He Wants to Have His Cake and Eat It Too!!!!

I completely understand. We've talked about it because she's open with me and other coworkers about their situation. The others tend to hassle her and really push how bad he is treating her but I can tell she closes off because of the way they voice they're opinions. I've talked to her personally and let her know that she deserves better and maybe she needs to step away for him to see what he's missing. She's been with him for 5 years and says he's the one she wants to marry and she doesn't want multiple baby's fathers. She says she's willing to waut for him. I've told her thats her decision, but maybe she shouldn't continue to tell him that because that just gives him leadway to do what he wants and know that she will still be there to come back to.

I myself have been in that same exact situation. It is so incredibly hard to watch someone you love go through all the pain they inflict on themselves by putting up with the scum they surround themselves by. Its also painful to the family and friends that love and care for them. Unfortunately in my dealings with these situations that person only moves on when they are good and willing to. They all want the opinions of their friends and to be told how crazy, stupid, and patient they are with the ones that do them wrong but dont want to bite the bullet just yet. My friend is pregnant with her ex boyfriends baby after they were together for 6 long years. He know wants nothing to do with her and the baby and continues to go out and date other people. He doesnt have a steady income so is parents have offered to pay his part of the raising of the child in return for his freedom from any responsibility and my friend. She is due any day now and has had meny problems and been on bed rest for the last 12 weeks. He has not shown up at the hospital at all, he will not return phone calls about her or the baby, and is constantly changing his fb status to flirt with other girls. My poor friend is tortured by his actions and all of her family that once adored him now loathes him. Unfortunately his is still the love of her life and until she finds someone else to emaotionaly take jis place, she will continue to cry 12 times a day. My advice is to be patient with your friend. Tell her how you feel when she asks and hold nothing back. She needs to hear how crazy that whole situation is and how she deserves much, much better. But, dont lose patience with her and end up pushing her away by trying to push him away. One day she will realize but until then just be there as a shoulder to cry on. Good luck!

I'm sorry to hear about yur friends situation. She needs to realize now that its that chidl that must come first. And if she can't have him in her life its only for the best because it could greatly affect the babies environment. Children will feel their mother's pain. Thank you for the advice and good luck to her.

Thanks for the advice. Its sad that men or should I say boys can't control their emotions when it comes to caring for children. Good luck with your friend too. Hopefully oneday she'll see she's worth way more then whats she's getting. And my own personal opinion is nothing good can come from a married man that has a facebook account.