Do you think quarrels in a relationship makes it better?

people say"from an exchange of blows friendship grows",sometimes even strangers of each other are so. and persons in relationship which won't be dashed to the grand always show themselves in a shelterless way.so they can become closer to each other.

It amazes me how some people feel as though when they argue or there relationship is filled with drama, then that means they love more. The relationship is healthy or more exciting. They love eachother so much that they can point out each other's differences and flaws. I can't help but to think that people who think like have yet to encounter a healthy relationship. Yes it is very important to point out a problem with in the relationship. But it's just as important to go about it in a positive way. You can point out your partners flaws and differences with out getting into some huge arguement. Lets not forget that no one is perfect. We all have flaws and because we are individuals, we won't always see eye to eye. But that's expected. What makes your relationship stronger and more satisfying is how you handle those situations. Barking at each other or disrespecting each other in an arguement by saying unnecessary things in the heat of an arguement doesn't show that you love stronger or more than other couples, or your relationship is more exciting, it just shows that your relationship is a drama filled one. The relationship has no communication skills and/or misery loves company!! When you are in a healthy relationship that is loving and bright, it means that you are able to have a discussion about what ever the issue is about. You both are able to sit down and listen to eachother with out judging or criticizing. But instead listen to one another and compromise. Reach an understanding to move foward in a positive way. To me that is the only way to go. Have quarrels in a relationship will eventually lead to a seperation or being in a relationship that you will never be at your happiest!

I think the beauty of the relationship is the totality of it. I always believe that what makes the relation grow is the daily nourishment of it, not the problems or the troubles, nor the quarrels that sometimes comes with it. It is very important to nourish it, it is needed to face the trials in life.

Not all the time, though. Arguments can be a sign of a healthy relationship as these may mean they are comfortable enough to state their opinions and not feel offended if their beliefs don't always match. If they quarrel too often, they can also get hurt. And it does not always work for every relationship. Some relationships are peaceful, quiet, and more like a walk in the park and it works for them. Some don't always have fireworks in the sky for them, and it works for them.

I don't know if I would say better....my husband and I have been together 20 years..and all I have to say...is that life would of been boring if we ALWAYS agreed

A quarrel is a quarrel.Quarrel starts with a misunderstanding or for some selfish motives. What ever it is quarrels may not bring close the relationships. Even if that is done it may go on for some time but again erupts and again the separation takes place. I have experienced so many cases in my life.