How can a grown man act so silly, especially your son??

I agree with you and I think he needs to grow up Also why is he involving the Child, does he not know what harm he can do to the little one No matter what differences the Adults have a child should never be put in the middle or denied to see any of the Adults involved It is awful when a Child gets used as a Weapon I hate People doing that Kick his stupid Butt and tell him to grow up

I think you did the right thing by kicking him out on his rear. He is acting like the age of his own child, even worse when he called you the ugly name. That's disrespectful of him. My brother has said some disrespectful things to my mom that she will let slide by and then there are some she won't. I think that was rude, and very childish of him to email you something that is so simple as walking up to your front door and letting you know. You can be the better man, and start the process of communications by letting him know that what he said was hurtful and disrespectful. He is being selfish by keeping your grandson away from you. That he's not only hurting you in the process, but he's also hurting his son. If he keeps this up, his son will be hurt by this. Hopefully, your grandson didn't witness the name calling from your son. Bless your heart.

It is sad to hear that your son is fighting a silent war with you. It is always the case of adult children who can't see eye to eye with their parents. They withdraw to their childish behavior and wouldn't want to compromise with the elders. The breakdown of communication between mother and son is unhealthy and your son being junior should break the ice and come back to normalcy. What you can do Lady is to pray for him. May the good Lord touches his heart and make him realize his mistakes.

Hi Antique, Your son is being very childish. I think sometimes our kids even when they are grown tend to treat us in ways that they would never ever treat anyone else. I know mine did. Once my daughters were grown, they were very quick to let me know that they were grown up now and did not need me telling them what to do or giving unsolicited advice. I agreed and I stopped being "mommy". By that, I mean I stopped playing that role(to a point, of course). We were now both equals. In your case for example, I would think of how I would react if say it were my friend and not my son treating me like that. You have his dogs at your house? I would tell him, "It hurts me each day that you come here and give me the cold shoulder. Feeling as you do, I think it is only fair that you find another place to keep your dogs." I know it sounds cold but it really works. I think as hard as it is for us to let go when our kids get of age, the kids also have a hard time looking at us as ordinary people. We are the ones that have always loved them unconditionally and put up with whatever crap they dish out and we still love them. I think they take that unconditional love for granted maybe without even realizing it. As for your grandson, he is hurting him as well. You have a right to see him. I would point that out to him as well. If he doesn't come around then tell him that you'll see him in court. You have a legal right to see your grandson. Why? Because the courts recognize the importance of a grandparent in the child's life. I know you don't want to go against your son but this is for your grandson. not just so you can see him but so that he can see YOU! It is unfair of your son to interfere in that. Sorry this is long but I have grandchildren and if my daughter tried to keep them from me just because she was upset with me for something ridiculous, I'd pull out all stops. My grandchildren love coming to my house and they'd be devestated if their parents put them in the middle of something that had nothing to do with them and prevented me from seeing them.

Hugs aunty, and yes he is acting like an a$s. You've still got his mad dogs there I see. He needs a good talking too and Ryan must be missing you. Don't let your son spoil things with Ryan - why not send him an email saying you need to talk to him about him removing the dogs and he might come round and apologize. Possibly.

Sweetie, your his mother. Go to him, take him by his ear and give him a very good hiding he won't ever forget. He needs to remember that a mother has to be loved and respected, no matter what. If you need any help call me. TATA.

Your son sounds like my stepson and also my future son n law! ahhh 2 in the family!!! My brother n law is not speaking to us, over 2 years now and it was in no way our fault and he is in his 50's! (he is mad at his brother for the way their parents wrote their will!!!!) I raised my step son from the time he was 3 years old, full custody with no visitations. When he moved out he was mad at us (simply because we told him NO!) It was over 10 years before he started speaking to us. I can remember him being at our neighbors and no way would he come see us. It bothered me more then his dad. Must be the mom part in me. The only advice I can give you is hang in there and pray!!! Sorry he is involving the child.

I read through the whole discussion and one thing that struck me badly is how anyone call his/her mother ugly names?? Rest part I think, though silly, may have some positive implications. It's not easy to accept your mistake, and maybe that prompted him to do so... I would have thought of and talked more for him, but presently I myself am in bad state. Pray I don't behave like that ever..calling names etc.. I'm not sure

I think he's acting like an a$$. But maybe, whatever it is that he's mad about, he doesn't trust himself to talk to you without saying something that he will regret later.

that is really not a good action my friend. being a mother, even how grave the reason for you to talk, i don't see it is good to not let you inform about the lights by the time he discovers it. i guess it's just a knock on the door and hey, check your jeep for god sake. or he could just have texted you. text messages comes faster than an email for one to notice it. sometimes, i do that to my wife or my step-daughter when i don't want to talk with them, i just send them text message.

What happened? I know I've been busy with school and work but I didn't realize there had been an explosion with your son! I'm sorry Jo.I missed something big. Yes! He's acting a butthead!

Maybe it's the fact that I'm a 28 year old male, but something tells me that you aren't telling us the whole story. From what I hear, it seems like he doesn't want to talk to you. It seems like you've done something, or there has been a conflict between you two that has made him not want to talk to you. Like, you've made him upset, and in a common male fashion, he's decided to lock up the problem, and just not talk to you. You want to resolve that? Do something nice for him, get him something he likes, or make him cookies, or something along those lines, and ask him why he hasn't been talking to you. I bet it's something that both of you could easily get past, so that you two can be a bit closer again, and after enough time of talking, listening, and understanding, you two will be very close, letting you see him and your grandson as often as you'd like. Just calling him an a$$ isn't going to fix the problem, you have to confront him to find out why he's doing it, and show him that you welcome him into your heart.

I think he's being very childish, myself. Some people are like this, though. My oldest sister is 71 years old and she gets this way when she gets mad at me. It really hurts me, too. I always feel so much better when we're back on speaking terms again. I just hope you can work something out between you and your son. I know you really miss seeing your little grandson. Kathy.

Well, he's not the only man who acts that way. There are THOUSANDS like him. Beware though, because these guys always win in court. They have an influential lawyer.

I hope you two have gotten back on good terms. I think that was totally rediculous what he did. It would have been nothing for him to tell you right away - even a phone call if he didn't want to tell you in person. Family's important so please try to fix whatever is wrong if you are still having problems with your son. Good Luck!

People do stupid things. I can relate to people not talking to other people...

What started this attitude? I know that feeling, I think when the moon comes up the wrong way their 'crazy' levels just go up and do something stupid. I think those were one of your son's days. It's absolutely stupid for him to email you about that. I'd probably email him too stating, you're dog are puking blood - now let's see how he reacts. Anyway, I think it's just best to let him be. People like that don't deserve the attention.

My grown daughter is acting like that to me too. I had been going to spend the nite at her house for the last several weeks. Going to their church on sundays, sometimes to mine. Suddenly she calls me last friday evening and says why dont you come tonight instead of tomarrow. I started questioning why. She ended up telling me she didnt want me going to church with them and it turned out bing a full blown thing. Im really hurt by her now. I would never tell her to stay away from my church. I just dont know where all that suddenly came from.

He is a man and he does not know what to do or how to make things right. I would have emailed him back and thanked him and in my email would have said how much you miss seeing him and Ryan. Yes, he was ridiculous and did act like an a$$ but he is a man. This is some times how they behave. But it would be a beginning to heal the rift. This rift has to heal Jo, somehow. I know that you are deeply hurt by what he said but he is your son so forgive him. He has made a move so now you make the second move. The longer the rift goes on will it be the longer to heal. Please don't be upset with me but this is what I think. Many blessings

I am astounded and profusely disappointed in the behavior of my adult children. I know how I raised them and this is NOT it! So, I say to everyone (somewhat in jest: Do not have adult children!). I am deeply saddened by my children's behavior toward me and it pains me to know that they "have gone the way of the world" re disrespect and rudeness, not just to me, but to many of their elders. Additionally, they give me little help and spiritual support. And, worst of all, as you have alluded to, my daughter uses my granddaughter as her tool and will threaten me with not seeing her if I believe things she doesn't like. If I want to speak with one of my daughters about personal and financial matters, she "instructs" me to put a note in her mailbox! Just another sign that we are a culture in decay. I'm sure I hurt my parents in several ways, but would never have thought of speaking to them the way my children speak to me. I realize that the "entertainment" they watch gives vent to the awful language and attitudes they have now chosen to espouse, but, it's more than just a "sign of the times"; it's just evil. And, the ingratitude of it all amazes me.