SPANKING A KID:do you agree or not?

I always give a verbal warning first. If he doesnt listen to that then the next time he will get his hand or bottom spanked. I hit once or twice. I think anything more then that is going to help and its goinghere are certain things that your kids need to know not to do and sometimes talking doesnt help. Also I dont think that you should spank a kid under a year, maybe hit there hand if their getting into something but nothing more then that, they dont understand. My pysch teacher in college told us and we did a poll that most people that not spanked when they were a kid will do the same and the other way around. I thought that was interesting.

i really dont agree with spanking kids especially toddlers, and as much as possible i don't and just keep my calm.however, there are times when you just snap and yell and the urge to spank becomes very powerful. i must admit i have spanked my kid s few times but not too strong. i know its still wrong though. i still dont know how to discipline my daughter effectively because sometimes she acts like a hard-headed grown up already and she's only 2 years old. she asserts herself too much, even to the point that she lets me out of her room or wants me off her bed. when i bathed her and she didnt like it, i just left her with her nanny in her room, she went to my room and started hitting me. i really felt bad that maybe she saw the spanking i did and that it was ok to do what when she's mad. very very difficult in this period, i guess.

I am a mother and a teacher and situations call for a careful consideration regarding this problem. Most parents that I know spank their children. I do too because I believe that spanking is giving care for the child to learn his lessons. I spank but I do not hurt. I usually spank the palm of the child if he did something wrong but before I spank the child, I make sure that I have explained that what he did was wrong. when my son was still a little boy, I usually talk to him first, but if did not listen I spank his hand. I do this because I am concerned with the kids. Most kids nowadays have problems listening to adults and they sometimes need spanking before they learn their lesson. It's good to spank but make sure that it doesn't hurt the child too much.

I agree with you on it being a case by case situation. I never spank as a first result. However, if it gets to the point that nothing else work i have no problem with putting a tap on my daughters bottom to let her know i mean business. I do believe there is only two places ok to spank a child - bottom and hand. The face is COMPLETELY unacceptable. There is no reason that a child or anyone for that matter should ever be struck in the face. I always said when i was pregnant that i would never spank my child but some children dont get the picture without a little tap to get them to understand. But i always and would suggest to verbally warn, timeout, take aways toys, or anything else possible before resulting in physical discipline. Heres a line to go by when against a spanking in a case that definately needs to be. My husband always says "i'd rather go to jail for spanking my child then for my child to go to jail for not being spanked"..

I agree what you say so much ,what the kids existence in their childhood would make an important effect to his lifelong .punishing a kid by spanking isn't a effect way ,sometimes it makes the opposite consequence ,the kid many hate you ,and do more things what you don't agree with ,just for retaliation .so ,just teaching your kids friendly

As a kid I have had my fair share of spanking from my father and looking back, I think they affected me in a good way because my father spanked only if my behaviour merits spanking.Spanking is to drive home the idea that what the child did is really bad, so it should be used sparingly and only in grave situations.

Hi assinertata, I am strongly opposed to spanking any child as it amounts to telling the child that violence is okay, and since we are the adults, that is the message they will get. As you say in your last sentence, it will greatly affect their mindset and views for life. I hope that you will have children someday and that you will be wise enough to find a way to teach them without having to resort to violence. Blessings.

I had both experiences. my mom spanked me everytime I'd do something she did not approve of, while my dad was the opposite. he came this close to spanking me but never did. I noticed that I was more afraid of my dad than my mom. I guess ultimately I got used to the spanking so it really was not that effective after a few years.

I agree with spanking. The biggest problem in America today, is children who grow into adults who do not have any concept that bad actions have bad consequences. I was a spanked child, and grew up understanding that if I broke the law there were consequences. This is entirely due to my father. Alternatively, I've seen, and met kids whose parents never spanked, and instead 'talked' to them. What they grew up learning is that no matter what they did, they could 'talk' their way out of it. These baby-ish adults, end up thinking they should be able to get away with anything, and the rest of us have to deal with their mis-behavior. And I do partially blame awful pathetic parents for their immaturity in adulthood. Part of being a parent is to teach kids that when you do bad things, bad things happen to you, and thus you should be more decent.

i agree as long as the spank is for discipline and not just spank without reasons it is still better than none for the kid not to be spoiled.

I agree with you.I also have no kids yet.Spanking a kid is a discipline or an abuse has be case to case basis Parents should choose the best way of disciplining. Spanking is needed. But spanking is not useful any time.

Just as a coin has two sides,on the one hand,I think it is basically OK to discipline kids when they do wrong or they are naughty;on the other hand,it is right to spank kids when they do gangerous things,for example,playing with fires and it does not work to discipline them.

Before you spank a kid be sure to give three warnings first and if it stills dont listen just spank him/her. Be sure to explain why do you do that afterwards so that the kid knows what is his/her fault.

definitely not. I would say its abuse to kids too. I plan on having a girl and a boy, which hopefully the boy will come first so the girl can have an older brother. but what im getting at is, i completely disagree, its never okay to hit a a kid no matter what. it doesnt teach them anything, the only thing it does is recks its relationship with the parent.

When I spank my child, it does not mean I want to hurt him but I only want him to know that there is always a punishment for wrong doings. Of course I don't just spank for every little faults. Spanking is done only when necessary. I discipline my child the biblical way. I don't wanna spoil the rod because I don't wanna spoil my child. As even God himself chastens His children whom He loves, I also chasten my child because I love him so and I believe the rod of correction will take away the naughtiness in him. Here are the Bible verses which serve as my basis in child discipline: Prov 19:18: "Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying." Prov 22:15: "Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him." Prov 29:15: "The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame." Prov 23:13: "Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die." Prov 23:14: "Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell." Prov 13:24: "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes."

I am not approved of spanking. why? because i don't want to instill a violent discipline on my little one. i think the best way to discipline a child is to talk to him/her nicely and explain why he/she shouldn't do this or that and tell him/her the consequences of doing such action. i want to have a baby someday. however, i don't think it will happen.... good thing, i have a very adorable nephew... i love him, i really do.. i want to give him only the best..

I believe spanking of small children is necessary. Spare the rod and spoil the child.

I don't know how a child would understand that spanking is a way of disciplining them, but when I got older I understood my parents better. It doesn't always work for every family though. What my parents did with us siblings, like one of the comments above, were warn us verbally and if we don't listen, we get a spanking. It's safe to say I'm a good person right now and that the spanking did help make me disciplined.

Yea I believe it depends on the particular kid, and yea like you said on a case to case basis. It just all depends on the circumstances. As long as the parent isn't abusing the kid and taking it too far then I think its fine.

I do not belive that spanking is abuse. Children have to learn right from wrong and with us being parnets we are the one's to set that.what work's for some people does not work for other. Spanking send's the message across to the child..but not to the point of brusies. I think the butt is the place to spank no where else. They need to learn when they are little or they will never learn and in the future me wrong choices and end up in a bad situtaion with no way out..ex jail..prison ect.