child's behavior

@sql_cell (1427)
Indonesia
April 26, 2010 12:39am CST
as a parent, I was not able to direct my child's behavior. I sometimes feel stress because of my unruly child, it is difficult advised, and likes to argue. What should I do? is there a key to successful parenting?
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6 responses
Ifamous
@ifa225 (14461)
• Indonesia
30 Dec 10
well..kids are difficult to manage. they feel that they have their own best way to take a step. sometimes as a parent we just have to believe and pray for them that they won't make a wrong step. if they argue, i tend to tell them the reason but if they still argue, i just say 'i want the best things for my kids, no other than the best. but if you won't to have the best, go on with your way.' then i let them do what they want to do
Ifamous
@ifa225 (14461)
• Indonesia
31 Dec 10
i am not a good parent sql i am learning from my experience. they more we strict to kids, the more they get sick with us we never want that happen right? i want my kids love me. btw, i am still learning to be a better parent. everybody will get this trial as a process.
sql_cell
@sql_cell (1427)
• Indonesia
31 Dec 10
Thank you, ifa. Your response was amazing. You must be a good parent. I'm very difficult, to understand the nature of my child. Perhaps because of our nature, which are equally hard.
indahfth
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
28 Apr 10
many factors that cause children unruly, difficult and cantankerous advised, one of them is inconsistent parents in parenting. parents are inconsistent in parenting your child in a position uncertainty of things / behaviors are allowed and not allowed, children feel anxious and unable to think of cause and effect. so then the child becomes unable to control emotions and behavior.
Ifamous
@ifa225 (14461)
• Indonesia
30 Dec 10
it is, the real matter often is the parent itself. they can't consistent to what they said, and kids, who often imitate to what they see will free to disobey what parents said too. maybe we have to look ourselves in the mirror too.
indahfth
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
30 Dec 10
Ifa you are absolutely right, sometimes as a parent, is not consistent with our words. Sometimes we also do bad things, and children imitate us.
Zhizho
@Zhizho (1350)
• Indonesia
26 Apr 10
Hi..Yes, it's difficult to be a great mom. We must be patience. I think, the important is about communication. Usually, we talk to them as a director to his employes. we have to build a good relation like friends. Make them trust us. So never talk lie. So, they wouls like to follow what we say. We listen them about their feeling. We appriciate them. I feel that I have to learn and always learn many thing about parenting.
vikramtop1
@vikramtop1 (154)
• India
26 Apr 10
first of all kids usually do not go extreme behavior and mood changes like that unless some thing happened to them or someone they know and they are not sure how to cope with it. it definitely does not sound right and sounds very fishy and unusual that you child has changed so much in just a week.something had to have happened .if i were you i would be checking to see what occur during the week trip.how old is this child?i hope this help you and look into it something doe not sound right
besthope44
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
29 May 10
Well this kind of kind has to be handled carefully. If you become strict to them they becomes argumentive and violent. Be very patient and handle them slowly by caring.
sql_cell
@sql_cell (1427)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 10
Yes. I have to be patient. I always try to be patient, but sometimes I can not hold my emotions.
beesm17
@beesm17 (107)
• United States
27 Apr 10
The one thing I always remember my mom telling me is to stay calm. They can tell if your up tight or stressed out and they are going to feed off of it. So when they are being bad I tell myself that and count to ten. Sometimes I have to do it a couple of times I have a 19 and 7 month old. :) Good luck with your little ones.