Do you find that people turn up unexpected to see you

Sweetie, this happens fairly often here and i am actually sick of it. I hate unexpected geusts. I don't mind the visit, but let me know in advance. TATA.

This is probably one of the few benefits to living in a gated community. No one can show up without letting us know first unless it is our neighbors and they rarely do that unless they need something..

That's one thing about my relationship with people. They just don't turn up without letting me know in the first place. I have had the habit of telling them (quite longer than I could remember) that I'm not always at home or in the office-base, I'm the type of person who just would go out without really planning it - well, that's how they perceive me. Since I don't have a family of my own, and don't have children to take care, my routine can't be pre-determined. I do have routines like going out to the bank, working, grocery, etc. but I just don't have a specific time-frame of things. Which makes me virtually a person who can't be expected to be at one place as expected to. Therefore, nobody would dare turn up unexpectedly.

I am used to having visitors turn up at my door, but there are those days when a visitor is that last thing I want. I get in my moods at times where I just want to be alone or I'm too busy to be able to entertain visitors so it isn't convient for me.

Hey jugs! I don't like to have "visitors" turn up to my home without notice and my friends know that! They know that I like them to call first! Anyone who is a good friend of mine knows that they are to come "by invitation only" especially on the weekends when my boyfriend is home! I am a bit more lax during the week if one of my girlfriend/neighbors shows up ringing my doorbell, but not on the weekends! I never have appreciated visitors who just showed up! When I lived alone it happened more often! But, now that my boyfriend is here my friends got the message and call first!

No one does that to me. All my friends know I take a nap every day, but at different times. I think that is why they always call first. If someone says they will stop by I always say "give me a call, so I can be up". My ex used to do that all the time. He was always just stopping at someones home. I would try to tell him that some people don't appreciate that, but he did it anyway. If I was with him, I would be embarassed. I thought it was rude.

Not really. I would love people to turn up unexpected, I understand it can be annoying but says how important you are in my opinion. Not even my parents turn up out of the blue and they only arrange one visit a week, I go to there's more than they come here. At times thinking about it a friend does, although he gives my Wife hints as usually it's to surprise me. That can be a little irritating to be honest, especially when I've asked him if he wants to or not and I don't get a positive answer.

Hi jugsjugs! This happens to me very often. But thank God, not at home. Just in the faculty room. Oh! And yes, even in the classroom while I am delivering my lecture. Of course, I can't just drive them away.

Since I don't have any close friends here and my family lives far away I don't have people dropping by. I never did--my friends all called before they came over when I lived near them. I would not mind unexpected company. The young boy across the street used to come visit at odd times but he moved to another town.

hi jugsjugs nope only my son does that. as for all the people i worked with for 23 y ears in the library that said we will sure dropby and see you. well its been five years and not one of them has called or justdropped by, I was not that hard to find and I had told Lettie where I was so any street map would have shown Gold Crest. I do not mind my son dropping in when ever he can at all. love it in fact. we do have visiting hours here so there is no excuse for any of them to not come see me. I can see in your case that its irritating when you have not had a chance to clean up the house a bit and someone picks that time to just drop in unannounced. My mom used to do that and it drove me nuts, I mean okay she was my mom, but still to just drop in without a notice, once she came , did not see any of us in the living room .well my youngest was down for a nap and my son was in kindergarted.unfortuneately this was the time myhubby got amorous and we were in my bedroom having a quickie. she just opened the door, gasped, turned red and backed out. I was crimson myself and my irreressible husband was laughing like a hyena.Well to me it was not funny but very embarrassing and I mean that physically as well as emotionally. after that she did call and say I am going come over in ten minutes, okay.

I have never been a social person and I don't have people stop over to see me very often. If they know me they know it is best to call and make arrangements first. I live by the golden rule and appreciate people calling first as that is what I do when I want to go see someone. I don't have alot of friends and usually hang out with family for the most part.

I used to have that problem, but I cured it with honesty!!! I stopped doing it to the people that did it to me. Then when they showed up unexpected, I didn't answer the door. When they called later on to ask why I didn't answer the door, I explained to them that I don't show up at their house without calling first & I expected the same respect when they planned to come to my house. I only had to do that once or twice with most people & they started calling to ask if it was OK for them to come over. One girl got particularly ticked off & demanded to know why I refused to open the door for her as she had driven quite a distance to get there. I explained to her that I was in the midst of intimate relations with my hubby & she was NOT invited to join us!!! That was the LAST time she ever showed up uninvited or without calling. Now ALL my friends know that it's a rule at my house that they won't get in UNLESS they call first. If they call & it's inconvenient, I just say now is not a good time. Most of the time I invite them, but ONLY when it's CONVENIENT for me!!!

The only people that ever do this with our family in our house is my mother and my siblings. I believe that the reason that they feel comfortable doing this to us is because of the fact that we all lived together for many years so I think that they just think of our house as an extension of their own home. However, when it comes to my friends, none of them come to visit without calling ahead and I return that same respect to my friends.

oh parents love to do that, but I make it clear to all that unless I get a call before coming to my place they are not welcome. I don't like intrusions.

Hi, jugsjugs. Well not at my home it does not. We don't get that many visitors here at our apartment, which I am very glad about. But for the last couple of years, when my husband and I would be out, his cell phone used to ring all of the time. We could never spend time together without someone always calling him. If it was not someone from the church, it was someone from his parents home that was calling. I would get so tired. And I would tell him to just turn his cell phone off while we was together, so that no one would call him while I was talking to him or spending quality time with him. This happened so much until I wanted to just explode. It would get on my nerves, because I did not see my husband all day because he was working. Me and the kids wanted to just spend some time alone with him. I wondered if people did this on purpose, just to interrupt us. It does not happen that much like it used to, and I hope that it does not. I would like to at least have an hour with my husband without always someone needed or wanting something.

Yes, we have some people that show up at our house unexpectedly. And, it is like you said, it is usually when the house is a mess or something else is going on. I like visiting with people. But, I would never just show up at their house. I think that is pretty rude. I would much rather schedule a time to meet.

hi jugsjugs, this will happen to me several times,when we are busy with some urgent work,or we have to go for journey or movie,some friends will come disturb us,you cannot say go away,simply you are entertaining them, really i do not like to have friends when i am busy with some urgent work,have a nice day

It drives me crazy when that happens! We never do that to other people. My parents call first, but my husband's mother used to just drop in whenever. And since we don't like her around that much (long story short - she's mean, abusive, drunk) we had to really put our foot down to make her at least call and say, hey can I come by? we live in an apt complex that is townhouses. There's this kid up the hill from us in another apt who's father is in a halfway house. Ok so my husband felt sorry for him and was allowing him to come by and he'd play soccer with him in back of the townhouse or help him practice riding his bike with no training wheels. we're hoping nothing bad comes of it because in trying to do a good thing the kid is now driving us crazy! we've gone to speak to his mother or grandmother but they won't answer the door. and the kid lies. one day he's got permission to come in a play video games - turns out he didn't but his mother wasn't mad or anything b/c she'd spoken to my husband once before. then it was the kid couldn't come until his father got back and met my husband. fine, no problem - we were relieved! He comes at all hours and we're constantly havign someone pounding on the door and yelling hey open up! at weird times. then he's back yesterday until his mother happened to look outside and realized my husband was not only taking a very big stick from him but the kid was smacking the glass on our door with the stick and my husband's headlights. i'm hoping she'll get some control over him! he tried to just walk in yesterday too. Yet conveniently when we need to speak to his mother we suddenly can't find an adult. Hubby is starting to wish he wasn't doing the whole big brothers/big sisters thing now. There's what I really hate - the people who just walk in! People only show up when the house needs cleaning, hurricane toddler has blown through, or I'm finally getting a nap. And they half the time try to just walk in. My mother in law has actually picked our lock before. How much trouble is it to call first!? Even that kid who's now annoying us is old enough to call and say hey can i come by.

When we lived in Maryland "yes". But, since we've relocated to sunny Florida not that much at all.

Family and friends know NOT to drop by unexpectedly as I might be too busy working. They call in advance. So if the doorbell rings, I dont answer. If its someone I know, they'll call me. I dont like unexpected company. I never do this, just drop by someone and not call ahead of time. I think its a lack of respect.