I'm flattered...
By hvedra
@hvedra (1619)
April 26, 2010 10:25am CST
Do you know anyone who copies or tries to copy what you do.
Say you go and get a radically different haircut, after thinking about it for a while and deciding you need a change, and then they get one?
Or you start to dress a bit differently, so they get some clothes similar to your new ones.
Or you do a college course and they suddenly take an interest.
Do they do well with their copying or does it go slightly wrong because they have a haircut because you did and not one that suits them. Or the clothes don't suit them and they look terrible. Or they drop out of the course because they aren't cut out for it.
I have someone who is a bit like that that I know and I wonder why she tries to copy me. I wouldn't copy me and I'm me! She's trying to be me instead of herself and I'm already me and I shall continue being me forever so why does she do it?
Any ideas folks?
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12 responses
@AnnieOakley1 (5596)
• Canada
27 Apr 10
Yes, all the time. I am a leader, not a follower, so many people try and mimic me. Depends on the circumstances what it is, whether it annoys me or I feel flattered.
I don't really know why people do this, because I am not like that. But I have sometimes wondered if it wasn't because they NEED direction in their life and they are not as independant, confident and decisive as I am.
@GardenGerty (160626)
• United States
26 Apr 10
It sounds like she really is not sure who she is, or how to find out about who she is. I hope it does not bother you that she does this. If you had time you could look at some magazines together and some hair design books, and pick something that is more flattering for her. Or, you could just ignore her. For a moment I was afraid you were going to say people were copying your posts here. Now, I just got an idea--introduce your friend to MyLot, she would be a referral, she could start out slow and get comfy, and then she would have something better to do than to copy you all of the time.
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@hvedra (1619)
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26 Apr 10
It doesn't bother me in a lot of ways but I do find it a bit sad and a little bit awkward. There's no malice in what she does and I do compliment her when she does her own thing and does things that are flattering for her. She's a bit unsure of herself in a lot of ways and I think she tends to overcompensate for things and that's when it goes a bit awry.
It is a bit flattering but also a bit strange.
@assinertata (288)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
I experienced same thing a lot of times already. And most of the time, it didn't turn out good between me and her/them. Every time I notice a person trying to copy what I do, it gives me a message of warning to myself. As for me, and as experienced, they are dangerous. These type of people are insecure, and what they felt insecure about themselves they see those to the person they're trying to copy of.
But sometimes, there are people who would like to copy somebody else because he/she sees good things about this person. And there's nothing wrong about it. As long as she/he copies with good intention.
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@charylady (419)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
they say imitation is the best flattery. maybe she idolizes you and really wishes to be like you. or maybe she just likes to get on your nerves. it could also be that she has not yet figured herself out. just be patient and if you can, try to help her develop her own style, live her own life.
@ericpapasit (1274)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
You know hvedra.... You should not be insecure in all of that nonsense things. Do what is well and if they imitate you then you became a good example to your community.
Remember that God resist the proud and give grace to the humble... God bless...
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@amelly (1554)
• Malaysia
27 Apr 10
ya..some of my friends did it..maybe she just want to be different but she do it wrongly.she can start by not to copy others and be herself.it doesn't matter if she is not good at it.in that case..she need some help maybe with the way she dress up or her haircut.or maybe she simply adores u...
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
26 Apr 10
I wonder why she tries to copy me. I wouldn't copy me and I'm me!
She tries to copy you perhaps because of her lack of self esteem?
Thats the only reason why she tries to copy you. I have a friend
whose cousin tries to imitate her in everythying, clothes behaviour etc
And she is not a 15 year old but a sixty year old. You dont copy yourself
because you are sure of yourself and hate copying somebody else.
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
26 Apr 10
Both my daughters do this if I put on any make up or I cut my hair they want to wear the same lip stick and have the same exact hair cut. You might think since they're both young that its cute they are trying to be like their mom but its actually frustrating because one I hate being intentionally copy catted and two I don't like that they have gotten this idea that they have to look like everyone else. I definitely agree with the others your friend may have low self confidence. She sees that you have the life she wants and she thinks "If I just look like her, if I just do things like her I can have that kind of life too". Its almost creepy and honestly I'd have to say something to her about it.
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@rhan04 (307)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
I'm not really sure why she's doing that. Maybe she's a bit insecure about herself that she doesn't want to be herself at all...but that's just an idea ^-^ Or maybe she just idolizes you because she thinks you're cool or something =)
I don't know about you...but if that happens to me, I might get flattered at first..but if she's overdoing it, then that becomes really annoying .
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@MagicalBubbles (5103)
• Canada
26 Apr 10
Well you should be flattered. They say copying is the best form of flattering.
That person is insecure and doesnt have a style.
I dont have anyone do this with me. Its usually quite the contrary, if Im to do something, my sister will do the opposite, so much so that now I dont tell her about anything new about me lol.
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@nangisha (3496)
• Indonesia
26 Apr 10
I don't have someone like that around, If have new dress or hair cut they just being supportive by telling how good it on me. I think your friend have a security issues and he don't know how to be herself. They tend to copy popular person around them who threat her nicely. Its sad because they have to be pretend to be someone else to become accepted by his surrounding. Personality class maybe work for her.
@LillyBelleDaisyRose (285)
• United States
26 Apr 10
It is slightly annoying when people do that... It's even more annoying when people do the exact same thing you did and you were critized for it but they are praised... But we are each unique in our own way... but by you saying that you wouldn't want to be you.. you are allowing her the okay to take over your personality... You are you...she is whoever she is... and there is always someone out there who is envious of what you have no matter how much you want to believe it. But if it bothers you alot confront her about it... and when you do bring a pen and paper so that you can sign autographs because apparently you are famous...hehehe
