How do you get over someone you love?
By acey76
@acey76 (1276)
Philippines
April 27, 2010 12:49am CST
It's really hard having that feeling that you still care and love a person but the person doesn't feel the same anymore, a friend of mine feels so down right now and I have advised her to just think of the bad memories she shared to that person so that eventually she would feel it's right that the relationship is over .. Any additional advise??
6 responses
@catalyser (531)
• Malaysia
27 Apr 10
I would say to spend more time with your family and friends. Thats is what I did when I had a really bad break up, I just try not to be alone most of the time. There is also a period of mourning which is okay and actually healthy but if its too long then it might take a toll on that person.
@merlibradley (407)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
There is no easy way to heal a broken heart. The best way is to accept what happened. For me, a person can still think of some good memories even after the break up. It will be more difficult if your friend will dwell on the bad memories. She can think of some sweet things with him and thank God for the opportunity of being happy even if it didn't last a lifetime. She should not be alone this time coz when a person is down, she usually needs someone to talk to. I do believe that time heals a broken heart.
@thedataminer (515)
• United States
27 Apr 10
Tell your friend that someone (me) from mylot wasted many years, like 10 to 14 (I lost count) on a very bad relationship where the man just treated her like dirt over and over and over again. I thought I couldn't get over this man and because of my emotional problems kept hanging on for the longest time. From my experience after a man treats you exceedingly badly throughout so many years your love finally rides that incline railroad down until you don't feel one drop of love left for him at all. Tell her it hurts very badly but she needs move on because if she keeps trying to hang on to a bad relationship then she will just keep getting hurt. The pain will go away with time and she will find someone new that really loves her.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
Letting go is a difficult process especially when you still feel strongly for that person, but either way you have to realize and accept the fact that you should move on. When a door closes, a window opens.. Healing takes time, but it would only heal if you help yourself.. Better to keep yourself preoccupied and start living.
@bunnyxoxoxo (146)
•
27 Apr 10
we all know that letting go of someone or moving on is very very very difficult..I've experienced that kind of thing and because of that experiences I've learned..the person she love maybe gone now but she still have friends like you who care for her, her family, and especially God..all of the things that's happening here on earth has it's own purposes..the guy maybe is gone now but think about the fact that there will be a replacement for him, maybe a much better person..so tell her not to run out of hope and just always be with her and do something that will make her forget her problem and make her happy.. :))