Why do people have to lie and cheat when truth is a guilt free option?

I always feel that honest is the best policy. Last week while i was sitting in the waiting room for an appointment. I was told repeatedly that the person i had a 12 noon appointment with is on her way and will be here ina few minutes. I waited almost 2hrs. All the while being repeatedly assured the she would be there any minute. I was hungry and the weaher was bad. I dont have a auto and was concerned about getting in the shelter of my residence before the on coming storm brokeout. It was an important meeting so i had to wait. But at least if i had know it was going to take awhile i could have stepped out and gotten something to eat. I get headaches if im hungry too long.

I think the answer to that lies in the fact that most are scared to face the consequences. What they do not realise is that the escapism attitude gets the situation to be much worse than it could be. A recent instance which i came across in the office turned out to be just that. A colleague would never present himself in the office for a few weeks and whenever contacted would say that he was out on field work and on duty. A few days ago my boss asked him the same question and he mentioned that he was at the airport. On verification with another colleague there it turnedout to be false. He lost his job on this account. The truth was that he had some personal problems, which he so easily could have put forth and requested some time for. But by not doing so he lostt the trust of the management and they were not inclined to believe anything he said. I get irritated and irked when I find out that someone is lying. Say the truth, face it, if you have done something wrong rather than lie and then another lie upon lie. That's what i try and advise people who have tried lying to me.

Hi Mimpi! You have made a very valid point. It has become a routine affair for some of the people to tell lies, specially on mobile phones, where the caller on the other side cannot ascertain about their location. I think some people tell a lie to cover up their mistakes and errors and they want to prove to others that they are flawless. They assume that others are not going to catch their lies, I think they are mistaken. They forget that no one is perfect and we tend to commit mistakes and errors, at one point of time or the other. There is nothing wrong in 'admitting' a mistake and coming out with truth. The truth may look bitter for a while, but in the long run it will stand and it will prevail. There is an old saying - "to cover up a lie, one will have to tell hundred lies". Those who habitually lie and cheat forget that they will be caught sooner or later. And once you have framed an opinion about any of your friends/relatives/acquaintances that s/he is in the habit of telling lies, even if s/he tells a true story, you will look him/her with suspicion and may not believe him/her. I on my part try not to tell unnecessary lies and do not 'cheat' anyone. I admit my mistake rather than covering the same with some lies. Have a great day! Deepak

Hi Mimpi dear!(^^,) Well, I think people lies because it is easier to lie than to tell the truth. But the consequences and repercussions are worst than that of telling the truth. And sometimes, people are in a state of denial where sometimes lying becomes the truth for them. And yes, it becomes a very bad habits and hurts other people. I am a very keen observer and in my past relationships. I could tell when they were lying. So sometimes, I think as women we know when someone is lying to us. But yet, we're still trying to reassure ourselves that the people we most love and trust, would never lie to us. And we said things like, "If you lie to me...". So it doesn't make saying truth that easier either. And no matter how the truth is delivered. It hurts. But I rather hear the truth even if it hurts. At least, I will know what to do than being fed lies of hollow happiness. (^^,)

I agree that it is better to tell the truth when it is just as expedient, rflol. I mainly tell the truth because it is much easier to remember than a lie and when someone like that doctor gets "caught" in a lie, then his credibility (or hers) is lost forever. That is another good reason for truth telling. That and that it is simply the right thing to do.

I always wonder what's gonna happen with those who we lied to, you know...I mean yeah, we lied. But there's a justification to that Unless you have a REALLY good reason to be lying at that exact moment, (let's say that the person cant react properly upon facing certain circumstances) then you shouldnt be doing it, it's just wrong. For me a guilt-free white lie is a lie which you explain later on, for a pretty damn good reason, because until the person understands that you lied because you cared and you wanted the best out of the situation, you'd just end up hurting someone and end it up with vengeance. my 2 cents

I don't know about the others but I do not lie and cheat Mimpi. Wait a minute I am not trying to paint an angel here.I do not lie because I am so lazy to remember the lie and maintain it. I don't cheat because I am so soft that I can bear the pricking of the so called conscience. May be I prefer a hassle free life. I am rude at times but honest. I do not cheat as a resulted become one of the best sucker ever known. But I know that I am happy they way I always wanted to be.

Very true, that is what I still don't understand when people do this when in fact they already know the consequences of liars, you know where the next sentence would go.... They would fake stories and tell lies but you can easily pin them down because there are evidences that points out they did the opposite of what they are claiming. Isn't it not enough for someone to stop lying, yet the next week they will do the same thing to others. For them it was so easy to do that not realizing the result, i really feel pity for those family friends of mine on what they still do regardless of how we remind them about the Word of God. One day all of us will stand on the Great Judge, nothing can be hidden from Him.

Sometimes we lie not because we are liars..example, I have a friend whose parents are overprotective. She doesn`t feel comfortable with her life, she is forced to keep her job because it is close from home while my friend wants to try different opportunity. She told the truth that she got an offer from an institution other than her previous office, but her parents got angry. She tried to convince her parents, but not work out. Now, she has to pretend that she still works at her previous office. She can`t stand that any longer, but she doesn`t know what to do. She wants to tell the truth, but she`s afraid of her parents and sister`s anger, because her family can monitor her if she worked close from home.That`s the example that there are some factors that make people tell a lie.

I also couldn't think why we people chose to lie than to tell the truth, as we all know, telling lies wont make us free from burden. I admit that I also tell lies to hid something and i was escaping from things that scared me. I dont have a choice sometimes but if I analyze it more, I will think that it is more fine if Im going to tell the truth.

Quite often when a person feels lying is their only option they have a reason behind it. This reason quite often is fear, fear of being discovered. Fear in general. Sometimes people fear the truth because they are aware of the conquances. It can sometimes get you in trouble, but at the time, that's not exactly going through the other person's mind. They get by one day at a time using this method. Perhaps guilt will consume them, sometimes it doesn't. Depends on the person actually.

Lying doesn't really help people but most times people don't like to understand the fact that am still held up behind maybe in my office attending to some important matter because i could get to the board meeting...that just an instance, i think the doctor lied to the patient who wanted to see him privately outside of his office because he was still quite busy and maybe the caller had called more than two times, so why people lie at such instance is because they need time and time is against them.

hello my friend mimpi people do cheat and steal i dont know why they do it dont know why they do it dont understand why they feel to do it dont get but someone who does that uses their brain a lot they just implement it perfectly ok bye happy mylotting

Some people Lie because they needed it.White lies can be good or can be bad. They lie for others sake.Some lies for themselves to save them to the sins that can cause harm to them.They cheat because they are looking for something enough for them or think they need someone who is more then qualified for their standards.

There is two expressions that came to mind when I was reading your discussion. One being "Tell the truth and there's less to remember" and secondly, never say anything that you won't be able to admit or be ashamed of later on. Have a nice day

hi mimpi Me too . I hate lying as once you start telling a lie,even if its nothing but a white lie you may have to string this along,and its not worth it. I always try to avoid white lies although I will not purposely hurt anyones feelings but the truth is so easy and you do not have to fudge around. someone asks me if that dress is becoming on them and it looks horrible I will say the colors great but that print makes you look tired and ill, thats the wrong style for you. I do not have to say its the ugliest thing i have seen, thats cruel. Telling the truth leaves you free from wondering how to keep on with a white lie. You just need to couch the truth in kind terms is all.Tell the truth always and people will trust you, lie a few times and nobody will know when you are telling the truth and when you are lying or stretching the truth. Even as a child I was not into telling lies and never got spanked for telling the truth, but once when I lied up a storm, I got punished as they knew all the time I was lying. Never spanked but I lost some privileges and that hurt worse than a spanking.

I think all of us had made lies whatever it is...small lies...big lies and other types of lies. Each of us has their reasons too of doing it. I could not honestly say that by saying a while lies it is right but sometimes there are things that never be spoken or given a chance to shine in the open because it would destroy peoples lives,friendships and relationships. If lying is the only choice left for me to do to protect myself and my family i will not hesitate to do it. I may have the tendency to lie over and over again I will still do it but I will try not to make a habit out of it because it's not good after all.

Lying is addictions. It's the feeling of getting one over an something that people get off on. Yeah telling the truth is much easier at the end of the day. Everybody knows that.Some people can't help themselves because they are just so used to not telling the truth. Sad really. I have a couple of friends like that. Gets really annoying when you need information from them.

It is always better to "come clean", as you state, and simply tell the truth. And, again, as you say the spirit of speaking truth must be right; thus speak the truth in love. Lying is foolish and only compounds the wrongdoing, driving it into darkness, letting it fester. "Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to decieve." Once one starts lying, it becomes an "established pattern of conduct" or habit, and a bad one at that. And once you start doing it, and think you have "gotten away with it", it becomes easier and easier to lie. Sooner or later you start even lying to yourself. Then, of course, you also have to "juggle" your lies in order to keep them hidden or, perhaps , wind up paying millions of dollars of taxpayer money to keep your lies from being revealed. It's just dirty and stupid. Oops, maybe you'll even become a corrupt politician! I don't know what most people could possibly think they have to gain by lying, especially the kind of totally unnecessary kind of lie you describe. Remember "the boy who cried wolf"? Why risk the trust of others by betraying their trust in you? There's a world of hurt involved. Remember, folks, Satan is the Father of Lies. He's JUST NOT a "nice guy", but one who comes to kill, steal, and destroy. And those who subscribe to his practices and follow in his "footsteps" are not nice guys either. Case in point: Just look what a lying deceiver has done to our nation!

I honestly have no idea. Lieing really gets to me because I never know when their telling the truth or not. And cheating, I dislike that a whole lot. My dad cheated on my mom twice so I wuld never date a guy again if he cheated on me. Dont you think once is enough.