix867 (182)
• India
29 Jul 10
Every body has dream.You have dream they have dream and wanted to overcome with their dreams in the future.Who knows we all are working so hard to fulfill our dreams to come true.I don't think people do not have dream and just like that,even a small child can dream a lot to become some one in the future.
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
Just try to understand these people. I suppose they use such site to vent out disagreements, sentiments and hurts because it is their only outlet in life. Although if it looks too personal already, then just ignore it specially if you cannot do anything to that matter to solve because it only needs themselves to solve their own issue.
Whatever that may be, call it mellow-drama or not, but letting the emotions out is really a good therapy at least, but I am not talking about cussing or speaking violent and dirty words to public and such sites ok, because I'm not happy with that kind of reactions.
@airakumar (1553)
• India
23 Apr 10
Yes, I do believe. People who do that, just needs attentions and encouragement though. I think they just want to be in lime light so that other people know what's going on in one's mind. I personally don't do that and also don't believe it should be done. I think the more popular the person is, the more drama is there going on and others just read and enjoy and if like or dislikes comment it too but this doesn't have any effect on them. I too personally don't want to hurt any one's intentions but it is true and one have to accept it. @mannylayne (49)
• Canada
23 Apr 10
It's only drama to a person if they perceive it that way. There are people out there that thrive on misery and would be lost if their world was perfect. They often go out of their way to create drama (more often than not it is subconcious). Somehow over the years they have learned that "whining" gains attention. Eventually, the personality developed in such a way that it becomes an integral part of who they are.
I know a couple of people like this. THey are so bad, in fact, that they are almost completely incapable of having a two-way conversation. They are only interested in talking about themselves.
Somehow their self-pity is paying off for them - like anything else, it's best to ignore and not acknowledge. Unfortunately at this stage of her life, it is very unlikely that she will ever get off the pity pot.
