Have You Wondered Why No Matter How Good You Are, Bad Things Still Happen?

Hi Hatley, The more you think about your health stuff the more you are worrying, ib not be as bad as you think, I know that feeling though, recently I was having so many bad news and then yesterday I felt on top of the world then someone has to push me off it and I have been feeling very depressed, this was not fault of my own but this person had said things to me which has really upset me, I know I shouldn't take any notice but the words has really hurt me, I am trying to forget about it but its hard to, well you just take it easy and don't worry so, hugs. Tamara

oh opal26 I am praying like mad that you will be just great, and if all the mylotters answer and pray you will be great really. I am feeling depressed to as myson c ame to me a couple of days ago and had to borrow some money,hes still out of work, he does have a tax refund coming so am really hoping it comes soon. I cannot help him much as I myself have not got much money either. well got to cheerup as moping will not help. Iwould love a glimmer of hope too. maybe we should pray for that too.

I lost a kidney to cancer 5 years ago and last week i had my 9th surgery for things that came up after, the way i see it each day i wake up is a good day, any day i see a kid laughing or see a puppy playing is an added benefit, hey it's life and in the end a better day will prevail. cheer up we love ya Opal

There have been times in the past where I was out right depressed. Things weren't happening the way I wanted them too, and I felt like I was always being kicked to the curb by friends, family, coworkers, even complete strangers I believe from time to time. I still have those moments where all I want is a hug, but I want everyone to know it and me not have to say it. There's times that I cry but I don't know why I do. I am a very sensitive person. Anything can really make me start to cry, even if the way it's said or why it's said is not meant to make me cry. In the past I didn't know how to drive and I really kicked myself for it I always thought "if I knew how to drive I could do this or that" and "I wouldn't be so cooped up anymore." Well I'm learning to drive now and I feel so much better about myself because of it. I still feel down or irritated when i dont' do something right, I guess you could say I expect to much of myself too quickly. There are times in the past that I have also worried about something, health wise, or something else. There's been times that i've been obsessive to the point that I think I have OCD. I don't think it's wrong that at the lowest points of our lives we just want things to be okay, we want to be the happiest we've ever been, and we want things to go right. I've always heard that it's really up to us how our day is going to be, and I try to tell myself "this will be a good day" or "stop nagging and everything will be okay" but sometimes it's easier said then done. Just letting you know that we all have our dog days!

I think that is just life and Karma and fate that mixes all together to make YOUR LIFE! I don't believe the god and it's all a test thing. I do believe life is what you make it and that if you screw up Karma will bite ya on the proverbial rear. If I can just keep it together until we good stablized in a place for my granddaughter's sake and her babie's then Fate and Karma have done their bits.

To simplify it, it's the so-called Yin Yang(the balance of nature). Every good thing has its bad end. And every bad thing has its good end. Do not believe that perfection is achievable. But believe that with the idea of perfection, everything you like can be nearly achievable.

I'm with you there.

Hi girlie! Well... I will repeat what I said on facebook earlier... people are not reponsible for natural disasters, bad things, etc etc. I have had days when everything that could go wrong goes wrong, but I'm a glass half-full kinda person, and I guess I don't see it the same way. Now if it's another PERSON who is purposely causing problems and I find out, that's different. What is going on with you? I haven't been around here as much, you can pm me or send it to my email if you want. I know about some of the health problems, but maybe not all. There has to be an answer - and until you find out, try to enjoy whatever you can and not worry. ((hugs))

I firmly believe everything happens for a reason.. though we don't always know what that reason is. Good things usually come out of every bad situation, even if it takes 5 or 10 years for you to see those good things. Also I think a lot of it has to do with how you deal with your problems. A positive person can see a silver lining in almost anything, but a negative person is going to see everything in their life as negative. Sometimes, in our darkest hours, all we can do is look around and count our blessings. This health problem your facing is definitely scary.. but what else do you have in your life that is positive? You have a roof over your head, and a boyfriend who cares about you, and other friends and family members... etc etc. Best of luck with your health concerns.

Reading your comment, is like looking into a mirror. I have days...even YEARS...where I go through the same thing. When will this craziness end? I've incorporated the word "albatross" into my daily vocabulary, rather than wear a necklace of like kind, though I doubt it would make much difference. Mind you, there are days when EVERYTHING goes completely well. However those types of days are rare, and their arrival is hard to predict. I know exactly what you mean, and empathize. Peace to you always my friend. cdrxo

Hi, There is no such thing as Bad. Everything has both bad and good sides. Its us who choose one of them and that essentially depends on our own mental state. I mean there are people who in spite of being in very distressful situations always finds something positive out of it, and indeed there must be at least one. When our mind is dark, we overlook the light and when it is enlightened, we stay away from darkness. An integrated mind accepts both but takes only the enlightened aspect. It never denies the darker side, as that would be mere denial of reality. It rather finds its element of satisfaction only in the good side. You don't control outcomes. You just can't, no matter how you try. So its better be the cause and relinquish all control over the consequences. Let it be as God wishes, because He always has the very best in store for you. Take care God bless you

hell0 my friend! Yeah, it is really strange sometimes how bad things happen to us, even when we are trying to be the best, but maybe there is really no easy explanaition for that thing. I guess that no matter how hard we try and no matter how close we are to our target/aim ni life, no matter have we achieve it or we still chase it, bad things happen to us and will continue happen, maybe because that's the way how the nature acts. Because bad things can't actually happen only to people with no luck or people who are actually not that good in their job or private life, just because it would be unfair, don't you agree!? I guess that this are just common nature things, with which the nature tries to keep the balance, just like it keeps the balance among the wild animals and the plants- some are stronger and better and they eat and hunt the weaker ones, but there are some other factors like weather and area, which actually take control of the hunters, and that's the way how the nature keeps the balance. Maybe that's the same case with the people- bad things can't actually happen only to bad/sad/poor people, to people with no luck or people who are not that good. Yeah, it is really unpleasant when some bad thing happens to us, but we must face it with the head up and try to make over it, because that's the way how the strong people do my friend hope that only good things will happen to all of us here on myLot and in normal life too

Hi friend I can know about your cancer from the comments you made, will you please PM me your email id, hope i can tell you some thing useful there. Have faith on god and karma.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor

I've wondered about the same thing myself, when I was younger and was having a hard time. But then, I've realized that I was only focusing on the bad things all the time, everyday is a blessing that we should all be grateful about. We shouldn't waste our time worrying about these things, we should just learn to accept whatever comes our way. To be honest, I almost drove myself crazy thinking about my problems, what to do with my life, I was never contented. Try loosening up a bit, relax and enjoy yourself. A member of my family had cancer. You know what she did? She turned to God, she never really believed in God, but after what she went through, He was the only one she could really depend to. Your faith will heal you. If you want to get well, you should start thinking positive thoughts, and you will see...everything will be okay, somehow. Smile and always think that everything will be okay. Try to look at the bright side of things, by getting sick you will come to realize the things that you had neglected to see before, it'll open your eyes. It's okay to be scared. Everyone is scared of something anyways (they just don't want to admit it). If things are really looking way too bleak for you, maybe you should try to seek the help of a professional,(being a constant worrywart myself), a little pharmaceuticals won't hurt. ; ) Talk to someone (real flesh and blood, and not some words on your screen kind of thing) , cry, scream, do whatever it is to help ease the pain inside.

I say you really, really need to learn about the Law of Attraction. I am not kidding, it is life changing once you learn about this universal law that is always governing over all of us, all things. You get what you think about and how you are feeling. We are all vibrational, so whatever your vibration is at is what you will attract. If someone is always talking about sickness or health problems-they are sick or have a lot of health problems. By deliberately changing my thoughts and feelings on so many different topics I have literally turned my life around. I would strongly recommend the book, The Law of Attraction by Ester and Jerry Hicks as a start and if it fits they have an endless supply of materials to help you learn this. I have gone from being very ill and endless suffering with spinal injuries to now feeling great, pain free, able to eliminate several medications, lower my BP, get off anti-depressants, stop all nerve blocks and other injections for pain, I am now active, happy and feeling better than I have in years. Whatever health problem one has can be eliminated, no exceptions. My finances get better and better, in the last month I have dropped 9 lbs and over 2 inches in my waist..the only thing I did was learn about this, change the way I was thinking and feeling and it just keeps getting better and better. The Law of Attraction works whether you know it does or not, so by knowing how it works and learning how to make things work for you, you can become a deliberate creator of your life experience. I write this only because I love teaching others what I know because it really does work, its real, it is a univeral law so why not get it to work the way you want. Best of luck to you, I hope this helps. I can guarentee that once you learn this, your life will never be the same. Life is suppose to be fun!

I don't understand why God punish good people. Your sufferings might not be a fault of yours but it could be some ancestral sins that has not been cleared and you are paying for their pass sins. In our culture we strongly believe that if unceasing bad omens like illness or misfortune in the family, there must be unhealed sins from the past that needs to be healed to clear the bad vibes. So we can't blame God for all the happenings in our life. What you can do is to pray to ask for God's forgiveness and to lighten up your sufferings. "God please bring some good out of this bad situation" is one of the most powerful prayers in the universe. And one that God always says yes to but it's also one of the toughest to pray. The reason is that when we're right in the midst of suffering, it's very hard to calmly consider all the wonderful things that might lie in store for us in the future. After all, the future is always so unclear and hazy, while the pain we're experiencing in the present moment is so sharp and unmistakable.

Yes, I know what you mean. Life is a bit of a roller-coaster that way. One day we are up, the next day we are down. This happens to everyone - at least everyone I know. As a Zen practitioner, I find it best to go with the flow, as in Zen, if something is resisted, it will make it worse, so best to accept whatever comes my way the lows and the highs - it is the way life is. _Derek

I have been there more than once and the help comes from the Lord. He will never leave you. Sometimes people leave Him but He never will leave you if you call upon Him. Ask in Jesus Name it is important to ask in your prayers "in Jesus Name" because He said in His name with believe and faith to do so. Also to praise "as if it is done" be thankful it is sealed by Amen. Believe it says seek ye first the kingdom the rest will follow. You have not because you ask not or you ask a mistake. The JOY of the Lord is your strength. Jeremiah 3:33 The more we seek the more we know. The WORD feeds the spirit as if food the body. The more Word for healing read healing scriptures, for other things read. There is power in Praise, the NAME "Jesus " even the devils trimble by hearing that name. Jesus . Love is strong and Speak the WORD "the Bible" over your problem and rejoice and Praise God for the answer and what He has done and will do for you. You will know..also you can call upon the elders of the church to anoint you with oil and lay hands upon you to in prayer.

Hi there, I hope you're on your way to getting better :) I understand what you feel, especially since the later part of January I've been feeling down in the dumps as well. It remained that way until even last week. I try to be nice to others, I try to finish my projects on time, I try to do my best all the time but everything just seems to have this negative effect I can't get rid of. I often thought that good people have it harder because they are always presented with challenges that will try their strength and principles. Maybe our lesson is how we should deal with such circumstances despite being unfortunate. I hope you have a great day!

My dear Opal. You know what i always do with that damn stupid dark coud? I take the hosepipe to it. Just be your own good self every singe day. Believe in yourself and make the best of everything you do. Better than that we cannot do in life. I know you will get rid of that cloud. You can always sell it, you know. Have an awesome day. TATA.