Shhh...My Brother is My Boyfriend..
By shenlynn7823
@shenlynn7823 (641)
Philippines
April 27, 2010 8:34am CST
I was sent to the big city to attend college.I was staying in an apartment outside our school with my bestfriend.Our neighbors are not students like us but families,they gossip here & there but really don't care as it's not us they gossiping about.I was on my 3rd year in college when my little brother was send to join me to attend college too,With no resemblance at all,he look like dad,mine is mom's & he's a bit taller and then the gossip started,just imagine hearing this on your face "she is such a bad girl,let her boyfriend lived with her"."Instead of studying,she is doing this immoral things,she is an immoral girl".Just imagine how me & my bestfriend laugh at this,my bro feels bad but told him,let them be,as I will not explain myself as how could they just assume this not even asking what's the truth,gossips continued until my mom came to visit us,my brother being so sweet embraces my mom infront of everyone & loudly told her "mom i miss you,love you"..I was behind them & just imagine all the eyes & mouth wide open upon hearing it.(LOL).The nest day,everybody's smiling at me,greeting me like I am a VIP(very important person).Have you experienced it? what would you do if you were on that situation? would you confront them or do what I did? It happened years back but just thought it might happen again to me or to others.Please share your ideas.Thanks.Happy mylotting!
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24 responses
@JAYMAR777 (840)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
Hahaha. This is very nice. I liked it. I too was assumed that my sister, and also my cousin were my girlfriends. I'm the type that likes to hug, and embrace while in public. My sister looks different too. She is very light complexioned, as well as a very close cousin of mine. Anyway, I just laughed and enjoy it at the same time. I just could imagine how your face looked when they knew about your brother. hahaha
@shenlynn7823 (641)
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
hi jaymar,
thanks,in fact the same as my brother ,he hugs & kiss us even in public.He is just a sweet brother & others take it in a different way.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
27 Apr 10
if its not true then dont let it bother you. when i first got my house i was 21 and one person asked how old i was so i told him, then he asked is that your kids? yes and who's the female your sister ? nope my wife.
but yeah people will do this without knowing the fact. if you hear this again tell them no he's my brother.
some used to think my daughter cousin was her b/f
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@shenlynn7823 (641)
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
hi syankee,
Thanks for your reply! I did not let them bother me & infact they know already.Some people really directly assume without knowing the fact first..have a great day!
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
27 Apr 10
Well done Shenlynn for taking that attitude towards it and not playing their Game
I can well imagine their Faces but again what makes me mad is that none of them apologised
Yes I have known People to gossip and anything would do whether it was true or not as long as they had something to gossip about
@shenlynn7823 (641)
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
Hi Gabs,
Yes ..if you can just see their faces..you will not stop laughing...all mouth wide open...& true although I am expecting it..no one really apologized but they tend to think afterwards that they haven't done anything.
@Aphroditei_5279 (2465)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
It happened to me too and the one I disliked the most, was a remark from a little girl who had a huge crush on my elder brother. She said like with a malicious stare that we were husband and wife. Eeeewwwh!!! That was creepy! I found it disgusting when people assume with just one look that you are husband and wife. But I don't feel ashame to tell them bluntly that what they said is so wrong and so disgusting. And eventually, they feel ashame of their speculations. They should be! So I think the next time you hear something like that, it is always the best to confront those gossips.(^^,)
@Aphroditei_5279 (2465)
• Philippines
30 Apr 10
That was the creepy part. It was coming from a little girl.
But well, it was almost 10 years ago...LOL...I give you two thumbs up for being so brave. And you prioritized your studies instead of getting affected by the gossip or wasted your time on them. I also admire how your brother settled it. Their jaws and eyes must have dropped to ground.
Good for them. I don't like people who spread gossips. (^^,)
But well, it was almost 10 years ago...LOL...I give you two thumbs up for being so brave. And you prioritized your studies instead of getting affected by the gossip or wasted your time on them. I also admire how your brother settled it. Their jaws and eyes must have dropped to ground. Good for them. I don't like people who spread gossips. (^^,)@shenlynn7823 (641)
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
hi aphroditei,
Oh my..just imagine...she is just a little girl & she acts like that...I am actually not ashamed of them but instead since I am more focus on my studies rather than dealing with them..I let them be coz I know they will really come to know the truth and I want to let them have a taste of their own medicine...
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@sunnycool (12714)
• India
27 Apr 10
Sad that people conclude real faster when it comes to boy and a girl---they never care to give it a second thought before gossiping.I liked the way your brother hugged your mom lol that must have been more of a shock to your neighbours .I have never been in such situation though---i wouldnt mind clarifying their doubts 
.great day.
.I have never been in such situation though---i wouldnt mind clarifying their doubts .great day.1 person likes this
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
28 Apr 10
Gossips can affect ones life and it is the cause of fights also. My mother also got in to trouble because our neighbor spreading gossips which is not totally true. My mother are blaming by our neighbor that she is the one who are spreading the gossips which is not true. She confronted and told them that she is not interfering with their life and she don't have time to listen to gossips. Ignore them and confront that they have dirty mind. They don't have a right to ruin your life because of gossips.
@hora_fugit (5862)
• India
29 Apr 10
Me and my sister are in different colleges and live at different places in the same city. She being my elder sister, I go to her every now and then. Recently when I met an accident and couldn't go there, she started visiting me. As girls are not allowed in the hostel, we used to sit in college campus. And almost everyone who passed us had expressions like "Oh so you are sitting with your girlfriend! how smart". Neither of us liked it, but we just laughed it off. Poor souls, what can they do. Probably they never heard there are brothers and sisters in this world too!
Amazing people!
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
5 May 10
Hi, shenlynn7823. I am sorry that people have misjudged you. You don't have to explain yourself to them. Let them think whatever they want to think. People are just gossipers that want something juicy to talk about. Don't give into them. Let them believe what they choose to believe. The real truth will come out without you having to explain yourself.
@Lena25 (51)
• United States
1 May 10
I am so happy you didn't confront them. I am so glad you let it go and made them look like real idiots. I bet they don't know what to say to you. This should teach them a very good lesson such as keep your nose out of other people business. Oh, I would have loved to have seen the look on there faces. That should teach them if they just spent that amount of time minding their own business, they wouldn't have no time trying to mind someone elses.
@eurekafemme (5876)
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
Hello, Shenlyn.:-)
I was on that same situation years ago with my younger brother. I was never sociable and my neighbors thought that I am a daughter of a relative instead of my parents.
I came to the city to study and when I returned to the province for a vacation this awkward thing happened. My brother and I was walking towards home with his arm on my shoulders. He is bigger and taller than I am and we don't have similarities at all. There were two gals walking behind us and one of them said aloud that " She is his wife". My brother just laughed and I kept quiet. We did not even bother to explain. My brother, a natural silly guy, acted extra sweet on me to tease the two gals behind us. The two gals were so convinced that we were couples.
Some of his friends in town thought that I was his other woman, too. My brother and I did not bother to explain. For us, let them think what they want to. We know the truth. :-)
@lixiaoyan (178)
• China
23 Jul 10
Haha ,that is really funny,my little brother is always my bf.I am thin,not tall,many peopele regard me as a high school student,in fact ,I am going to have my college graduated,so you know I am very"young"haha.And my brother is handsome ,tall and strong.So when we go out to dinner,shopping or sporting,many people will think that we are gf and bf.But people here don't like gossip,they will talk to us by saying that you can ask your gf for her ideas,or what else does your bf need,or sir,buy a flower to your gf and so on.
I and my brother just take these for fun,sometimes we will wear the same cloth and go out on purpose.So just let it go ,do not let the gossip impact on your life.
Be happy.
@climber7565 (2579)
• United States
17 May 10
You thought them a good lesson LOL. I tend to confront people to mind their business. I am rather private too and so don't like anyone nosing in. I could care less about what other people think about me or say about me, but get on my bad side and I am liable to open can of wip as...s
@climber7565 (2579)
• United States
17 May 10
You thought them a good lesson LOL. I tend to confront people to mind their business. I am rather private too and so don't like anyone nosing in. I could care less about what other people think about me or say about me, but get on my bad side and I am liable to open can of wip as...s
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
28 Apr 10
When my dad and I are out with my kids people automatically assume him to be my husband. One weekend my dad had to work and asked me to keep an eye out for a man coming to pick his vehicle up. This man kept referring to my dad as my husband. Also the UPS man was curious as to why I didn't have my husbands last name also talking about my dad. It kind of makes me mad because I know I don't look anywhere near my dads age but they never stop to consider maybe I'm his daughter since obviously I'm much younger that maybe to them I look extremely old or something. I understand the thinking when they see us out with my kids but when I'm not it doesn't make much sense. I just keep quiet about it though even though I want to scream at them.
@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
28 Apr 10
Hahahaha! I don't have any stories like that, thankfully. There are indeed a lot of people that doesn't seem to have anything to do with their lives but to gossip all day. I can't imagine their expression when they realized that you were siblings rather than lovers. LOL.
@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
28 Apr 10
I am smiling reading your post. That is very good smack to the faces of those gossipers in your neighbors.
I've been in that situation, but I also handle it just like you do. I never bother and even dont mind what they are talking about towards me. Until one day they came to realize what they are talking about is not true. So I just told them, next time be careful of what you are talking about. Lesson learned I hope.
@sofabnnn (109)
• Philippines
28 Apr 10
I have the same story. My brother is older than me and we don't look alike. Most of my friends even in high school is saying that he looks like a boyfriend to me. But no, definitely no! As long as you don't mind the people around you then it's fine. No worries for them. They just want to gossip.
@DuyenN (68)
• Canada
28 Apr 10
That's quite an entertaining story. I was kind of weary to read on because of that topic line...I seriously thought you were serious. Lol. Well I'm glad that's over!
I have people gossip about me all the time! It's no big deal. Let them talk. They're bored and be glad that you're their source of entertainment!
I have people asking me if my daughter is my little sister, with a smile on their faces, but when I told them,"...no that's my kid," their faces fell. It's like they never saw a young woman with a kid before.
@panagdato (48)
• Philippines
28 Apr 10
I have an experience with that also but in a different way. When me and my sister were in the mall shopping together. We are sometimes gazed by people and some of them were schoolmates of my sister. When my sister went to school the next day they asked her if that was her boyfriend. Of course my sister laughs out loud and told them I'm her brother.
