Does it really matter

Hi gtdonna, You have every right to be upset. Your husband has been lying to you and there is never a good excuse for that. I'd also be tempted to have a little talk with this woman who thinks it is ok to not only go to lunch with your husband but get upset because he is taking you to lunch. It actually sounds kind of suspicious. Why did your husband feel the need to lie about her if taking her to lunch was all innocent? And if it is all innocent, why is she so upset?

oh.. okay. if i was you - i would have gone to where he is taking lunch with this friend of hers and go have lunch with them - 3 is a party! on serious note - i would tell my husband to know his priorities - if that includes me or this friend is more important... needless to say i think he has breached my trust and well... i guess he would have to make it up to me. this friend of him obviously wants him and wants to ruin your relationship, if not he should not insist on her being taken to lunch.. doesn't she has her own husband?!

There is nothing good about lying! Don't get me wrong but if your the wife, your the priority, not that female friend. Opposites attract my dear, even if you said that it was only a friend, but what would others think of if they were seen most of the time, rather than you as the wife, it will never be a good picture. I better suggest you that you have to give your husband a choice to make, or else he will get it. I don't like the sound of that girl having to spend the time with your hubby more than you do. You should make that girl understand that you are the wife and she should hang out to other guys ,not to married men. Something smells fishy if your hubby still insist to give way to his female friend more than you, for me that would be war. But stay cool, just be calm on opening this up to your husband. If he really loves you, he would understand. Its like this, what would he feel if you go out with male friends more than him? is he going to be happy?

Personally speaking, I find that unfair. He does not have to lie in the first place if he is going out with another woman even if he had known the girl for years. You are still the wife and you have all the right to know about his whereabouts. I find it suspicious if he needs to lie about it if there is no malice then there's no need to lie. I hate liars! It loses my trust and at the same time makes me paranoid. I guess you should confront him bout this and let him know what you feel. From there you have to gauge whether he is interested with the girl. But for mi I find it wrong and unjust.

I think it is quite a situation. Your husband it seems is riding two boats and you letting him ride the high horse. Pull him back into your boat, lest his balancing act upsets your boat and you both sink into the quagmire.

I think there is something wrong with the relationship between your husband and his friend. His friend should understand the situation if she is truly his friend but not if she was trying to make a complaint. I think you better do something about it.

That is so wrong!! I would be having some very suspecting thoughts. I would be furious. Have you decided what you are going to do. Maybe you should show up at their lunch date.

Obviously something is going on between your husband and her! It is about time you raise your hand and say "Wait, can I meet that woman so that I could tell to her face that she has no business going out on lunch with you!" Your husband must sense that you are already smelling something fishy. Tell him you are suspicious and he must prove you wrong. If I were in your place, with or without your husband's permission, I will go to the office but I will not make a scandal. I will do every thing to talk with that woman and would make her know that you husband is your husband and you find it not proper that she is still going out with him. Tell her that you will fight for your husband whatever the cost maybe. You can always say those words in a refined and behaved manner without making any scandal but she must feel that you are a strong woman. Let the woman feel you are a fighter and should she not stop seeing your husband, she is bound for something that she will regret for the rest of her life.

Like the majority here I think that there is something fishy going on! This is YOUR husband and this other woman may be his friend but you’re his priority. A husband should not cancel his lunch date with his wife to have lunch with another woman let alone lie about it! I would not be happy about this and I would confront him as soon as possible. Don’t let this go on any further; it’s not fair on you!

Oh no... missus... I think there's something wrong in that picture. Above all else, you should be your husband's priority. That's one our rules. My wife is allowed to go out with her friends. She lets me go do my usual thing, but if it's our day -- there should be no exceptions. When we are at home doing our usual day together and one of our friends call in to invite us, we ask each other first. And if we do get a smirk or a sad face then we so willingly turn down that offer. We are each other's priority... And missus... even if your hubby tells you that he was just performing a simple white lie -- it still ain't acceptable. Besides, you are his wife. You have the right to know where he spends his extra time... and that extra time could have been spent with you.

I think there is something wrong. Maybe you guys should talk about it.

My impression is that there is something going on with them, sorry to say hun. I feel this is greatly wrong. He's making excuses why he cant have lunch with you but he's having lunch with another woman? This is something you two really need to talk about to fix it, or if he doesnt leave her alone ... I can't speak for anyone but myself, I would not do anything like this to my Significant Other, there is absolutly no reason to. I hope for the best for you and that things will work out for the best.

Hi, donna. I don't think it's right for them to eat out together without telling you. I mean, I can accept that my hubby eat out or hang out with his female friends, but this is based on the premise that he must tell me before but not after that. Besides, I don't think I can tolerate their frequent contact with each other, especially one-to-one contact.

this is completely wrong. He should respect y'alls relationship to know this lunch date is important to you. And i'd be damned if he gave her our lunch date because she's upset and wants to eat with him on a day that she knows is for you. Obviously its a issue to her for a reason. And the lying and saying that he gave into her wants is rediculous. Honestly why wouldn't she and him to just choose one of the other six days out the week. Why does she have to eat with him on a day that they both know is suppose to be for you two to have quality time. Sounds real fishy. Guess its time to start playing PI.