Sharp words can dull respect...

hi lyzabelle, In any form I see it, any person who give sharp words to others, is not proper regardless if the person he is talking to is literate or not to understand what he wanted to imply and definitely using sharp words directly can hurt others feelings in many ways. People has their own way of expressions. IT depends on the depth the person uses the words and how it was being relayed. We are totally different as a person. but, all of us wanted to be respected by others too. Let those people be reminded that any delivered by one's mouth is powerful. This words given can either build a good and harmonious social interaction with other people or even can destroy good camaraderie with other people which seemed to hurt and affect their emotional status and copings in life. It relies on the person influential to them. Often times, when a person influential or close to you tend to relayed sharp words unacceptable by your heart and mind. A bad outcome will arise which tend to reject individual feelings of freedom and respect. Especially if the person doing such actions, is someone you cannot avoid for lifetime or even part of your community.The presence of coping from that barrier is by choice either accepting or refusing that person to protect your inner feelings and yourself as a person. I sympathize with you. I have encountered people like what have you said. It is very disgusting. But, in my personal note, I do not let myself be affected by them. I accept humbly what they say, for it does not affect me totally because I know myself and people around me knows me well. I am glad at that time, they have introduced themselves well with me, and whatever impressions I have gotten will remain. Any sharp words rendered to another person can never gain respect in the end unless the person committing those acts had been sensitive and humanely person enough to humbly understand other weaknesses and importantly, had initiated himself to give respect to others before he will gain the respect he wanted. Just go on with your life. They are just part of people that in facing that challenge will make you stronger. Never mind their acts,for there will come points in their lives that their conscience will speak and wait for other forgiveness that they have offended. Be happy for yourself, because you are not the same as them.. happy mylotting..

Words are powerful.... they can either build you up or ruin you down. But they can never affect you unless you let them. Believe in yourself and never give in to those people who can not give you anything good. Luckily, i have never been insulted by any person. because i stay away from those people.

Sharp words leave holes that can never totally be patched. If it happens enough with one person, sure you will lose respect for them. True...

Sharp words can easily felt than telling it gently. Just like hitting you a stone then you felt the pain after it. We cannot avoid these people around us because we have a different background and attitudes. That is the way they used I guess, If still I can handle it carefully I will take it. But if I cannot bear it then that's the time I tell everything what is in my mind and heart. First thing I do usually is to observe first then avoid this kind of person If I can. So that I cannot hear his sharp words and anything.

Hello lyz!! Who would want to be insulted!! I know respect is earned and not to be given because of authority. I just think that people should learn this trait because it is the very hardest to do.

(sorry- posted in wrong place, posting again) I try to remain humble, and no matter how much success we may achieve in this life we are still no better than the person next to us. My belief is no one is better than the other. We are all here, for unknown or spiritual reasons we all probably wonder about, but one thing we know is that all of us are going to leave this world and everything behind. Fame, money, power, even love! Sometimes I wonder, whether someone should consider themselves lucky for having so much in this world, when all could be gone in one second. They feel superior because they have more. In the end, they will have no more than the person next to them. People have to learn the most important things about life are not money and materialism. But the good times you share with the ones you love and what positive influences you can offer the world. so why believe yourself better than others? when in the end we will all go the same path.

I am sure that each of us has received cruel words I am not saying that it is OK to spout them, as you just said, they cause considerable damage to respect and to strength but this is life, it's the whole package: of joy and sadness, of gloom and shine, of lessons we learn every single second I was born into judgemental and critical family so all my life I have heard and read these words. employers, co workers, family, former friends (of course then I wouldn't keep these people as friends LOL not with them keep spouting insults) so I know exactly what cruel words can do and I actually spout those words back at them quite often myself believe it or not, it wasn't my mistakes that made them start spouting cruel words it was actually my physical attribute and financial status I never let anyone make me feel less of a person, just because I am shorter, skinnier, smaller, poorer or weaker I did all that they thought I would never be able to do: I graduated schools and college, a few I was class champ. I found someone who accepts me for who I am and married him, almost 10 yrs going strong, no regret. My grammar sucks and yet my short story was published (English is not my mother language and I never enrolled in writing major I couldn't even afford it). I saved every dime I could, from employment, and finally started my own business that it still going strong to this date. and yes, I'm gonna write again LOL this time it will have to have perfect grammar LOL it's a beautiful quote, because it's honest and reminds me of my own experience but this is my thought : you are the only person that determines your own achievement nobody else. especially not those who spout cruel words only you, can weaken or strengthen yourself why? because you are the only one who knows your strength and weakness nobody else knows it better than you do, am I right? your biggest enemy is not outside, not these people or their cruel words it's your own self defeating attitude these people are humans, like you and I they are not free from hardships, so what is, if anything, difference between you and them? Nada. well maybe just some sharp tongues LOL you have just the right words there : I don't Care Start there. and keep going, improve yourself as much as you can. One day you will turn around and be surprised of how much stronger you are, instead of weakening Take this from someone who has been through it and survived I have health problems still, but I am fighting it I've gone this far, makes no sense to turn back now

hi lazabelle, that is common,when people earn more money,having more money thinking that they are superiors to others,they show their superiority over us,at that time,some times we may accept their superiority and some times we will not accept their superiority,that is according to the situation only,not agreeing their superiority,have a nice day

Lovely discussn and I share your views .I dont mind anyone thinking that they are better than me as long as they dont try to make me feel bad.If they do their thing and let me d mine .I am good .I know how you feel when other try to make you feel less than adequate though . I think my supervisor does that all the time and it not the words that make me feel bad its her assessment of my work .She always tries to belittle me by giving me poor gradeeven when she knows I have done good work

I know someone who's good in playing guitar. I was learning then how to play and i was constantly asking for advice. Then one time he told me hurtful stuff while he was teaching me so i smashed his guitar. :)

Thats true.. i always admire people with extraordinary talents. I like to learn from them. But at same time, insulting me and demotivating my spirit, i can never allow that.It happened at my previous office, they treat me with a note of insulting words and finally, i lost the respect on them.