would yuo give up your right in your sons religion?
By bdazzled
@bdazzled (132)
Philippines
April 27, 2010 10:04am CST
i have been married to a muslim for over 2 years now.. but last year his family is pushing that our son should be a muslim.. being a mom who grew up on a catholic family/community i find it hard to accept that they are denying me of my rights for my childs religion.. if you are in my situation what would you do?
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
28 Apr 10
Though I am not very religious myself, this situation looks like a push coming to a shove! I’m OK with everybody practicing their own religion without imposing it on others and in mixed religious families, kids should ideally be exposed to all the different religions that each family member practices, and then leave it to the kid to decide his/her religion as an adult. I feel that would be a wonderful opportunity to build good humans with respect for all religions and love for everybody around.
However, if I was in your situation, I’d NEVER give up my right to ‘impose’ my religion on my son…if my in-laws and hubby are so insensitive and parochial that they want to mould a baby to their religion right from the beginning, then as a mother I feel that I should have the right first…if all religions are equal, then by giving up that right myself, I’m actually demeaning my own religion, my own upbringing, my own parents and family and my own set of values and beliefs.
Though I might sound like the doomsday prophecy, I feel your marriage is going to be very badly affected if you stick to your stand…even then, it would be worth as far as I’m concerned.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
28 Apr 10
From the fact that you have only been married for two years I'm assuming that your son is still a baby or a toddler at the most. If that is the case and you don't live with your in-laws You have a good number of years in which to influence your son with the religion you want to teach him. You are the closest person to him. He will be relying on you for at least the first 5 to six years of his life. They are the most important years for his learning. did you and your husband discuss what religion Your children would be taught? If so then your husband should stick to what you decided.
@spiderlizard22 (3444)
• United States
27 Apr 10
Let your son decide which religion to choose if he chooses a religion at all. Don't let your spouse's family pressure you into converting your son into a muslim. Your son should be allowed to choose to be a muslim or not.
@benny128 (3615)
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27 Apr 10
well it is neither you or your partners right to decide on your son religion.
He has the right to choose whether he is religious or not, and also what religion he follows am afraid.
So both parties need to let the son decide for himself when he is old enough to make a decision.
Likewise if he decides to not be religious then the parents will have to respect that.
So that's my view point and I am a single dad of 3.