im confuse help me please, i need a serious advice

I guess part of that depends on how you two broke up. Was it him that decided he didn't want to date you anymore? Or did you break up with him? Was it a clean break or was it because someone did something to the other person? A betrayal of trust? There are lots of different circumstances. If you don't really feel like you want to stay with your current boyfriend then it's best to break it off early. It might be hard and you may not want to hurt him, but it's best not to drag him on believing that you care for him as much as he cares for you when you really don't. That's not at all fair to him, even if breaking it off hurts his feelings. In the end, only you can make this decision, but think about it before you come to a conclusion. You both broke up for a reason and it sounds like you have been apart for quite a while. What suddenly made him decide he wants to date you again? If it's for anything less than love (which is a big consideration if you've been apart for quite a while) then it might not be a good situation to get into. Good luck in deciding and I hope everything turns out well!

I would have to agree with the other responses.... why is he an "ex" to begin with? that would play an important part in your decision making. In my personal situations, I have found that going back into the past (so to speak) never worked out. Primarily because over time, we change. Personally I was "in love" with what once was. Or the constant nagging of "what if".. Then, in reality I found the split to be for the best.

You have to do whatever your heart tells you to do. If you have stronger feelings for your first love then maybe you should consider him. I think your current boyfriend wouldnt want you thinking of someone else all the time yall are together. The best thing to do is just fallow your heart.

Be very careful here. The man you knew years ago is not the same man you are hearing from now. If you are in a good relationship don't loose that over a dream of past love.

Disis a very common situation.First try to find out why ur ex-boyfreind went out of our life and why he is trying to come back now!!There is no intelligence in trusting a man who leaves u and doesnot cares for u and suddenly out of da blue tries to come back to ur life when u have pretty sorted out in ur life.If u leave ur present boyfriend for ur ex, if ur present boyfrnd really luvs u, den u wil b doing da same mistake which ur ex have done to u...try to think patiently and logically who is right fr u, who cares u da most, whom u can trust blindly and u will get da answer..Remembr onething....never get carried away by ur emotions...

Missing is not the same as loving. That simply reminds you of the good things in the past. Moreover, time tends to render better the bad memories of the past. The reason you missed him could be the unclosed wound, and the much acts of love you did but betrayed, from the past. Be suspicious on his motives for wanting to go back to you after leaving you for someone else. If he did that before, he can do that again. I am a man. But I made it a point that those who gave up on the love I offered before will never have a second chance of deceiving me again. If you really love your current boyfriend don't let the past get in the way. Stick with the good path you are following right now. But if you don't love him that much, I believe you don't deserve him. And you should let him go for another woman who can love him better. But given that, I don't advise you go back to the past.

I would think that this is a time to think with your head instead of your heart. If you boyfriend finished with you in the first place, can you trust him not to do it again? Are you prepared to potentially go through all the hurt again? If you feel that you don't love your current boyfriend, then maybe it would be better to end it with him, so that he doesn't get hurt later on. These decisions are always tough ones when we are younger. I remember having to make a similar decicion myself over a girlfriend I once had. Once she had me back though, she dumped me again.. She was just playing mind games. _Derek

As long as you are not married or engaged or an agreed exclusive relationship i think its ok to play the field. If you think it will hurt your current bf simply dont tell him. That way you can figure one which one you would love the best. Just dont allow them to bump heads.

You say so many years crying over him....Im assuming he hurt you? What exactly made you cry over him? Chances are he is just into the challenge of getting you back right now and if he does he will once again get bored with you and make you cry all over again. It took me many years and a very nice guy to get over my first love (trust me it was EXTREMELY hard!) and last summer I had the opportunity to have him back I chose not too, so many people told me how much he had changed for the better and blah blah blah but I still chose no and I am so glad I did!! My advice would be to continue your life as you were, you made it this far without him and if he really cared about you he wouldn't have put you in so many tears for so long. You were not ment to be and don't put yourself through that again....I'm speaking from experience not just guessing. I hope you have the strenghtht to tell him to bug off and stop emailing you and trying to chat with you that will only make things harder on you. tell him he had his chance with you and blew it. good luck!

Your not CONFUSED, your being STUPID! This "First Love" of yours, who dumbed who?? Because the way it sounds to me is that he broke-up with U and now he's back FINALLY AFTER YEARS OF BEING W/O [your words]. U moved on after crying over him/ wondering if U'd ever see him again... "BAM"! He's back trying to WIN U away from your current boyfriend is that right?! Ask yourself this question: what came between U & B/F #1 that he had to WAIT SO MANY YEARS BEFORE HE REALIZED U WERE WHAT HE WANTED, THAT HE COULDN'T TELL U THIS 30 DAYS AFTER U TWO BROKE-UP??? Then, ask yourself what did your current B/F DO/DIDN'T DO other than "LOVE U" the way YOU WANTED??? So, STOP talking about being confused and just remember/decide which B/F is REALLY WORTH YOUR HEART!

Wish save your tears for the second one also. You have written your life is okay now. Then what's your problem? Yes, you cried vehemently for the first one and longed you will never see him again. Just get away with it. You are finished as far as he is concerned. Now, concentrate on the boyfriend now. Bird in hand is better than in bush. Good Luck

I think it's best to distance yourself from your ex for a bit. Tell him that you already have a boyfriend and that you don't want your boyfriend to have a misunderstanding. You cried for him and you have already moved on. I know it may be difficult for you to say it to him but you can't have them both. You have to choose. Settle down our feelings. Ask yourself if you truly love your boyfriend or your ex.

This should depend on how you and your first boyfriend broke up. What were the reasons behind the break up? Was it because of him or you? Was there any parties involved like his and/or your parents? Friends, maybe? Do you think if you'd go back with your first love and leave your current boyfriend, would you be happy and satisfied with no regrets? These are some factors that you need to take into consideration before doing the next step--that is to leave your current boyfriend for your past boyfriend or not. I do understand your part that you could have moved on already but the closure was not clear enough. My advice for you is to know who's not better with one another but the one, when you're with, makes it just as perfect.

Dont let him disturb your life. If you love the current boy, tell him that you are okay now without him. "some many years crying" means ,he did care about you. So what make you want to hurt another person?

You know what, love is such a precious thing in this world. You don't find it everyday. Some people won't even find that love ever. I know it's a pretty serious thing to be in such a predicament. I have been that as well. I thought I was over someone but then I realized I wasn't. But loving is a decision as well. It's your decision to let go of someone or not. I am a firm believer of closing chapters in our lives. Once these chapters are closed, nothing should be able to open it once more. You have spent year crying over him. Spent all your strength and effort to show him you care. But where was he during those times? Now here you are with someone who hasn't done anything wrong. He is sharing his life with you and his love as well. The relationship isn't perfect, but he was the one who picked up the pieces of your heart and hoping that you could look at him the way you used to love your first love. I am hurt right now friend. My relationship isn't going very well. This guy is the guy who picked up the pieces of my heart when I was devastated over someone. I had the chance to get back together with my first love as well. But chose not to because our chapter is over. If you see that you don't love your boyfriend. Please take care of how you break his heart. Give him at least the effort of realizing that the relationship will not work. Do not throw him like a used rug, like your ex did. You can never force love in your heart, neither could you force the other to love you. Love comes naturally. Now, if your ex is certain that he wants you back, then he must be willing to wait till you realize that the relationship with the current boyfriend isn't worth pursuing. I tell you friend. I can cry rivers but can't do anything if my love has fallen in love with another. All I can do is pray for healing. So please don't let go of someone who is real to you, just because the grass is greener on the other side.

I read you guys broke up because of misunderstanding?Well if you have feeling left in heart for first love then go for it.First love is first love there is nothing like it.You need to think something about your second boyfriend also.It will require skill to break up with your second boyfriend on good terms.

man, that's a tough one. I think I would be confused too! I think it might matter why I broke up with my first love to begin with. I have tried to find my first love but I can't find him anywhere. I don't know what I would do if I found him..

What would I do. So I have a girl friend. But an old girl friend I really liked, has started talking to me again. What would I do? Well to me, a girl friend is just a girl friend. Not a wife. And the only reason I would date a girl friend, is to see if she would be a good wife. So, I would ask the question which one of the girls would make a good wife? The old girl friend? Would she make the best wife for me? Would me and her, be a good married husband and wife? Or would the new girl friend make the better married couple? Which one would be the better spouse? It would also depend on what caused the break up before? People rarely change much. If my old girl friend just up and left me, there is no reason to thing she will not again. So why did the old girl friend leave? If my current girl friend has been faithful, and true, and honest with me, while my old girl friend as much as I liked her, betrayed me, and left me... I'll keep my current one. She will make a better life long friend and wife, than my old one. This is how I would think about it, if I were you.

Considering that it sounds like you still have feelings for your first loved one, I think that the best thing that you can do is to break off the relationship with your current boyfriend for right now. The reason that I say this is because you don't want to hurt him and you are only going to hurt him more if you were to string him along while still talking to a person from your past that you think you still have feelings for.

Dont be confussed.... Sounds like you still have feelings for your ex in some form. How do you truely feel about your present boyfriend???? If I was in your shoes I would let the ex know I have someone in my life who makes me very happy. Too much time has passed and people and interests change. Id tell him we can be friends and get to know each other on that level. If anything else is to come out of this it will. Just be honest with yourself.