I think my boss is PMS-ing. But my boss is a GUY. Any advice? :|

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Thanks for acknowledging my patience. Lol. And yes, it's really annoying when I wait for nothing. Actually, I just applied as a writer, but then he started making me do stuff, so I consider myself a virtual assistant. Lol. What do you mean that they would've been different if I were a guy? What could've happened? Haha

It deserves a bit of his share though

Take any chair then sweetie. Enjoy yourself. BB, you know why i am that way, so don't you dare laugh.

Your response made my day! Lol, thank you :) And I won't do that to the poor computer! The computer doesn't deserve it. Lol.

I actually don't mind the waiting as long as it's not for nothing. That's what really ticks me off, when I wait a long time for nothing. He's done it so many times already, and he doesn't even bother to let me know that he's not gonna give me work anymore for the day. I don't really know a site like that, do you know any? The only reason I'm sticking with my current employer is that he pays considerably higher compared to other employers I've heard of.

Yea you can check my profile for the site, I'm using it now and it's pretty good. It's sort of a difficult site to get your first job at if you don't have your profile filled out completely so I'll send you a message about how to go about using the site.

Okay, thanks! Well, I've had quite a number of jobs already and I also have a resume (lol), would that help? But your help and tips would really be very useful, so yea. Thank you!

I'm just doing this part time and I don't have other clients since I'm afraid that I might not be able to give quality service if I go for a lot of clients. And the pay he's giving me is quite good compared to others, it's just the attitude problem sometimes that bothers me. :/ He pays me per assignment, by the way.

Well yea, it's really a nice job when everything goes well. But since nothing can be perfect, I guess that's why my boss is like that. Lol. Anyway, I actually document everything he says, lol. And sometimes, when he corrects me, I let him know my explanation (and subtly point out his mistake, ). I don't really know how to let him know about what he's doing, because I might "annoy" him again. And since he's a very busy man, I don't think he'd have room for such a conversation. Heck, he doesn't even have time to tell me that he's not going to give me a task to work on anymore, and would just prefer to let me wait for nothing (sarcastic tone). I just let it pass. :/ I'm perfectly okay with waiting, honestly. What really pisses me off is when he lets me wait for hours telling me that he's gonna make me do something "in a minute", then later on I just see that he's gone offline. So much for giving me something to work on, right? Not to mention making me wait a long time for nothing. It's really happened a lot of times before, but what happened today was really beyond the line. I mean, what he told me, did you read it? It really seemed so rude to me. :| Thank you anyway for the response! Made me feel a bit better.

Oh my gosh, I guess your boss is worse. Good thing he's already your FORMER boss. That was really too much, and considering the fact that it was offline, so waiting for nothing would've been more hard! :| And yes, I guess you can call it that, like an online secretary. Well the scenario that I posted has happened a lot of times before. The only thing is that for the previous times, I just let it pass. I waited for HOURS for NOTHING. He didn't even bother letting me know that I didn't need to do anything for the day anymore. He just let me wait. I just went offline when he saw that he's also gone offline already. :/ It really has happened numerous times before, but the thing that has happened today was really what ticked me off. It was just so rude :/ Anyway, thank you for the response! I highly appreciate it. Thanks for sharing, as well.

Well, i do agree that you shouldn't up and quit unless you have something to replace this job with. I would sure be looking. In the meantime, have you talked to him about this? If it were me, I think I would have to say something to him.

I haven't. I don't really know how to talk to him about it. :/

Hi Sid, you are very lucky that you have a nice boss. Anyway, my boss pays me waaaaay below the minimum rate for writers in his country (US). However, since I'm not in the US, he pays me a bit more than the usual compensation that writers/VAs in my country get. So I really don't know if it's worth it, but since it'll be hard to find another employer who could pay me more than he does, I just have to stick with him for now. And yes, it's like he even forgot that I was here waiting for him! Sometimes he just makes me wait and then after 3 hours, next thing I know he's already offline! What sucks more than waiting is when you've been waiting for nothing. And what sucks more than that is when your boss treats you unfairly and insults you and talks to you in a rude and arrogant manner. And yes, I don't get paid by the hour, so yeah. :|

jeeyah, Let me ask a few questions here, since you said you are a virtual assistant - what is your job scope? Plans can change and if your boss had forgotten to inform you - what do you expect him to do? I hope that you can see another picture. Your plans may change but your job is still intact. However, when your boss has these changes, it could mean loosing a certain business opportunity or business as a whole with consequences for the company. Now, how would you react if you are in his shoes? On the hindsight, if he is too overbearing for you, then how about looking for a job elsewhere?

Well, actually I just applied as a writer, but since he makes me do a whole lot of other stuff, I consider myself a virtual assistant. So I just basically do whatever he tells me to do. What do I expect him to do? Well, is it too much to ask for a simple apology or even just some kindness? This just always happens, he makes me appear like I'm always wrong and that he's always right, even though sometimes it's not. I understand that he's busy and might have forgotten about me, but that doesn't give him the right to be rude to me and act as if I were one of his robots whose life revolves around him. He could've told me "sorry but there's a change of plan, I'll just give you something to work on tomorrow instead." BUT NO, he said "let me work.. I'll let you know", when 40 minutes prior to that he clearly and voluntarily told me that "I'll get something ready for you in a minute". This has happened a lot of times before, and like what I said, I just often let it pass. And for those previous times, he didn't even let me know, so I was waiting for HOURS for NOTHING. A simple apology or even just a wee bit kindness is all I'm asking for. I know he's my boss, but I'm a human who deserves to be respected and valued, don't you think? Again, I didn't really get what you meant on the 3rd paragraph, it's kinda vague. By the way, he's just an internet marketer, and his business is online-based and all about marketing and networking and such. So, I don't really know if we're on the same page here. Nevertheless, please explain the 3rd paragraph. What do you mean "how would I react if I were in his shoes?" Sorry but I don't really see the connection of what you're saying with my issue here.

Have you read the whole of my story, skysuccess? As you can see, I have no problem with waiting. He has let me wait HOURS a lot of times before. But if you have seen our conversation, maybe you would understand why I got so irritated. He told me that he was going to give me work. I was there waiting. After 40 minutes, I asked him what the work was. He seemed to have gotten annoyed and told me in a way to leave him alone because he was working. So I asked him if that means I won't be needing to do anything anymore and if it was okay for me to go offline already. He was like "YEP". Now tell me, was I wrong or was he wrong? It's okay for me to wait, but WAITING FOR NOTHING is a different issue. And you won't really know the whole of my story or you won't really understand what I mean unless you get to work with him. He insults me, makes me wait for nothing, etc. CONSTANTLY. There are times when he's nice, and times when he's mean. And yes, I do cope with it and just chose to ignore it most of the time even though he wasted my time and really insulted me a lot of times. I just thought that I could rant here because I'm just human and I can't keep my emotions in forever. Sorry, but I didn't really get some of the things you said. The one about the social circle of friends and the lowering of my expectations. Sorry, care to explain? :/

I think my boss is also just at home, because he owns the business, and it's also an online business. Anyway, how should I be upfront about it? One time, around last week, I told him in an e-mail that "I waited for hours but he didn't show up". But he never apologized. And yesterday, I even pointed out that he told me he was going to give me work so I waited for 40 minutes, but it just seems that he's ignoring what I'm telling him. I've kinda pointed out some of his "mistakes" or what he's done to me subtly in e-mails, but he never actually acknowledges it or he doesn't respond about it. He just responds with another thing, and disregards what I said. I really think that you're right, he just plain forget that I'm here waiting for him. And what's more irritating is that he actually forgot that he told me that he was gonna give me work! :| Thank you so much for the response, Hatley!

Well yea, I just put up with him, but since I'm human and can't keep my irritation inside, I decided to rant here on myLot, lol. Anyway, I guess that's really the way bosses are, "bossy". But there are some bosses who are really nice. I've had one before and I liked him very much, too bad that he didn't pay me quite enough for my work, so yea. And lol, that quotation I guess is so true! Your boss is cool for having a good sense of humor and not getting affected negatively by that.

Lol, I don't know if I should be glad that you can relate to me or sorry that you're experiencing the same thing too. I do that sometimes, and sometimes I back-sass him and he doesn't even know. But I look like a crazy girl 'cause it's like I'm talking to the laptop. Lol

Thanks for that info, but do those hormones last for weeks? And do they alternately show? Because my boss is sometimes nice, then later on becomes too rude. Have you read my post? If you haven't then you should have so you'd really know my story and what I'm talking about. Anyway, I also considered that maybe he was having problems, but he was constantly like that to me! And there were times when he were nice, then became rude. So I don't really think it has something to do with his personal life or something. I just don't like that he's so rude to me and makes me wait for nothing.

Yes, you said it right! It seems that he doesn't care about his workers and takes us for granted. I really hate it. I really don't know how to talk to him about it. I've tried subtly informing him of his rude actions, but he just disregards it. And he might respond even more rudely if I tell him about it. I just hate it. Anyway, thank you so much for that!

Hi, your English is really good so I completely understood what you said. Anyway, actually the longest time has made me wait was around 2-3 hours, and he never informed me that there was no more work to be done for the day. Yes, I think because he knows that he has the money, he thinks that he can treat me unfairly and rudely. Oh well. Thanks so much for the response! I highly appreciate it.