What do you do when other children don't listen to you?

In this situation, you've now learnt a lesson - you will not want to take your son's friends to have lunch. I think you did the right thing. You have not mentioned the age of the children. Are they old enough to understand if you are firm and speak about consequences? If so, you could have a talk with them after taking care of your son (in a firm way showing them that this was exactly what you were worried of). But seeing the way they reacted to your asking them to go into the cafeteria, I don't think they are the kind who would wait and listen you out. Usually when other people's children refuse to listen to me (this happens usually in social settings and at the apartment complex we stay at), I speak to the parents. I also make it clear that I have spoken to the children and they refuse to listen.

Dear Rachelle. I can understand what u must have gone through. Hows ur son now? Hope the bruise is healing up fast. Dont worry, he will be fine and running very soon. I know how it feels to see ur own child bleeding and with tears in the eye. Ya its indeed very difficult when others children dont listen to u, because u cant treat the same way as ur own child. But i guess the best way would be to give them a lot of love and care to make them realise their mistakes. At the same time a child is a child and children are meant to be a bit naughty. They r cute that way. But then ya they should listen to elders.

I can see why you would feel uncomfortable in dealing with other peoples kid's that don't mind. I don't have much tolerance for that. It's tough with other peoples kid's. If the kids are disrespecting you, then odds are the parents will be right on you if you try to discipline them. When they first started acting out I would have warned them that they would have to go inside if they did not mind. If they continued, we would have gone in. If they refused, I'd have given them a choice of going in peacefully with me or me getting the principal to come and get them. I would have then headed toward the school and I bet they would have followed once they realized you were serious. If not, they get what they deserve.

Hi, RachelleNH. Well with me, I will say to them that I may need to talk to their parents. Or I may say nicely to them that it is the right thing to do to follow instructions. I would say it very nicely. I think that you did the right thing by contacting the cafeteria aide, so that way she could lead them into the cafeteria. I don't like dealing with someone else child, because they can go back and tell their parents a bold faced lie about something that I did not do. And I don't want that to happen at all.

Children are always like that. It's really hard to make them stop from what they want to so. As much as possible, we keep on warning them. If they really don't listen, we help them face the consequences of their actions, then they will realize why we are prohibiting them.I always pray for my children for the guidance of the Lord because we parents are not enough to guide them always. We are not always on their side. We also dhow obedience to others so that we give example to our children.

As much as we want to discipline all children other than our own, it is very hard especially the children of today. But to be a parent, the children should be taken cared of. If they refuse to listen then talk to them and ask them how they feel if other children do not listen to their parents. Perhaps they will think again. or you can point out their mistakes and make them realize that they are wrong if they still refuse to listen then let them see what happens with children who are stubborn.

Hiya Rachelle, Even with children of close relatives it´s quite difficult to have the responsibility of taking care of them. I have learned to keep my nose out of that too. I rarely offer if any at all to take on anything like that. I did it once and my "sister in law" went completely hysterical just because I closed the front Door to stop her daughter running after her till she had gone downstairs so I said I would never look after her again and I never did. Why ask me in the first place to look after her if all you are going to do is pick faults all the time was my answer to her and so be it. (This was what I said to my Sister In Law) It is really much more complicated now too I think as People seem to be very reactive over reactive to anything. I never smile at a Baby now like I used to instead I send it loving thoughts and they usually smile at me anyway. Don´t feel bad about it you were only thinking of their safety which makes you a very good and caring person. I know that frustration and I have lived without and very happily without Sister in Laws for a very long time what a relief. At the start I always thought I had to be caring and sharing but they don´t want that anyway. Never mind Rachelle you just care for your own first and the rest can take care of themselves.