Problems you cannot share
By shimesasa
@shimesasa (46)
Australia
April 22, 2010 3:37am CST
Have you have problems or things that bother you yet you can't share it to anyone? You felt so much in pressure but it can be only contained within you?
6 responses
@javalooks (51)
• Indonesia
22 Apr 10
Yes of course I had, it because I think I don't want makes other people come to feel burdened with my problem. So I think it will be better if I just keep my own problem and try to find the solution as hard as I can.
@shimesasa (46)
• Australia
22 Apr 10
Solutions can be hard to reach why you are on your own. I realised it the hard way. Sometimes the solution we think that are the best don't always end up appropriate. Thats why we all need a friend, someone who is trustworthy, someone who will give you solutions or comment you solutions.
@lovelysassygirl (256)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
Sometimes, I keep it silent and never tell anyone. Even for my closest friends and my family. May be I dont want to share it. Since sharing will have other involve and their will alot of "chismax" (which mean people who are talkative). Im a private person. Thats why.
@shimesasa (46)
• Australia
22 Apr 10
That is true. Sometimes even best friends might accidently leak out things you don't want others to know. Like the "I promise I won't tell anyone" thing. Everyone says it and the chain goes on.
@bananamen1 (442)
• Bulgaria
22 Apr 10
Yes I have. And if I at last decide to share them, I see that it was not so big deal to share and that it was useless to keep them in me. Usually I feel much better when I share with a friend.
@shimesasa (46)
• Australia
22 Apr 10
I agree! especially family related problems. It's good to get frustration out
@Beautyfactor (1512)
•
22 Apr 10
Of course I do. The problem is that I am not very good at sharing my problems and emotions. The vast majority of friends and family have enough to concern themselves with so I don't need to burden them with my emotions and problems.
I just get on with it and suffer in silence.
@shimesasa (46)
• Australia
22 Apr 10
yes, the main reason we keep things to ourselves is that we dont want to burden others and get them involved. But it's nice to have at least one person to talk to. Because when all the pressure builds on, everyday feels like hell.
@oxio10 (135)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
There are certain things that is inappropriate to disclose to somebody thus hiding it to yourself is the best way. Its natural also that as human we still have to keep something and leave it to ourselves some certain problems and not telling it to anybody around. I've been into the darkest moment of my life and wanted to share what really bothered me in order to keep my heart and mind at peace and my burden will be lightened but I choose to keep it to myself because some problems can only be solved through me, disclosing it to others might affect me and it could worsen the problem.
@shimesasa (46)
• Australia
22 Apr 10
what if they are able to give you advice to how to deal with the problem? I mean, I went through I time that I felt like everything was piling up on me. I had to be a good daughter, good sister, good student , good friend. Because my parents work a lot, I had to take care of my 7 year old brother. That collides with a good friend and student since I had no time. After months i finally told my mum and a friend. They helped me sort things out. I know my crisis it probally a no deal but at the time, i just felt so pressured.
