it is in pardoning that we are pardoned...

Justice was never intended to put wrong doers behind bars. It's all about forgiving like you just said. See that if you employ the 'tooth for a tooth' philosophy, we would have been eradicated from the very face of the earth.Cause we all have fallen short of the glory of God, and have done that demeaning act(s), that we sweep under the mat and hold others accountable for. We can lash out and lash back at those that "deserve justice". But ultimately everyone would have canceled out one of his own, resulting in extinction. Everyone has a tiff against our "neighbors", and they have one with us too if you notice. We were created as forgiving beings and live in humility. Forgiveness has a power that surpasses all others. I know forgiving is a lame term to some who are grieving over the loss of their loved ones. But that's is where the real challenge lies. Forgive and forget.... Please don't think that I am exaggerating here, cause I too have been subjected to a similar instance. But I must confess recuperating from the shock is time consuming. but when you see it, forgiveness does make things lighter for your heart and your ego.

Sometimes, emotions can't be controlled and we tend to do things out of hand. The wise thing to do here is just think for a moment what the outcome will be. Not just think of it, imagine it happening if ever you take matters into your own hands. Then snap out of it and think again if you still want to do it.

It's sometimes tempting to get even. It's easier to cut other people a little slack when we recognise our own slip ups.