Dealing with problems ?Ask others opinion or yourself alone?

Hi cloud31! If it's a small problem and doesn't bother you that much then you may not seek other's advice or opinion. But if the problem is already complicated and it bothers you so much, then I guess, it's better to also get other's opinion specially from your family or closest friends, but still you will have your final decision. It's just that you have been given ideas from other people. Sometimes when we are worried or bothered by a problem, the tendency is to decide and act negatively, so it's really better to share it to someone for us to come up with a good decision. Have a pleasant day! Happy myLotting! :)

Hi Cloud, I think the best way to deal with problems is to understand the situation and solve the problem with yourself. If you can't manage to solve it, then asked for advice from other persons that you think that are trusted. Then, its all your call afterwards.

I don't have any family members I can ask. All now are younger than I am. I usually ask my old friend who lives in Texas. Or a friend here who used to be a co-worker. I asked my friends here on Mylot also. All are very informative and of alot of help to me. I am thankful to have them.

Hey cloud! When I am dealing with problems I always turn to my closet friends! They are always here for me if not anything, but to just listen! They might sometimes advise me, but if not they are always there to listen to what I have to say and maybe give me some advice! I am always glad that I have some very close friends to turn to when I am having some sort of problem or crisis! In fact, I am having a seriuos medical crisis right now and my friends are all here for me and that is a great feeling for me! I know if I need them they will be here no matter what! It is really great to know that I have those kinds of friends and I love them all dearly as I know that the love me too!

I feel I like to handle my troubles on my own but sometimes is good to seek some one's opinions too.

IJ, i prefer to solve them myself. It is easier for me, as i would be the only one who gets in trouble then. But, if on very rare occassions i cannot deal with it myself, my mom is always there to give some advice. TATA.

I used to not be this way, but nowadays when I'm going through issues, I talk to my friends before making a decision. I like to talk it over with other people to get their advice and opinions so I don't feel like I'm making a crazy choice. It's always nice to have someone to share these things with, and for me, I like to "vent" to people at times where there is a lot of drama going on in my life. It makes me feel better. I also like to keep in touch with them, so that makes a perfect time for it. I also share things like this with my friends because I know they would do the same for me...if something is going on in their lives, I know they would come to me for advice. So it goes both ways. I think it's best to talk it over with others. It's nice to have that moral support!

hi cloud, depend on the problem that i am having. most of the time, as long as i can i just keep it and try to solve it myself. the first thing that i really do is to pray and ask for God's help & guidance and it will definitely give me a clearer mind & disposition. but there are also some kind of problems and there are some time that i feel like i need to talk it out with someone like my mom or my husband. sometimes problems that has been shared to close friends or loved ones are almost half solved. just the fact that you have brought out what you feel inside is already a big factor in solving some problem. but again, most of the time i am just keeping it to myself specially if it involves my personal life & relationship, i just don't want to give worries to my mom or to anyone. i don't want them to problem my problem!

I usually try to sort them out myself-I've found that I'm pretty good at crisis intervention If it's something small, I'll ask the fellow mylotters or a good friend for their input...or if I think my mom has the best advice, I'll go to her. But usually I sort it out myself.

Hi miss cloud! I always ask my friends and share it with them, as i mentioned before, I am not closed with my family, that is why I always ask an advice to my friends. I think the best way is to ask our own family regarding the problems. Happy Mylotting and Have a nice day!!! GBU....

I always solve my problems because sometimes friends can't count on, when they know you have problems they will slipped away.lol.So, I keep it myself. Smile cloud!

I always ask my aunt opinion when I have problems she is smart and she always give me the best answer and best advice.All the best!

It can be both. For some reason and times we want somebody to listen to our troubles and ask some mature and objective advice because when we are really much down into our problems are thingking are somewhat already clouded, so on this cases we need to ask some help and advice to those we think are capable of giving us a better option or solution to our problems. There are also some instances that we better just decide over a matter on our own, we just need some guidance but then the solution still has to come from our own decissions.

Hi there again cloud, Yes with my family we discuss and share our own opinion and see what will be the best solution we need to take.Its better to share than to keep it yourself although you can have your own decision after all at least you shared,right?Stay beautiful.

hi cloud31 it really depends on the problem. If it is with my computer I turn his over to my son because he is much more knowledgeable than I am on computers. Other problems I usually deal with them by myself of course.,I cannot call myson every time I have a problem.

hi prettie-----I love being independent and i got used to live that way but i wouldnt backoff from discussing any serious issues that are troubling me with my better half ---she has every privilege to barge into my happiness and joyable moments whilst i can tackle those sad ones better all alone---i do not want to make her sad or feel bad about any damn things---in other words all she gets in my life is Happiness Happiness and Happiness---i really mean it.

I personally solve my problems, but I seek others opinion from my family and closed friends who have enough knowledge for the problem. It is an assurance for me that whatever step I will make on for such decision, are said to be the best and optimal solutions that will give less pain for such any problems.

Depends on the problem I'm trying to solve... Sometimes I talk to friends, sometimes I talk to family and sometimes I just deal with the problem myself. I don't think there is any preferable way, it's just the time, the problem, the situation, who's involved, etc.

First I tell my problem to my good friends and ask their openion. I listen to their openions carefully. Then I put the problem and my friends'openions in a box (my mind)together for some time. Then I make my own decision.

i used to deal with my problems all by myself. but i found out that sometimes it is good to get a second opinion. why? because sometimes others are able to see things from a different angle from us, and could provide us with a different perspective on things. we just need to be wise enough to know who we can trust to confide our problems to..