if something happen between you and your spouce would you remarried ?
By syankee525
@syankee525 (6261)
United States
April 22, 2010 8:11am CST
me and my wife talk about this sometime. if something would happen to her if i would get remarried, she said if something happen to me she wouldnt she thinks no other men would want her because of her eyes. i say there would be a man who would want her.
with me i told her i wouldnt get married again. i think because i will be to old, and plus with all my medcail issues i wouldnt want another to deal with it. and plus its not like i would have money to date. i would stay to myself, and just hang out with friends.
and i think if something happen to my wife, it would just totally mess me up and i would be just so depress over her, i wouldnt be likey to spend much time with anyone for along time. or want too. to me there is only her.
so if something would happen to you would your spouce remarried or would you remarried ?
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13 responses
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
23 Apr 10
well, actually, i did. my first wife and i separated after 6 years and on the same year of our separation, we found another partners. she found hers just within the month and i found mine after six months. we separated cause we found out that we were no longer compatible. i know she is happy with his partner now, just the way i am now with my present partner. Neil
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
23 Apr 10
my sister her ex was the sameway. they are still friends.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
23 Apr 10
oh yes, we are still friends. actually, when we separated, our son lived with me until he grew old, until he went to college. he stopped college due to financial problem. and by this moment, he stays with her. i plan to get him back before the next school year starts. hopefully, there will be enough budget.
@bananamen1 (442)
• Bulgaria
22 Apr 10
I think yes, when I'm ready for this. If something happens to me, I would like my partner to meet someone to spare his life with. I would like my kid to have a mother also. Just life must go on for those one who stays. Also I don't want to be alone when I get old. I know several couples that married at about age 70-80 just because they are lonely and they feel better together than being alone. I guess this last example is more a kind of co-existence than a real marriage...
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
22 Apr 10
i would just hang out with friends and family.
she said i would but i dont see it
@bananamen1 (442)
• Bulgaria
22 Apr 10
Well for me hanging out with friends cannot replace having a partner. And family..one day kids grow up and take their own way. Of course nobody can tells how life will go on with such situation. For me - I'm sure I don't want my partner to stay alone and to regret for me. I know I will always have a special place in his heart, but he has one life to live and I'd want to live it fully. Of course, the final choice would be his. The same I think for the opposite situation - if I stay. My ex-husband used to told me that if something happen to him he doesn't want me to meet another man. When I asked why the answer was just simple jealousy. I found that rather selfish. I think that when you love someone you want him/her to be happy no matter if you're part of his/her life.
@aprces (1082)
• China
22 Apr 10
So many "and plus"
Someone told me that woman can live without man but man cannot live without woman, I think what you said is not limit on spouse, she can be a woman whoever you treat as your beloved, yeah?
i think if something happen to my wife, it would just totally mess me up and i would be just so depress over her, i wouldnt be likey to spend much time with anyone for along time. I'm not ready to judge it to be right or wrong, but the same feeling I used to arise just like you
One of my friend told me something about relationship, he said actually no one can't live without anyone. 
Someone told me that woman can live without man but man cannot live without woman, I think what you said is not limit on spouse, she can be a woman whoever you treat as your beloved, yeah?
i think if something happen to my wife, it would just totally mess me up and i would be just so depress over her, i wouldnt be likey to spend much time with anyone for along time. I'm not ready to judge it to be right or wrong, but the same feeling I used to arise just like you
One of my friend told me something about relationship, he said actually no one can't live without anyone. @syankee525 (6261)
• United States
22 Apr 10
yeah that is true.
but i know when my mom passed away we thought we would loose our dad from him being so upset and depress over my mom, but he met my step mom like the same year. he and her was worry about what the family would think, i was the first one was like dad if she makes you happy and you make her happy go for it, mom dont want you to be alone. and she would want it
@piya84 (2581)
• India
23 Apr 10
Ohh god tear comes to my eyes reading whatever you have written above.I see lot of people saying there isnt any true love any more .They should read your post.
I dont know what i will do as i am still in dating stage.It will be difficult but i think i would think about remarrying as well.Living alone is boring thing.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
23 Apr 10
im a kinda of guy, i need alot of people. i dont like being around alot of people.
with my wife she have shown me and taught me about real love. what it means by standing by the person who you love.
even when we first dated and her brother and mother tried to break us up, but she didnt care. even knowing about my pass and my ways.
so yeah i dont see me or wanting to get remarried again
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
23 Apr 10
People should never marry for anything but true love. There is nothing wrong with being single. With that said, let me add. Life has a way of placing you where you need to be. If learning and growing is better with another spouse, you might just find someone else regardless of how you feel about it. How does that really work you ask???? If the chemistry is high enough, you will never say no. One isn't always in control of who they fall in love with. Ah yes!!!!Isn't love grand!!!
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
23 Apr 10
yeah but i would never go out except to get food lol. i dont like being around large group of people and even with friends i dont hang out with lot of them at all. so one reason why and plus i wouldnt want to date either.
thanks
@npadecio (161)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
Hey syankee! I would get married again and for sure my wife would do the same thing. We both can't stand the feeling of being alone in life and even something even of we're old, it doesn't matter. It's more like a "companionship" that you're looking at. Of course, it would take some time for you to recover and move on but I wouldn't deprive myself from this because it's legal and if you'd think you'll be happy somehow with your new partner then that's great. If there's a chance that your spouse would be able to look after you with a new partner in her next life, I would say that your spouse will be happy just seeing you happy and not depressed.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
23 Apr 10
she keep telling me i would, but just how i am and i how feel. i really wouldnt want too. im cool if i am alone, but i wouldnt really be because of my kids and grandkids.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
22 Apr 10
My hubby nd I have talked about this sort of thing too..and if my husband were to die or if we were to get divorced I doubt I would ever remarry....I just couldnt see any reason or desire to really...I would date eventually but marriage..naw, I doubt it
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
22 Apr 10
yeah we know we would never devoirce. we came to agree no one else would put up with us lol. figure we last long, and made it through really hard times, we're not going away where easle
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
If something will happen to my wife in the future, I can't hardly say that I wont get married again. There's some finality if I said I wont get married again but it's hard to say that early for something that we don't know about yet. Only time can tell what's its' gonna be.
And If I am on the situation and my wife and I will be talking about it I might be tempted to say that I will not marry again. I just want my wife to feel special and to reassure her that i will never love another woman but her.
@Beautyfactor (1512)
•
22 Apr 10
I think my husband probably would remarry actually, I can't really see him coping that well with living alone. He's not very domesticated for a start! LOL!
I don't think I would. I would rather be on my own than be in a relationship again, I don't like taking risks in life and I just don't think I could cope with the whole dating thing again, falling in love and possibly losing them.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
22 Apr 10
most men arent. lol.
to me there is no replacing her, or anyone else who can take her place in my heart. we've been together for 26 yrs.
i see what people my age goess through with dating. i would have to find someone as boring as me, i dont like bars, or clubs, or going to movies
@markleob (1902)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
wow, your a good husband man! tell your wife i congratulate her for having you as her partner for all crimes and happiness..
well, i cant say it yet because i am too young to die. besides i am not married yet.. just to be married soon...
it depends on my age. if ever, something happened to my future wife and i am in the late 20's then of course i will.
but it is hard to say if it is not happening yet. better let it to God...
@ersanmiguel (476)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
i can not see myself remarrying again. i'm fine with my child and i know i'd be happy getting old alone. i can't speak for my husband, but i bet he will...lol
