Please help! Shall I leave him?

I guess you should ask yourself if he really loves you. Basing on the way you describe him, it seems that he doesn't respect you or know your value. Maybe it is also because you are showing too much affection for him that he knows you will never be able to leave him. Even so if I were in his position, I wouldn't do those things if I really love a person. So my advice would be to let him fight for you. Let him go and if he really loves you then he will fight for you. But the risk is always there that he won't come back to you. The bright side of it is you will know the truth if he loves you or not. Its really up to you if you are willing to take the risk.

maybe you can go to travel far away him.i think respection is basic.and there is nothing that you can't do. come on!good luck!

Just in listening to how this reads, I'd say you two are not married. If not, then I'd suggest you leave him. Things will only get worse because he's simply not committed to you. He's not your husband. If you are married, it's way past time to get some marriage counseling.

Why would you want to stay with someone who shows by every action how much he disrespects you? You will find happiness, wholeness, and joy without him. Someday you'll wonder why it took you so long. If you are having trouble leaving what has all the earmarks of an abusive relationship, please see a counselor and work it through. You deserve so much better.

hi caliya, I am saddened to know that your boyfriend is treating you that way. For you are so inloved with him regardless of the pain he is causing you to the point you always fail to leave him. What you have shown in your ways is basically a true love that speaks and understand his mistakes, a love that is sensitive to know how would he feel rather than to what you feel. I admire you for that. Seemingly, your partner is getting quite insensitive with regards to your feelings. Instead, he is more appreciative of other people by sharing all their thoughts, his good views. I just hope he will realize how great person you are, that you are still able to listen to him many times when he speaks, even you are deeply hurt by his doings..Maybe, there are things in his mind that he cannot tell you directly that is why he uses other people as an object for him to slightly relate what he feels..Unless, he had revealed everything to you emotionally about his thoughts for you and about your relationship. I understand that you cannot live a day without him. You think life is miserable. But, actually when true love comes first, we always see the good side of the person we love but not all are seen..There are things in a relationship that has downfall and this is the time for both of you to work things out by telling what you both really feel about those situations. So, as to make good clarifications and understanding of one's mistakes.. It is indeed, in this way you will know, all the questions in your mind that needed an answer. And, for these answers, you can have choices for every solutions or resolutions you will make. You know, even you love the person so much, and no matter how long your understanding will be for the sake of loving. It is still best, that both of you have that emotional security of love and affection, a respect and good treatment that both of you will give for each other, a love that only both of you can understand and a heart that both of you will always give no matter what irregularities of life may seems .. Still, at the end, both of you are contented with your relationship. It is hard to let go for a person you truly love, much very hard to start a new life alone again, but, it's in your decisions, would make you feel the freedom of being loved by accepting who you really are despite of your imperfections, then All I can say is that, no matter what your decisions may be, you deserve to be happy and experience the other great things in life has to offer.. Happy mylotting..

Hi caliya, the signs are pretty obvious; you are a female martyr. Sorry, I'm being cruel but come on. Don't put up with the "you're-the-one-I-love" crap. Hey girl, I don't think I need to tell you, because I'm sure you know the right thing to do. Wake up and love yourself. He would dump you in a flash. It doesn't take a genius to figure it out. You are in a relationship, so he should respect what you both have. Leave him now!

This Guy sounds like my Ex Husband, I also used to get verbal and mental abuse from him I suffered for 21 Years, then decided it is enough, my confidence was destroyed, I was wreck, so Sweetie, think about it very carefully and it has to be your Choice, but I personally would leave him before he does to you what my Ex Husband did to me

I know it wouldn't be easy to break up with someone that you love. However, the way I look at the situation it seems like your partner doesn't respect you or love you that much. The truth may hurt but that should be accepted. You deserve someone who give you more importance and would make you feel secure no matter what. Your partner does the other way around. Don't wait for the time that you will lose your self esteem. Don't make him feel that he is the only person in this world because he would be more complacent with the relationship. You have to move on and get over with. Goodluck!

I believe that you already know in your heart that the best thing to do is to get out of a relationship that makes you feel bad about yourself. If he really did love you he would not do all that you say he does to you. You deserve so much better for yourself than to have some low life disrespecting you. Im willing to bet that the drinking weith the guys he is really out with another girl. GET OUT OF THAT DESTRUCTIVE RELATIONSHIP!!!

Sweetie, i cannot tell you to leave him. That is your decision to make. But, if this was me, i would leave him so fast his head would spin. No women should ever take this crap from any man. He might be funny and make you feel good, but disrespect, no way. Say goodbye and get it over with. Good Luck. TATA.

I believe that if a relationship is no longer as smooth as it should be, when every thing is always on the rocks, when you can no longer have time to smile and be happy living with him, then it's time to let go. You will feel the pain of course, but that will only for a moment, and then you'll live. I guess, you're just punishing your self, he doesn't respect you anymore, though I must say that he doesn't love you anymore the way he loved you before. Just go and leave him. He doesn't deserve you. There could be somebody who is more fit to be loved. Good luck!

Hi caliya, As I read your message, it seems you jealous or not.. Try to confront him and ask him in a nice way. Try to steal their time when they chat with anyone and talk to him heart to heart. Try to feel to him that your the man of yours and try to feel to him that he's important. Maybe they noticed you.. I you really love him. Don't give a chance to steal it from you.. Have an excellent day!!!

I understand how you feel because I was once on that situation. Yeah its really hard to let go, but you know what, no matter how I love him, one day, I found myself letting go. In a relationship, I believe that respect should come first. LOVE is a second thing. So if there are instances of disrespect, how could you expect love to follow? I always wanted to have a man who is going to tell me that I am the most beautiful on his eyes but until date, I havent found. Whats ironic is that Im beautiful but I guess I just have found men that have high standards. So just a piece of advice, dont expect other people to look at you beautiful, even your boyfriend. Theres no other people who's going to look at you the way you wanted to be other than yourself. People told me this once, and I guess you too need this. If you want to leave a person and forget him, dont think of his good attributes, focus on the things he does that makes you feel bad and youll see later on, youre just gonna give up and let go because you are already tired.

All I can say is love yourself first before loving him. It is your choice to leave or stay in that kind of relationship. But before you two break your relationship better talk to him first site what must be the problem, then try to plan things if your relationship can still survive. If not, better accept it than to get hurt.

If you have doubts-maybe you need a breather..but I wonder about cheating with the strange behavior and comments. In the end it's your choice-are you happy? Can you see yourself like this in 1 year, 5 years, a lifetime if it doesn't change? Have you confronted him for talking about all the "beautiful women" and why he doesn't answer his phone? I'm sorry you have to go through this-I know the pain you are feeling.

Just break up with him. He thinks he can have you anytime and that you have no power to leave him. I know this cuz i'm a guy. I know how it feels to be superior. It gets me power tripping and i always get out of hand. The only way to break this is to leave him.

Just break up with him. He thinks he can have you anytime and that you have no power to leave him. I know this cuz i'm a guy. I know how it feels to be superior. It gets me power tripping and i always get out of hand. The only way to break this is to leave him.

Boybato made a great point up there... A Cool Off will help. A little distance from him will not make him a fool but make yu feel needed. A trick I consider most often is when you pool away and he never come knocking on your door the next 3 days means he is fed up with you but don't want to tell you that, "hey gyal, you are pissing my down" To really kno if he still cares, pool off, and observe. Wish you well, okey, but keep the smile bright cos You such a lovely person...Smilee!!!

U don't have 2 always make yourself been hurt, sometimes all u SHOULD do is just keep a distance from, it always make him feel u don't really need him, so he will keep arounding u ,, it always works,, if not, just leave him......

i think you should leave him.why?becuase its not realy important to stay for a such losser person. there alot person there who could be on your side that you can lean on your problem. not to hurt you always. also dpnt forget to pray. ask an assistant to God. only God can help you alot. i hope i help you. thank you