My mom needs help...what do I do..

I am so sorry to hear that.This is a tough question.but you should help her,because she is your mother.Maybe you need to talk with your husband,and know his opinion.you can rent an apartment for her near you house,so you can take care of her and don't disturb your huaband and children. I hope this things have a happy ending.best wishes to you.

Really hard to decide. I am a mother, too. And my priority is my children. If I were you, I would not take the risk of taking my mother home and loosing my children. But you should help your mother in other ways. Find her a home to other place' If you cannot rent a house for her, bring her to home for the aged or other institution that will help her. But be sure you will always visit her and show love to her. Really hard to love a person who make your life miserable. But we cannot correct a mistake by another mistake. Love and prayers is what she probably need now.

ok, first and foremost, do not I repeat, do not move your mother in with your family. No matter what. She is a grown up and needs to take care of herself. If she can not, then get her the psychological help she needs. THAT you can help with. But do NOT put your family at risk. This is not your responsibility. If she ends up homeless, this is her fault. I know it sounds harsh, but how else will she get better?

while your mom is your mom, she didnt really act like a mom it sounds like. its a tough decision but you have to do what is best for your family. she has made her decisions in life and is her own person. i dont think you need to feel guilty. see if you can help her get treatment as well as see if you can hook her up with an organization that will help her.

your mother should be more responsible of her action, if there is a thing like adoption for mothers you can do that, kidding aside, how about paying for a home shelter or home care? Maybe when she is admitted and if she behaves herself, she might get a job in the homecare like cleaning etc.

i don't have an effective way to help you only because i don't have a mom like yours.i would hope myself to be a super man who really loved mymom if i were her daughter.you know,all the women believe in love.so nothing can really change a woman except the love from her lover.i pray for your mom:"Amitabha"

She really needs help...a professional help. She could be suffering from some depression. As a daughter, it is your responsibility to take care of her but if it will endanger your relationship with your husband and your children, please have someone take care of her. You can send her to some institution handling this kind of situation. I know how you feel right now, you are torn between between your love with your family and your duty as a daughter. But what else can you do? Sure you have other siblings and relatives who can help you out on this. Good luck! Hope she gets well soon.

Mothers are mothers, but your mom definitely sounds like she needs help, and no matter how you know she's the one that raised you, it's hard to risk the feelings of other people especially other family members like your children and your husband. My mom is sort of the same way. My mother is raising my 7 year old daughter, and she's raising her the same way she did me: she constantly yells at her, she hits her when she didn't like the way my daughter did things, my mother never allows to play outside, and she forces my daughter to sleep when she does. She doesn't like noise at home, so my daughter has to keep quiet. When she's unable to do her schoolwork in the fastest time, my mother loses her temper and ends up hitting my daughter. I feel sad and helpless, but the best bet I have at the moment is that they're sending my child to a good school, she can participate in extra curricular activities that I can't fund for myself, she gets all the necessary medications that I know I can't supply and she has a good, clean home to go to. But lately my daughter is feeling bad and has started to tell me that she wishes my mom wouldn't come back from her out of town trip. It hurts me that my child is beginning to think this way. I'm not even sure how to start helping her. If you know there's something wrong with your mother, don't risk having your children near her. It's difficult, they might start harboring bad feelings when you don't want anything like that to happen. I know sometimes you'll think it's better that only you should feel anything negative towards your mother and not have anyone else have to deal with that. And usually it's the truth and it's better that way. Get her the help she needs, but you don't have to risk your family members dealing with that problem.

Hi lilly..If i was u..I would definitely helped her.A mom is a mom..no matter what happens..It is becauswe of her that u are in this wondeful world today.. She has carried you for 10 long months .Life changes everyone .Yoour mom is one of those changed persons . Any Indian here would have helped his mom . Happy mylotting and have a nice day !..and please do reconsider of helping her

It's difficult to decide.........if you are afraid of losing your children s ,you should admit to hospital or admit to old age institution which she will spent her days with some other like same age of her, on the other side you have to visit her afterward she is your mother...........i will pray to god for you to come out of that situation