How do you feel about family?
By Pose123
@Pose123 (21635)
Canada
April 23, 2010 1:37pm CST
If we trust in a universe that has a higher purpose for everything, then we must believe that family members are in our lives for a good reason. These reasons may be easy to see and appreciate with some, but for others it may quite difficult. The difficult members may be there to teach us patience or to help prepare us for the world outside. In the modern world where everyone seeks to be individuals, many move far away from their families in an attempt to escape them yet, our families are the people who are still attached to us. We can still choose how we treat each other, but the fact remains that like it or not, we are tied to our families.
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@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
You're right. Family is family. But i know someone who's ready to abandon a family member just because she did something wrong to him. He openly told me that if he's ready to forget about his sister just because she spent his money on something. That's too harsh for me.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
23 Apr 10
Oh is that the reason? Because I don't live near my family and yet they can still be annoying since they are on my facebook. I will take what you say and meditate on it..
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@EvrWonder (3571)
• Canada
24 Apr 10
We are indeed, whether we like it or not, we are tied to our families. They are our only blood relatives and is something.
There is importance.
There is much to lean, from family and others alike. In all experiences good and bad.
For whatever reasons, we were born into the family we were.
Perhaps there were unresolved issues with those who are our siblings or perhaps those who are now our Mom or our dad now, in a previous life.
This is something that I think about often, wondering, how it all works, what the significance is. Perhaps I wont know until I pass over, at the end of this life on earth.
I often wonder about pets as well since I feel that there is the same signifigance there. Were they a fellow human being in their previous life?
When I got my puppy I wondered if she was my grandma.
Okay, so that is getting far more deep than I intended but is definitely something to think about.
Rather entertaining to ponder as appose to puzzling.
I believe that we are all where we are in life, be it good or bad but is for our highest good, regardless.
Respecting that gives way to be able to have much more tolerance to acceptance when we get annoyed with our siblings and or parents. Patience and the ability to see the larger picture is a gift that we all can use to our advantage, particularly when it comes to family.

@EvrWonder (3571)
• Canada
25 Apr 10
I strongly believe that everyone that we encounter in our lifetime is for good reason. There is something to learn from them or else they have something to learn from us. Therefore it is so important to listen more than we talk, that is why we have two ears and one mouth, lol but true.
Thank you for your comment. I have heard that we do choose our parents and siblings, each time we come into the earth plane but I have a hard time wrapping my head around that one still but I do agree none the less.
Life is truly amazing in a large scope of things. That's for sure!
If people that we experience in our lifetime are likely people we knew in a previous lifetime, why can animals not be included? I think that somehow they are, or at least I like to think that anyway. It is a concept open for discussion, that's for sure.
I have had animals that I have often wondered if I knew them before or new animals, years after an older animal has passed.
Oh yes, it is true that if we can recall our past lives we can so much easier understand our life today. I wish I could recall more clear than I already do but is something I often think about.
This is an interesting discussion and to stick to the topic, as you have said, I believe we can learn a lot of each family member but also fellow human being, as well as our animals as I do everyday.
Cheers.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
24 Apr 10
Hi EvrWonder, Thank you for sharing and we certainly do think very much alike. I feel certain that very few strangers come into our lives, even casual friends we have likely known before. I think you are right in saying there were unresolved issues and that's why we are together again. I believe that we choose our parents each time we come into the earth plane,as well as our brothers and sisters. Although, I'm not so sure about humans coming back as animals, I am open to the idea that it's possible. I love animals, especially cats and there have been times when I really wondered if I'd known them before. When we make our transition, we will remember all our past lives and we will understand better. As you can see you hit a cord with me and I could go on for hours but we must stick to the topic. I feel that we can all learn something from every family member. Blessings.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
25 Apr 10
Hi again Evronder, The thing about choosing our parents and Siblings is we must remember that we have a much better understanding at the time when we make that choice than we do now. In other words we can see the big picture. They are people with whom we need to work with to clear up problems from past lives. If it don`t happen now it will only be left to a future lifetime. Before coming here we all know that it can work out but sometimes it doesn`t because of decisions we make in this lifetime. Let`s never forget that we have infinite time and we need patience. I think that animals are reincarnated, I`m just not sure that a human would return as a cat, for example. As I said before, just because someone can`t remember a life as an animal doesn`t mean that it can`t happen. Blessings.

@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
25 Apr 10
Hi Pose, I think you can choose your friends but you cannot choose your own relatives. I have good relationship with my own family, though I had a difficult period with my own parents too. But its over now and we have resumed normal relationship. I have managed to cut "ties" with my own family by doing my own things even though they might have not approved. I choose to go and live in a different village so that I can have a bit of fresh air. I still visit them quite regularly.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
25 Apr 10
Hi ronald, Sometimes parents especially, can be too controlling and as you say, we need some fresh air.It`s good that things have improved between you and your family. There are things we can learn from family but also there are things that they need to learn from us. Blessings.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
25 Apr 10
Those that beleive in reincarnation often believe that we travel through our lives in the company of souls, all seeking the help and learning from each other. If this is true then it is no accident that we have the family we have. I do find I need family and this has always been a very strong issue in my life. Much of my family does not feel that way. But I also feel that you are born within your family and need to do the best you can with the problem that arise, but your friends you choose.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
25 Apr 10
Hi savypat, Thanks or responding. I believe in reincarnation and that we choose our parents and Siblings for each lifetime. For those who say, `I would never have chosen my parents`, we must remember that in our between lives we see the big picture and it was possible that it could have worked out, the problems began in this life. No one should worry however, we have infinite time in which to get it right. Blessings.
@kaylachan (75045)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
24 Apr 10
You can chose to tie yourself to your family, or you can break free by moving away and cutting off contact. True they still may be your family, but you are your own person. You chose how much impact they have and influance the more you become that person.
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@hunterkim_07 (458)
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
My family is my most priceless possession here on Earth. Though at times I have bad times with my parents and brothers, I still could not imagine myself without them. I've been physically away from them when I studied in college and it was really difficult dealing with and coping up with the loneliness. But they were there, supporting me all the way. They are my support system, my fans club and every thing you can think of. I don't know how our world will look like if we are not tied to our family.
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@Cherwin2010 (878)
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
family is my life., without them i am nothing., my family is my strength, the reason why still leave and still fight as a way of our survival., my family is my comforter, when i feel down in times of trouble., i am not worried because i know i have my family who supported me all the time., who always cheers me and encouraging me to overcome all of my frustration and insecurities in life., who i am now, its because of them., my family.,
@bagputza (504)
• Belgium
24 Apr 10
Good Morning dear Pose123 , well for myself my familly represents everithing , i can't live without thinking about how cann i improove my familly's bonds and situations , in the area where i live , they have a verry cold attitude towards their own familly and they tend to neglect verryb much theire own familly members i am a Roumanian , recently mooved in belgium , and i have a few friends who have theire own familly and kids , and wheni saw how cold they and carelless free they could be towards theire own familly , i was shocked , i mean , here i have a friend who has FIVE DAUGHTERS and all he does all day long its to smoke pot and play at a console like xbox or playstation , and i am not telling you what's in theire house , the poor woman ask my friend to watch out for the baby girl for five minutes , and the dude can't let go off he's xbox mannette and TV Screen and the baby girl had fallen in the stairs and deconnected he's cable HDMI , wow that was a show i would of rather missed , because my friend it was putting the fault on the Mother for going out to make shopping for the evening table , i was completely shocked , because the dude seemed more nervous because he's daughter deconnected him , from the Online Game he was playin' and said that its not he's fault , that he's not a babysitter ( I mean c'mon !!! )
But for me my familly its coming on the first plan ,no friends cann take them off there !!!
Have a nice day dear Pose123
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
24 Apr 10
Hi Bagputza, Greetings to you as well, it is now evening where I live and I thank you for sharing this story. It is sad to see your friend like that, he should be taking responsibility for his daughters. Families are meant to be loving and kind to each other but it doesn't always work that way. Take good care of your family and I wish you will in your new homeland. Blessings.
@zim1fW (284)
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
Our family is our closest community in this world, who can and have helped us survive in this world. As we grow older this close community expands into friendships outside the bloodline.
But like any community, effective communication cannot be underestimated because it can make or break the community. Problems in families are almost always communication-related. That simply reflects our imperfections as human beings. Imperfections that cause us pain, and invite us to grow stronger that before we faced it.
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@jologs07 (36)
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24 Apr 10
Family is where each one of us came from. Its where we get good values, learning from each one of the family members. We may came from different families, different status in life, different goals in life but the good thing there is where happy with the family we have. Time comes when some passed away but we remain attached to each others and that is the essence of family.
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@Petranka74 (77)
• Bulgaria
24 Apr 10
Yes, we are tied with our families.Family is forever ,so the best thing to do is to love appreciate all your family members.I love my family very much.
Good day all!
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@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
23 Apr 10
I think that family is very important, and I think that without our families what would we have?
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
24 Apr 10
Hi Mirita, Thank you for commenting and I agree that's the way families should be. My family have always been close but I know families that are quite different and it's sad when that happens. Of could we can never know why but I'sure there has to be a reason. In most cases though families do come together as you say, in laughter, in comfort and in grief. Blessings.
