Its hard to be good but its easy to be bad..

I'm much like you. I rarily get mad...or I should say I rarily express my anger. I usually am the mediator, the listener, the one trying to resolve disputes, etc. Sometimes, I wish I could speak my mind like others seem to do so easily. But I never want to hurt people's feelings...I can't stand arguments/loud voices. But all in all, I'd rather be this way, than a loud mouth, know-it-all...

Hi Cloud Up untill 3 years ago I always let People walk all over me, I let them hurt me and I let them lead my Life It nearly destroyed me in the end Now I will stand up for myself, I have to, because of that no one walks over me any more, yes People still hurt me but I can deal with it now You are right what you said People who are bad think they are so clever but they are not Big Hugs

I am also like this...I like everyone and am an open and friendly type of person...I believe the saying "the nice guy finishes last" Everyone seems to like the ones that gossip and treat others poorly...I don't understand why this is but I treat others how I want to be treated-nicely

Its pretty hard to believe someone in this virtual world prettie----every thing seems to be real good but you would never know who is trying to take advantage of you being good---people can be so caring(they can enact well) that they can lure you easily.Coming to me i do have some tactics to confirm if the one i'm chatting with or interested in or loving is not lying to me---i do consider each and every word of their's which would help me to categorise if they're loyal enough or not .Whilst handling offline friends i do not have regrets in having them.Hope i'm not wrong in the aspect you're well aware of

Ok IJ, i am shocked. You don't have to be good always. Be bad for a change, that will do you good. I will help you along. TATA.

I had a feeling you were a good person :) I was raised to be good. To always tell the truth. To always do what my parents told me to do. To never steal and to never talk back. I learned from my mother how to have a good heart. To be there to listen, to offer advice, to take care of the people around me. However I went thru a phase shortly after being an adult and moving out of my parent's house where I was pretty bad. I did a lot of things that hurt myself. I did all the things I shouldn't. Maybe just to see if I could do it. Maybe to see how it felt. I'm not happy about those things and I regretted them for some time. In time, I've learned to make peace with those things I did. To learn from the mistakes and be a better person. In the end I found it was easy to be bad but not easy to handle how guilty I felt afterwards. And because of the guilt, I'd never intentionally do something bad again. I'd rather help the people around me. I guess I'm just good at heart and shouldn't try to be anything else.

I find it very hard to be good when people keep taking you as granted. I like to help people but then I end up being tagged 'stupid' and someone you could easily use. It angered me a lot and now I don't even try to be pleasing. I do just what is right. If niceties are needed fine else no. Sometimes I fall back on being nice one but then it's not long before I get a rude awakening. Still I'm not being 'bad' I hope. good= stupid, bad= clever. I hate this mentality especially when people brag about their 'cleverness' which was outright criminal. World is not fair, they would say. Yes, and that's so because of people like them!

when you are good they see you as coward because you allow someone to step on you when you know inside you that is nothing. and you don't want to waste time of stupid accusations. When you are good you are forgiving. I am not always good. I can say I am good at first but if one person hurted me so bad that he or she don't care what I have felt I can still forgive them but they can't rely on me for help. How can I help those people who can't appreciate me in the first place. And in the first place again, I believe they have a thick skin if they will ask my help after what he or she done to me. When you are bad they think you are strong. Because you could be able to hurt someone intended or not, you still had the success of hurting someone. You are very confident and people move away from you from having a strong character. When you say you are good, you are good. It became hard when people disrespect and do not understand you. Because people are all different. Some people's thought on bad people, if you can't stop them, join them.

I think people who have a heart and are basically good people are always going to be hurt by others because of this. It is just the way it is. People seem to take advantage of good people. I think a good person needs to stay good and alittle bad doesn't hurt but not to get in the habit. For me I am honest and sometimes hurt others because I just say it like it is and am not real tactful about it.

hi cloud, we both of us having common wishes and common in everything,i am the person to help others,i am the person forgive others mistakes,i am the person to fulfill others wishes,if others worry is more than my worry i will help them first,mostly i do not hurt any people,but everything what we do is according to the fate and luck only,have a nice day

Unfortunately, in this world, there are a lot of selfish people out there. I like to have conversations with complete strangers, but depending on where in the world you are, most people are standoffish. They are untrusting. I used to hand out in coffee shops in my college days before the internet. It was fun. We had conversations. We "hung." The other day, my bf took me to a coffee shop and I felt happy, but isolated. Most people there were on their mac books typing while eating and one guy had his headphones on with the computer. Only 2-3 were actually talking to each other face to face. I fear that people are becoming unaccustomed to communicating face to face. In the next generation, I fear that our sole interaction will be online. Please don't change who you are, but just don't extend your giving nature to just anybody-make them prove themselves to you as a trusted friends. The best way to do this is to see if they will loan you some money. Only a true friend would do that. I know some people claim they don't loan money to friends because it can ruin a friendship-well, that's only if the person doesn't pay you back. My best friend just gave me $90 one time because I needed money. She never asked for it back. Also, a true friend will help you out when you really need it. I have this one "friend" who always promises to visit me, but never does. He knows I do not own a car, and he has a car. Sure, he lives about an hour away, but he has a car. I don't consider him a real friend, although he is fun to talk to. I used to work with him and he made me laugh, but he's a bit of a flake.

Hi Cloud! You don't have to be bad for others not to think you are stupid. Being good is not that you are stupid, and besides you don't need to please anyone and conform to their way of thinking, be who exactly you are. Remain sweet and humble.

it takes a life time to build character but it takes just a few seconds to shatter it. thats what i was said. but to me we cannot help being good, it is like a habit to many of us, i mean even though we are rude at times, times when we are really in a difficult situation, we are good. but sometimes we have to be bad, it is the only way we can get some things done.

yeah it is really hard to be good at all times but we know that being bad is not good... avoiding to do bad things will make us good.. hahah

Hello there cloud!! Well I think you don't have to change something about yourself..if you are a good person you will always be a good person even if you try to be bad to others it will not work trust me it will be seem so unnatural because it won't last your heart will melt soon..I've been there cloud I think you should increase the level of your limitations with others just to protect yourself..you will not harm them by just ignoring them and they could never harm you as well..and be conscious with someone's behavior too just try to read if he/she is true to you.. Have a nice day..

cloud31 just be your kind good self, being bad is not at all necessary. Of course do not let people mistreat you as that is not being bad, that is upholding your goodness really. some p eople do not really want to be bad, but they just do not take the extra steps that a totally good person does to keep on being a good person and doing good things. It is easy to be u nkind and ungrateful but what does it gain that person, surely they do not get any happiness out of being bad, and pretty soon people learn not to trust them and do not even want to be around them. So there they are all along in their badness, and that to me is very sad and they just did it to themselves. no stay a good person but do defend your right to be who you are, a good person striving to stay that way but also one not to be pushed around, a strong good person.

hi cloud,people love good persons.they always admire them in their heart.They call them stupid and foolish because of their goodness somebody hurts them.Its only on mouth that they call them stupid but only persons they admire and love are people like you.They can never trust persons they call clever they only trust people they call stupid.

I totally understand where you're coming from as I also tend to sacrifice what I need and prioritize other people. It's a nice feeling to be able to help others but it doesn't hurt to also value ourself after all we deserve it.

my dear cloud, Never depart yourself from what you have learned and for what you are right now,never goes beyond your mind to be able to change yourself for the will of others.Stay as you are remember you are not here in this world to please other to let others recognized your good deeds,let it leave with you always.We care about you!

I'll admit I do feel good when I'm bad. (sometimes) I too have always been the 'good girl'. My parents even tell people that I never req'd discipline as kid... I have always just been good. But, that is only b/c I am an expert at not getting caught. :) Now, I don't go out of my way to be mean to people or anything, but sometimes in order to get something done, one has to break the system.