A Change Going Forward

I have made lots of mistakes in life, and thats ok, although too many mistakes will cost you the opportunity to do so many things. I used to eat a lot, and I weighed 210 pounds. Normally, that would not be so bad, but i had scoliosis and had back surgery done, so I couldn't weigh more than 175 pounds. When I moved to another place (that would be in a group home), I weighed 210 pounds (months earlier, I weighed 212-215 pounds). Ever since then, I lost almost 50 pounds by dieting and a little bit of exercise. As for changing my life, I would want to think positive and always believing in myself. I've always thought negative, and that limited my potential. I had way too much potential in order to be thinking negatively. I am trying to think positively from now on, and I've made some progress. I would go forward in my life by eliminating the past from my mind. I've been thinking about the past for so long that I've also limited my success potential. To be successful, you have to always think positively about yourself. Don't let the past overwhelm you, and don't think badly about yourself. That's all.

can one change from being a pessimist to having a more positive outlook? i think this is my main issue tho i prefer to see myself as being realistic. i tend to overthink how things may not work out so i end up not trying at all. i'd like to start looking at the brighter side of things and not anticipate failure.

Definitely the same as you - over eating. I have lost 18lbs and it has been difficult to keep this off and then get motivated to lose more. Want to lose another 7 lbs before I go on vacation this year. basically because I cannot stand the nagging fro my eldest thin sister. The other one is slim too but she doesn't constantly criticize me. I began to put on weight when my husband became seriously ill and packed on the pounds during the last 5 years of his life. I know that I was eating my emotions as I miss him so much. However, I was inspired by Katsmeow and I will keep going. I exercise each morning using a wii board that my daughter set up for me. I can now exercise for about 40 minutes but it is hard work. I am eating better but OMG how I crave fat! I do not know what to do when the cravings come upon me.

Hi Dorann, Same here. i want to change my diet. i am really doing my best to eat healty foods. it's really hard but i need to do it. it will be good for me and my health! now, i feel lighter. I love the feeling and even encourage my friends to watch their diet too!

Hi dora Lol as we grow older, we become more and more matured, realize the bad and good, i was very fund of sweets and many indian dishes, but now i have to control as per advise of doctors.. Thank you so much for this nice discussion, cheers God bless you. Prof

My greatest mistake was not being brave enough to dream higher and working harder to realize that dream than I had. I dared not leave my comfort zone, never trod outside the box and had never thought of looking beyond. While I would like to blame on the environment I grew up with and the friends and teachers I'd had, of how stupid some things were, I have no one to blame for actually, except myself. But, nevertheless, going forward has never been so exciting, so interesting, very real and very thrilling.

Hi dora Thanks for this beautiful discussion. Its very pertinent with me. Thanks. I am guilty of loads of wrongdoings that I am still working on. Even though, I do not regret and have taken charge of the responsibilities of the mistakes, I still wish I hadn't made my parents sad. That's one thing I am fighting every day. I had taken a wrong step in my life at an early stage and that had left my family sad and angry. I didn't realise that then but now I feel sorry about it. Now I know that the word FAMILY means Father and mother I love you.

hi dorannmwin if we ever get back into an appartment again I will pay a heck of a lot more attention to my son if he has any problems' with a boss or with work at all. I should have insisted when his bosses cut his earnings from 41000a month to 17 dollars an hour, that he look for another job as he showed how much he did not like his job, and I worried that the small company was on shaky financial ground, and I did not say anything, so bang he got laid off as they were really having problems.then several months later wanted him back on a temporary basis, and he told them to go straight to and stay put,he was furious first they lay him off then give him that offer, and it was not enough to help us get back into an apartment here. if I had insisted he look for another job we might not now be where we are, but I had no idea he would have any trouble getting another computer programming job as he had tons of experience. so now we are in a wait and see mode, but there have b een several job openings and he did apply to both so maybe something good will yet happen.

yeah me too its food. same too, to find comfort with foods but when i was a teen i don't eat a lot only now i am an adult i used to eat lots of foods when i am feeling low which is more like an every day thing to me. i hope i will be able to stop this cycle.

Really nice discussion .I too have done things that I wished I hadnt .There was a point in my life when I was making strong spiritual advancement however when I was faced with hard times I gave up that spiritual programme to persue more secular needs .I wish I hadnt done that and continue to grow more spiritually ,I think my life would have been better today

I've gotten fed up with a few close friends in the past . . . and when I couldn't take it anymore, I would write them a long letter to tell them exactly how I feel. Not to say I hated them, but to write constructive criticism telling them, basically, to wake up. Most of the time it has ended the friendship - and I was actually GLAD. But then again, it made me sad that another friendship went out the door even though it did me a lot good in the long run to get rid of people such as these in my life. In hindsight, I don't know if I should have been too honest that way. I felt that as I friend, I owed it to them to tell them how I felt . . . and if they couldn't understand or handle it, then maybe the friendship wasn't worth having. Nowadays I'd just rather concentrate on me instead of trying to fixing other friend's problems . . . I don't have time anymore to get into it. They are adults who can make their own choices, and if they can't see the whole picture, well, I'm not going to point it out anymore . . . it's too heartbreaking to go through another friendship breakup. I have my own life challenges - so now I solely focus on me and my family.

As far as I am concerned, I think I am going to change me a lot on my inner place,which I think it must be immediately. For me, I think I want to be a strong man in my inner heart. But actually speaking, I usually can not be so strong as I want . As a man, I think I should have the ability to control my feelings of myself to keep me strong in my inner heart. I think you can have the changes in the near future. And I will ,too. Have a nice day.

For me, I would like to change my habit of constantly playing video games because it is definitely affecting my life. At school, I am often unable to concentrate due to my fatigue and lack of sleep. When asked by friends to go hangout, I usually turn them down and make up an excuse like I'm sick. But in reality, I'm just at home playing video games. Instead of being more socially active, I am stuck in front of my computer screen. Starting from now on, I'm going to try to set a limit for myself. It's probably a lot harder than it sounds, but I won't give up.

Hi dorannmwin,it is really true that a change is going forward.everything is out of our control. sometimes when i want to make some changes, it is often gaven up by me for some reasons. i am little negative to a certain degree. i think it will be failed before i take any action.so there is almost no any change in my life.

To think before speaking..it's one of my major flaws and I've been working on it more lately. Sometimes my mind gets way ahead of my mouth