Do you See Physical Attraction in relationships.....??

It takes a loving selfless wife,a beautiful daughter and a happy family with lots of incidents and experiences in life to find an answer to this question. It dawns on every one that the physical attraction has no relevance to true affection and love at one point of another in the life time. The time it takes may differ from person to person.But it sure happens Arun.

It seems your friend gives more importance to physical appearance than his cousin does. But you said both are men here, isn't it? Are you sure there wasn't some rivalry or something that led to such things? I am not too sure men avoid other men be they friends or cousins, just because of changes in physical appearance. It may be more than that. After all, your friend doesnt have to live with this person for lifetime! The same would not be true if it were a spouse!

hi arunmails the inner person, the personality the character were more important to me in my few relationships. My husband was not ugly at all, but not really handsome but to me he was as his inner being was truly beautiful and his personality was so sunny and charming and laid back. I am glad your poor cousin has his friends at least. Or is the cousin a girl anyway people should look beyond the outer surface as that fades intime but the goodness of a person a nd kindness and great personality outshine outer beauty.

If the relation is based on physical attraction then it means its gonna be not a life long one. As any beautiful or ugly person physique will change upon time. So love one true heartedly.

Physical attraction at the start of the relationship is normal. But after several days of being together, sharing hopes and dreams, loving each other's flaws, I really don't think it is important anymore. That's the part when what we saw before on the surface becomes to fall off until we are all left loving the "true person" the persona behind what they eyes can see. Things that we cannot see.

Looks shouldn't matter, but sometimes they just do. We can't help it. As for your friend, maybe he avoids his cousin because it's too painful to look at the scars and not because this person is no longer beautiful? I've never had a good relationship with my father and he got very very ill. Over the years his looks went away. I never talked to him much to begin with but now that he looks like a skeleton and not like the man I knew, I don't see him often. It's just too painful to look at. It's not that he's no longer a handsome man. It just hurts to be reminded how sick he is... Maybe it's like that? As for physical attraction when it comes to a lover... well when I love someone they become beautiful to me, no matter what. My partner has put on a few pounds and he's losing his hair but I still think he's gorgeous :)

Hm, let's see, handsome wife beater or homely but kind man. I pick the wife beater! NOT. No, attraction isn't the most important thing.

No I rarely look at people, when I meet someone I get feelings about them and that is how I recognize them and relate to them. I would be no good in a line up if I had to identify someone by the way they look. Of course I notice if they look very different from the rest of us, but I soon forget their looks even then. I like you because of who you are inside not on the outside.

Hi arundmails: I don't judge because it's really hard to watch a person after having an accident like that. Some people can't afford to look at someone's face after that. I think Physical Attraction exists but it's not all. Love is more than that, love makes people do some things for the good of the person they love and not only for pleasure. I think it's selfish to left someone you say you love because of an accident that makes him/her change, but as I said before, I prefer not tojudge. Thanks for asking us this difficult question. Alvaro.

Sometimes it really is important. Some people want to like what they see. That is why.